DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR?

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So The Last Guy You Dated Turned Out To Be A Self-Centered Jerk Who
Ended Up Cheating On You While You Were Making Plans To Move In With
Him As A Prelude To Marriage. This Time You Are Not Going To Settle
For Less, And The Good News Is That The Guy You Just Started Dating
Has Everything You're Looking For:

1• Nice Guy. Check.
2• Well Built. Check.
3• Intelligent. Check.
4• Successful. Check.
5• Good Looking. Check.
6• Age Appropriate. Check.
7• Religiously Compatible. Check.
8• Wants To Get Married And Have Kids. Check.

After A Three-Week Courtship, He Even Asks You To Be His Girlfriend
And Says He Wants To Have A Committed And Monogamous Relationship With
You. Fantastic! You Say Yes Amid High Hopes That He Could Be The One
You've Been Looking For, The One With Whom You Can Finally Settle
Down.

And There You Are The Following Weekend, Sitting Next To Him On His
Couch The Entire Day Watching Football With His Friends Before Going
Out On The Boat To Be Surrounded By A Large Group Of People.

Yawn.

What Happened?

What Happened Is That You Were So Eager To Find Someone- And SO
Focused On The External Checlist- That You Forgot Some Important
Items:

1• Emotionally Available.
2• Wants To Spend Time Alone With You.
3• Enjoys One-On-One Conversations.

The First Item Is A Reccuring Theme In All My Columns And I Could
Write A Whole Book About It (Actually, I Did). But The Last Two Are
Just As Important And Not As Obvious. And All Three Of Them Boil Down
To Whether This IS A Person Who Even Knows How To Have A Deeper
Relationship.

You Might Ask Yourself The Same Questions. Are You Emotionally
Available? Do You Want To Spend Time Alone With Your Partner? Are You
Comfortable With One-On-One Conversation?

Bottom Line Is That You Need To Be Careful What You Wish For.

Put Another Way, Make Sure You're Precise Enough When You Put Your
Order In With The Universe. Because The Universe Is Very Literal And
Has A Very Ironic Sense Of Humour.

You May Just Get All The Qualities You Asked For. And None Of The Ones
You Didn't.

Have You Thought About What's Most Important To You In A Partner?

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOUR JEALOUSY HAVE GONE TOO FAR?

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Jealousy Will Make You Crazy. When You Are In Its Grip The Feeling Is
Almost Unbearable. It Can Make You Physically Sick And Unable To Focus
On Anything Else. Jealousy Will Compel You To Do Things You Will Later
Regret And You Can Never Take Back. Jealousy Can Single Handedly
Destroy A Good Relationship•
If You Have A Boyfriend Or Husband That Openly Flirts With Other Women
Or Whom You Know Is Cheating, You Would Have To Be Made Of Stone Not
To Feel Hurt And Betrayed. Here Jealousy Is A Natural Response. But
When Jealousy Is Self-Created, Unrelated To Reality, It Acts Like A
Poison That Takes Over Your Life AND Destroys Your Self-Esteem. The
Jealousy I'm Refering To Is Based On Fear, Not On Fact, A Green
Monster That You Create Out Of Your Own Imagination•
I Have Worked With Many Women Who Make Excuses For Their Jealous
Behaviour. They Try To Justify The Actions They Take When They Spy On
Their Men As If They Are Not Responsible For Their Jealousy. But The
Truth Is Jealousy Feels Bad. It Is Unattractive And Kills The LOVE In
A Relationship.
HAS YOUR JEALOUSY GONE TOO FAR?
It Has If:
1• You Find Yourself Constantly Checking Up On Your Man's Facebook Or
Twitter Page.
2• You Can't Stop Yourself From Checking His Call History And
Listening To His Phone Messages Behind His Back
3• You Constantly Call Or Text Him During The Day Just To Find Out Where He Is.
If You Said Yes To Even One Of These Questions, You Are In Trouble.
When You Start Messing Around In Your Man's Personal Business, You
Have Lost Control Of Your Dignity And Your Pride. Your Relationship
Now Lacks One Of The Most Important Qualities It Needs To Thrive
Trust. Even If He Gives You A Reason To Be Suspicious, You Are Still
Responsible For How You Behave In The Relationship.
So What Can You Do To Get Rid Of The Jealousy That Is Sucking The
Energy And Happiness Out Of Your Life? yOU Have To Attack Jealousy At
Its Root. Jealousy Is About How You Feel About You More Than How Your
Man Feels About You. If You Find Yourself Obsessing On His Life And
What He's Doing It's A Sure Sign You Are Not Paying Attention To Your
Own.

If You Think Your Man Is More Interested In Other Women Than He Is In
You, It Can Mean You Think They Are More Worthy Of His Interest Than
You Are. If You Are Attracted To Your Man, You Will Believe That Other
Women Are As Well And That Can Be Scary, Especially If You Doubt Your
Own Value. You Can Find Yourself In A Downward Spiral Where It Seems
Every Other Woman Is More Attractive And More Interesting Than You
Are. By This Time You Have Lost Yourself.

SO HOW DO YOU CHANGE YOUR IRRATIONAL FEELINGS OF JEALOUSY?

You Have To Take Your Eyes Off Him And Start To Work On You. It's
Important That You Face The Challenge Of Taking Control Of Yourself
Before It Destroys Your Chance For Love.

Take Positive Actions That Will Increase Your Feelings Of Self-Worth.
The Only Way To Feel Good About You Is By Doing Things That Make You
Feel Proud; That Bring You Self-Respect. That Is The Exact Opposite Of
What You Have Been Doing. It Feels Terrible To Snoop And Sneak Into
Someone Else's Life. Negative Actions Bring With Them Negative
Emotions, So You End Up Feeling Guilt, Remorse And Shame•

Your Feeling About Your Man Will Always Be A Reflection Of How You
Feel About You. IF You Don't Trust Yourself You Can't Trust The Man In
Your Life If You Cannot Love Yourself, You Will Not Believe That You
Are Loved.

Pay Attention To What You Need To Do To Make Your Life More Fulfilling
And Satisfying And Start Doing It. You Will Find Your Mind Now
Occupied With Good Thoughts About You And Your Value As A Woman. You
Will See Things More Dearly And Invite Into Your Life A New Sense Of
Well Being And Confidence. As You Begin To Trust Yourself You Will Be
Creating Your Own Sense Of Emotional Security That Nothing Can Shake.
Your Jealousy Will Dissipate And You Will Be Able To Love From A Much
Deeper And More Trusting Place•

JEALOUSY In Romance Is Like Salt In Food. A Little Can Enhance The
Savour, But Too Much Can Spoil The Pleasure And, Under Certain
Circumstances, Can Be Life-Threatening•

LADIES: DO YOU INTIMIDATE MEN?

As A Dating Expert In The Community Full Of Sharp, Successful,
Powerful Women, I Often Hear The Line, "Men Are Intimidated By Me"
When I Hear This, I Listen Patiently And Empathetically And Then, When
The Time Is Right, I Explain That It's Just Not True. I Speak With Men
Every Single Day, And Have The Inside Scoop- The 411 On How Men Really
Feel.

Men Are Not Intimidated By Your Success Ladies. They Love That You Are
Successful. In Fact, They Admire Your Ambition AND Accomplishments.
What They Don't Like Is The Masculine Energy You Literally Bring To
The Dinner Table. What Men Want Most, What They Ask Me For When I Find
Them Matches, Is A Feminine, Nurturing, Kind, Caring, Easy-Going
Woman.

They Don't Care What College You Graduated From. They Don't Care How
Many Degrees You Have, How Much Money You Make Or If You Can Change
Your Own Tire.

I Often Stump On My Coaching Clients With The Following Question.
"What Is The Number One Thing That Will Make A Man Want To See You
Again?" The Answer: "It's The Way You Make Him Feel." Men Are Simple
And Straightforward. What They Want Most Of All Is To Feel Like MEN.

Inside Every Female Top-Notch Attorney, Investment Banker And CEO Is A
Soft Gooey Center- You're A Woman After All. So Get In Touch With Your
Softer Side, And Bring Your Feminine Energy To The Dinner Table.

HERE ARE 10 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO LET YOUR FEMININE ENERGY SHINE ON A DATE:

1• Go Home After Work And Change Into Something Feminine. Then Go On
Your Date. Don't Wear Your Work Clothes.

2• Dress Like A Girl- Wear Light Makeup, Soft Colours, A Skirt Or
Dress And Heels.

3• Let The Man Pick The Restaurant (Even If It's Not Your Favourite).

4• Don't Be Argumentative When You Disagree With Something He Says-
Agree To Disagree And Be A Good Listener.

5• Don't Talk About Work On Your Date.

6• Let Him Lead (Order For You, Open Doors, Hail The Cab, E.t.c)

7• Let Your Guard Down. Be Warm, Genuine- Be Yourself.

8• Smile

9• Be Appreciative. Thank Him For Choosing Such An Excellent
Restaurant And For Planning A Wonderful Evening. Let Him Know He Did A
Good Job And That You Had A Really Nice Time•

10• Don't Send A Thank You Email, Text Or Call Him After The Date. Let
Him Pursue You. If He's Interested, You'll Hear From Him- And Soon•

DOES PRESSING OR SUCKING MAKE BREAST LOOSE OR INCREASE SIZE?

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

The Breasts Does Not Have Any Muscles Inside. Where It Is Attached To
Your Body There Are Muscles That Support It. It Consists Of Fatty
Tissue, Contained By Your Skin That Forms A Natural 'Bra'. Massaging
The Fatty Tissue Does Not Make It 'Loose' Or Bigger. The Things That
Does That Are:

අ AGING (Getting Older). The Skin Becomes Less Elastic And Will Stretch.

අ Not Watching Your Weight So That Your Breast Increase In Size, Then
Shrink When You Diet, Repeatedly.

අ Pregnancy

අ Exercising Without The Proper Support That Will Cause Your Skin To Stretch.

To Damage Your Breasts During Sexual Play, It Will Have To Be Squeezed
Hard Enough To Leave It Purple And Blue From The Bruises.

When You Get Sexually Aroused, Your Breasts Swell Up With Blood
Flowing In. Sometimes By More Than A Cup Size. That Is Why It Feels So
Good To Take Your Bra Off And Having Your Breasts Squeezed And
Caressed When You Are Aroused.

To Protect Your Breasts, Wear A Good Fitting Bra, Keep Your Weight In
Check, Wear A Sports Bra When Exercising, Moisturizer Your Skin And
Keep Fit. Do Not Worry About The But Of Squeezing, Caressing And
Sucking During Foreplay•

The Other Times Your Breasts Can Fill Out A Bit Is During Ovulation,
During Menstruation, During Pregnancy And Sometimes When You Take
Birth Control Hormones• However, 'SMOKING' Can Cause Sagging Breast,
Because The Tobacco Smoke Contains Free Radicals That Damage Skin
Cells, Causing Them To Lose Elasticity. This Can Lead To More Facial
Wrinkles And Sagging Breasts•

If You Do Have Any Questions Regarding This Article, Please Drop Them
In The Comment Section•

5 REASON SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU

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You're Clicking, Compatible, And All Signs Are Pointing To The Fact
That Yes, This Girl Is Really Into You. There's Just One Thing. She
Hadn't Been Intimate With You. And You Don't Exactly Want To Broach
The Subject Of "If And When" For Fear Of Turning Her Off Completely.
So What Gives?

The Following Are Five Possible Reasons Your Love Interest Has Yet To
Give You The Green Light. Once You Understand What May Be Going On In
Her Head, You'll Also Understand Where The Relationship Stands And
Whether It's The Long-Term Match That You're Looking For•

1අ SHE'S STILL DECIDING HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT YOU:

Your Girlfriend's Decision To Hold Off On Getting Intimate With You
May Be As Simple As She's Still Figuring Out How She Feels About You.
Sure, She Knows She Likes You. But For Women, It's Not Enough To Just
Like A Guy. Because The Fairer Sex Equates Physical Intimacy With
Emotional Connection, She May Still Be Deciding How Much She Likes
You, And If You're Worthy Of Jumping Into Deeper Emotional Waters
With. Give Her The Benefit Of The Doubt By Allowing Her More Time To
Get To Know The Real You. Once She Does, She May Suprise You With An
Intimate Invitation In The Near Future•

2අ SHE'S NOT SURE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER:

Maybe Your Girl Has Already Decided That She Digs You, But Hasn't
Quite Figured Out Your Feelings For Her. And Before A Woman Decides To
Get That Close With Someone New, She Wants To Be Reasonably Certain
About His Intentions. If She's Unsure Of Your Interest Level,
Concerned About You Ability To Be Monogamous, Or In Any Way Has Doubts
Regarding Where Your Relationship Is Going, She's Going To Hold Off On
Becoming Intimate. It's Up To You To Be Honest About Your Interest And
Intentions. Giving Her The Opportunity To Decide Her Next Move. And If
You're Not On The Same Page? Better To Know It Now. That Way, You
Avoid Hurt Feelings And Possibly A Very Messy Breakup•

3අ SHE WANTS TO TAKE IT SLOW:

The Clue To Your Sexual Future May Lie In Your Girlfriend's Past
Relationships? If So, Has She Revealed A Former Flame That Fizzled
Bitterly? If Not, This May Just Be The Reason She's Pumping The Brakes
On Pursuing A Passionate Liaison With You. Oftentimes After A Bad
Breakup Or Bitter Betrayal, Your Girl Will Feel A Little Gun Shy. Not
Wanting To Get Burned Again, She May Need To Take Things Slow. And
That's Okay. In Fact, It's Pretty Smart. After All, Sex Is Not Just
Emotionally Risky. If You're Not Careful, You Can Expose Yourself To
All Kinds Of Physical Dangers As Well. And Until You Have Had A Very
Frank Chat About Monogamy, Safe Sex, Birth Control And Sexually
Transmitted Diseases, You Should Take Things Slow•

4අ SHE DOESN'T BELIEVE IN SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE:

Of Course, Her Decision Not To Sleep With You May Not Be Temporary.
Have You Ever Considered That The Woman You're Dating Doesn't Believe
In Sex Before Marriage? While The Idea May Seem Archaic To You,
Abstinence May Be A Choice She Made Long Before She Met You. And No
Matter How Much She Likes You, If She's Waiting Until Marriage To
Become Physically Intimidate, You're Not Going To Change Her Mind.
Don't Even Think About It. So How Do You Know If Your Girl Wants To
Wait Until Marriage? Look For And Listen To The Messages She Sends
When You're Spending Time Together. Does She Talk About The Future,
Her Religious Faith, And/Or Her Values And Morals? When You Kiss Her,
Does She Respond Passionately, Or Keep You At Arm's Length? These Are
Just A Few Potential Signs That'll Help You See Where She Stands On
The Issue Of Sex Before Marriage. To Know For Sure, You Should
Probably Just Ask•

5අ SHE'S SEEING OTHER PEOPLE:

There's Also A Possibility That The Girl You're Seeing Is Still Seeing
Other People, And Until She Decides To Get Exclusive With You, She's
Not Going To Sleep With You Maybe You're Still Seeing Other People,
Too. Have You Had A Conversation About Exclusivity? If Not, Are You
Ready To? By Getting Clear About Where You Stand With One Another,
You'll Have A Better Idea About If And When You'll Both Be Ready To
Consummate Your Relationship. This May Be A Difficult Subject To
Broach, But Again, It's An Essential One To Have Before Becoming
Intimate. Without Knowing Your Partner's Sexual Past Possible Present,
There's No Way To Ensure A Safe Emotional And Physical Future For
Either One Of You. And If You Both Decide To Take Your Relationship To
The Next Level, You Owe It To Each Other To Know Exactly Where You
Stand Before Doing So•

In Reviewing The Five Possible Reasons Your Love Interest Is Not
Sleeping With You, Did One Particular Point Stand Out? If So, You MAY
Have The Answer You've Been Searching For. Regardless SUCCESS Lies In
Open And Honest Communication. Do Both Of You A Favour By Talking
About Where You Stand, What Your Intentions Are, And Then Together,
Discuss If You Are Both Serious Enough And Ready To Take It To The
Next LEVEL•

FEAR OF INTIMACY: A RELATIONSHIP ROADBLOCK

Anyone Who Has Been Around The Block A Time Or Two Would Agree: Dating
Is Definitely Not For Cowards.
It Takes A Lot Of Courage To Turn The Spotlight On Yourself-In Public,
No Less- And Let Another Person Take A Good Long Look At You. Who
Wouldn't Squirm, At Least A Little, Under Such Scrutiny? But Some
People Feel More Than The Usual Amounts Of Stress When In The Romantic
Hot Seat. They Have A Genuine Fear Of Intimacy, A Powerful Dislike For
Letting Anyone Get Close Enough To See Them Clearly And Know Them
Well. A Fear Of Intimacy Places Strict Limits On A Relationship Right
From The Start•

There Are Lots Of Reasons For People To Keep Their Guard Up:

1අ FEAR OF INTIMACY MASKS A LACK OF CONFIDENCE:

People Like This Are Convinced That To Be Seen As They Really Are
Virtually Guarantees Swift Rejection. They Are Sure They Aren't
Attractive Or Interesting Or Worthy Of Attention. They Just Know A New
Romantic Partner Will Feel That Way Too. To Them, Intimacy Is
Synonymous With Pain•

2අ FEAR OF INTIMACY MASKS HIDDEN WOUNDS:

Past Romantic Disasters May Have Contributed To This Lack Of
Confidence. Some People Take Longer Than Others To Get Back In The
Saddle After Being Unceremoniously Dumped. But An Inability To Open Up
May Also Stem From Deeper, More Serious Wounds. For Instance, A Victim
Of Domestic Violence Or Childhood Abuse May Experience A Visceral
Aversion To Closeness With Others That Is Difficult To Overcome•

3අ FEAR OF INTIMACY MASKS HIDDEN SECRETS:

The Truth Is, People Who Are "Guarded" May, In Fact, Be Guarding
Something They Feel Is Shameful Or Dangerous. It Could Take A Long
Time To Earn Their Trust- And You Might Eventually Be Sorry You Did.

So How Can You Tell The Difference Between A Person With Ordinary
Dating Jitters And Someone Who May Never Give You A Look At His Or Her
Inner Thoughts And Feelings? Here Are Three Common Defense Mechanisms
To Watch For:

අ CONSTANT MOTION, CONSTANT CROWDS:

The Last Thing This Person Wants Is To Be Still And Alone With You- A
Breeding Ground For Uncomfortable Conversation And Probing Questions.
Instead, She Will Fill Your Time Together With Activity And "Busyness"
; He/She Will Consistently Invite Others To "Tag Along."

අ A SARCASTIC SENSE OF HUMOUR:

There Is A Reason We Sometimes Say A Person Has A "Rapier Wit." Biting
Humour Is As Defensive As A Drawn Sword. Comments That Slice Are A
Great Way To Keep People At Arm's Length, Especially Those Who
Genuinely Want To Come Closer•

අ PREEMPTIVE SEX:

At First Glance, This Point May Seem Counterintuitive. After All, How
Could A Person With A Fear Of Intimacy Have A Casual Attitude About
SEX, The Most Intimate Act Of All? Remember, We Are Talking About
People Who Are Afraid Of Emotional Closeness. What Better Way To Jump
Right OVER All That Terrifying Pillow Talk Than To Treat SEX As The
Only Point?

Recognizing The Telltale Signs That You Or Partner Suffers From A
Genuine Fear Of Intimacy Is The First Step Toward Patiently Overcoming
It•

CHECK OUT OLAMIDE'S NEW ALBUM COVER

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

Olamide Has Unveiled The Cover Of His Highly Anticipated New Album
Titled "Baddest Guy Ever Liveth" Which Will Drop Sometime In November.
What Do You Think Of The Cover?

HOW MANY DATES BEFORE YOU DECIDE IT'S NOT A MATCH?

<@>Greatmindz<@>™
Your Chemistry And Compatibility With Another Can Be Completely
Determined. But Here At GREATMINDZ, I've Outlined A Few Important
Things To Consider Before Deciding To Either Go For It Or Break It
Off•

1අ PUT YOUR DEAL BREAKERS ON HOLD:

For The First Date, Try To Put Your Nagging List Of Usual Deal
Breakers Aside And Get To Know Your Date With An Open Mind. Once
You've Gotten That Initial Impression, Use The Second Date To
Gradually Ease Into Your Deal Breaker Evaluation. Remember, Both Of
You May Be Nervous; And If He Refers To His Dogs As "His Children,"
Keep An Open Mind Before Deciding That His Love Of Dogs Is Weird•

2අ DON'T DISMISS THEM AFTER ONE DATE:

Unless You Have A Legitimately Terrible Time On Your Date, Be Open To
Giving Your Prospect A Second Shot Before Making Any Concrete
Decisions. Would You Want Everyone You Meet To Make Snap Decisions
About YOU Solely On Their First Impressions?

3අ PAY ATTENTION TO HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM:

With All Of This Thinking Going On, There Are Going To Be Times When
You Need To Let Go Of All The Analyzing And Just Focus On Your Date.
But If Your Mind Involuntarily Wanders As He/She Is Talking To You, Or
You Find Yourself Not Enjoying Activities With Them That You Normally
Love, They May Not Be A Match. Focus On The Experience Itself. Let Go
Of "Destination Thinking" And Instead View The Date As One Step On
Your Journey Toward Love And Partnership•

4අ HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU'RE NOT WITH THEM?

Time Spent Apart Is Just As Revealing As Time Alone, So Be Aware Of
Your Initial Feeling When They Send You A Text Or Suggest Getting
Together. Also, Pay Attention To How You Talk To Your Friends About
Your New Date (Or If You're Even Talking About Him/Her At All!). All
These Interactions While You're Apart Are Subconscious Indicators Of
How You're Really Feeling•

5අ TRUST YOUR GUT:

When All Is Said And Done, Your Intuition About A Person Is Usually
Right, If You've Been On Two Or Three Dates And Still Really Aren't
Feeling A Romantic Connection, It's Most Likely Simply Not There. Go
With Your Gut And Move On To Someone Who Can Provide You With
Something Lasting•

6අ ONCE YOU KNOW, DON'T WASTE ANY TIME:

No One Relishes Initiating Anything Remotely Close To A Breakup, But
Many Of Us Have Wound Up In Drawn Out, Grey Area Relationships Because
We've Avoided Having Those Conversations. If You Feel Fairly Sure
After A Couple Of Dates That This Isn't Someone You Want To Pursue A
Relationship With, You Need To Let Them Know. It's Entirely Possible
That The Feeling Is Mutual; But If They Are Still Pursuing You, Find A
Gentle And Kind Way To Express That You Just Aren't Feeling A Romantic
Connection. It May Be Uncomfortable, But Ultimately It Will Save Both
Of You Time And Free You Both To Find That Person IR A Great Match!

THE TOP FIVE REASONS YOU SAY YOU ARE SINGLE

<@>Greatmindz<@>™
With Some People, It Almost Seems Like An Addiction: They Can't Stop
Making Excuses About Why They're Single. As A Relationship Therapist,
I Hear Some Pretty Wild Reasons, Too, But They All Remain Largely
Inaccurate. If You Are Someone - Man Or Woman- Who Makes Any Of The
Following Statements, It's Fair To Say That You Are Blamming Your
Singleness On The Wrong Factors. In Fact, The Savviest Thing You Can
Do Is To Accept That You're Single For Reasons That Are Totally Within
Your Control•

1අ THERE'S NO ONE TO DATE:

Now, Let's Be Honest For A Moment: Sometimes It Really Does Seem Like
A Lot Of The Good Ones Are Unavailable. For Most Men And Women, It's
Not Statistics That Keep Them Single- It's Making Excuses. Open Your
Eyes To The Romantic Choices Around You!

2අ ALL THE GOOD ONES ARE ALREADY MARRIED

Simply Put, This One Just Isn't True. Think About Who You're
Socializing With And The Kinds Of Places You Go. What You Need To Do
Is To Join Some Organizations Where Single People Congregate. The More
People You Meet, The More Connections You'll Make That Could Lead You
To Your Future Partner•

3අ I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT BEFORE I MEET SOMEONE:

Blamming Your Singleness On Your Weight Is Common- But Not So
Legitimate. Perhaps You've Gained A Few Extra Pounds Or Have Ways To
Go Until You Get Back To Your Goal Weight. It's Too Easy To Postpone
Dating Because You're Not Happy With Your Weight- You Gotta Fight
Those Inner Demons! Listen, What Are The Chances You're Ever Going To
Truly Love Your Body? Not That Great Right? SO Don't Put Off Finding
Someone•

You May Be Hard On Yourself And Set High Standards In Terms Of Your
Appearance And Body, But You Should Be Able To Find And Function Well
In A Romantic Relationship Whether You're Lighter Or Heavier. In All
Likelihood, You Have Created And Ideal In Your Mind Of What You Will
Look Like When You Meet That New Person, But Don't Write The Script
Before The Future Has Even Happened!

4අ I'M JUST TOO BUSY:

Unless You're Sleeping In A New City Every Night, Raising A Handful Of
Toddlers, Or Working So Many Jobs That You Can't Afford A Good Night's
Sleep, You Have Time To Date. You Might Not Love The Idea Of Putting
Yourself Out There And Dating, But Don't Kid Yourself Into Believing
That You Don't Have Time For It. Remember, mAKING Excuses Will Never
Help You Achieve A Goal. Perhaps You Don't Have Two Or Three Nights
Each Week To Allocate Toward Dating. But You Can Probably Find A Few
Hours Here And There. Time Management Is Critical When You're Busy, So
Consider Making A List Of All Your Daily Activities For The Week And
Try To Determine Where You Could Make More Efficient Use Of Your Time.
It Might Help To Set Aside One Part Of The Week-Say, Saturday
Afternoon- For New Dates, Thus Reserving The More Sacred Weekend
Evenings For Your Inner Circle•

5අ I ONLY MEET PEOPLE I LIKE ON VACATION:

POP QUIZ: What Does It Mean Psychologically If A Person Only Meets
People He Or She Likes When He Or She Is Out Of Town For Vacation Or
Work? If You're Someone Who Tells Yourself That All The Good Ones Just
Happen To Live In Every Other City Or Town Except The One Where You
Live, The Likelihood Is That You're Conflicted About Whether You
Really Want To Commit And Settle Down. In General, Men And Women Who
Always Find The One When They're Out Of Town Like The Idea Of Having
Someone, But The Day To Day Realities Of A Romantic Relationship At
Home Are Stressful For Any Number Of Reasons: You're Still Hurt From
Previous Relationship; You Aren't Sure You Want Someone Depending On
You; Or You Get Bored Easily. Think Long And Hard About What I Call
Your "Geographic Distortion."

The Only Way To Solve A Problem- In This Case, Wanting To Find A Happy
Relationship- Is To Start With Honesty. The Most COmmon Problem
Solving Style I See In My Therapy Work Is The Tendency In Men And
Women To Approach One Problem At A Time. My Response? No Sale! Though
It May Feel More Manageable To Attack One Problem At A Time, Coping
Well As An Adult Requires That You Do A Little Bit Toward A Bunch Of
Goals, All At The Same Time. Set Several Small Goals That Focus On
Your Romantic Life, Such As, Joining A New Gym, Starting An Exercise
Class, Volunteering For A Charity, And Taking A Class At A Local Art
Center. Opening Up Your Social Environment Can Help You Get Back Any
Mojo That You May Have Lost Along The Way, And These Activities Will
Take You Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Bring A Little Spice Back Into
Your Life!

Have You Ever Used Any Of These Excuses? Would Love To Hear About The
Reasons You Believe You Are Singleඅන්තර්ජාලය

LOOK INSIDE

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

Some People Believe The Reason They're Suffering Or Poor Is Because Of
The Kind Of Work They Do. That's Not True! The Problem Isn't In The
Kind Of Work They Do; Rather It's In Their Minds. Many Of Them Think
Their Success In Life Is Hinged On Making Money Through Hardwork, So
They Struggle Till They Get Frustrated•

When I Was Much Younger, I Knew I Would Never Be Poor. Not Just
Because Of What I Knew From The Word Of God, But Because There Were
Certain Things I Had Learnt To Do Properly: I Could Carve Out Creative
And Fashionable Designs Just By Sitting Down And Imagining Things, I
Could Draft And Structure Business Plans And Ideas That Were Of Great
Benefit To Others Who Were In Business, Even At A Very Tender Age, I
Could Wash Cars, Sew Clothes, And Make Hair And Also Effect Mechanical
And Electrical Repairs, Just By Watching My Parents Do Certain Things
In The House, And Also In Their Various Fields And Career. I Followed
Up Thoroughly Knowing If I Wanted To Choose Any Of The Above Field And
Career, I Would Be One Of The Best, If Not The BEST At It•

You Have The Capacity For Great Ideas, Therefore Look Inside You For
Them. Those Ideas, If Properly Harnessed, Are More Valuable Than
Money. If You Nurse Your Ideas Long Enough And Discipline Yourself In
Their Direction, You'll Become Very Good At What You Do After A While
And Money Will Eventually Come To You, For Money Is A SLAVE Of IDEAS•

Your Success, Prosperity And Greatness Are Not Determined By Your
Geographical Location Or By The Economy Of The Nation Where You
Function. Rather, Your Mind Is What Determines What You Become, For
With Your Mind You Can Change Everything Else. You Can Change The
State Of Your Nation And The Economy; You Can Change Anything If Only
You'll Have The Right Thoughts In Your Mind.

SHOULD YOU EVER SNOOP ON A PARTNER?

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

Realizing That There Are Many Different Issues Of Infidelity Is Just
About One Of The Most Difficult Circumstances A Couple Can Face.
Despite The Difficulty, Though, There Is A Possibility Of Resolution
When A Couple Is Hopeful About Staying Together, Willing To Forgive
Human Mistakes And Wanting To Move Forward In A More Loving Way•
A Surefire Way To Act Against Your Best Interests Is To "Snoop" Or Spy
On Your Partner If You Suspect Infidelity. Why Doesn't Snooping Work
For Any Relationship? Because It Involves Invading Someone's Privacy
And Breaching Trust. Human Beings Are Territorial. We Want Our Own
Space. When Someones Takes Away What Is Ours, We Usually React
Strongly, Going Into A Defensive Mode•
This Fact Is One Of The Strongest Reasons Why You Should Not Snoop.
Think About It: It Would Be A Useless Cause To Attempt To Get Facts Or
Information By Snooping, Because The Moment You Present The "Evidence"
To Your Partner, He Or She Becomes Aware That There Was A Breach Of
Privacy And Will React Defensively- Wouldn't You? Defensiveness Is
Coming From A "Fight Or Flight" Mentality And Is Not Conducive To
Having A Calm Discussion About What You Have Found Out In Your Private
Eye Session (Be It Negative, Neutral, Positive)•
If You Are Suspecting An Affair, You Can Actually Benefit From
Suggesting An Open Conversation With Your Partner. Here Are Some Tips
To Make It A Beneficial Discussion:

අ Choose A Calm And Safe Place That Both Of You Agree On•

අ Choose A Time When Both Of You Are Calm Enough To Have An Open Conversation•

අ Begin With Expressing Your Concerns And Fears, And Explaining Why
You Feel That Way•

අ State That Your Intention Is Pure Clarification; Don't Accuse•

අ Be Specific About Which Behaviours From Your Partner Made You Feel
Nervous Or Suspicious•

අ Take A Moment To Step Back And Actively Listen To
What Your Partner Has To Say•

අ Reflect Back What You Have Heard And Understood From Your Partner,
So As To Avoid Confusion And Misinterpretation•

අ It Is Extremely Important To Maintain A Calm Stance And Tone Of
Voice So Neither Of You Go Into A Fight Or Flight Zone•

අ If, While Snooping Around, You Do Find Evidence Of Infidelity, Work
Through Your Painful Emotions First Before Discussing Them With Your
Partner. Talk About Your Feelings With A Trusted Friend, Or Perhaps
Your Therapist. It Is Important To Acknowledge What You Are Going
Through, Because It Is In The Acknowledgement That You'll Realize You
Will Be Okay Through The Pain•

අ Emotional Pain Is Not Life Threatening. It Will Subside Eventually,
But You Need To Ride It Out. I'VE Seen A Lot Of Couples Decide To Stay
Together- Even After Infidelity. They Seek Counseling, Work Hard On
Rebuilding Trust And Explore Other Ways Of Relating With Each Other
That Works For Each One Of Them•

There Is Hope In Life's Most Difficult Circumstances. And When It All
Seems Unmanageable, Know That Sometimes You Can Truly Benefit From
Professional And Objective Insights•

What Do You Think- Is Anyone Ever Justified In Snooping?

CONNECTING THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA: THINGS TO CONSIDER

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

As Social Networking Sites Like Facebook And Twitter Become Less Of A
Novelty And Completely Ingrained Into Our Daily Lives, It's Becoming
Increasingly Common For Singles To Meet Through Social Media•

As Easy As It All Sounds, However, Issues Such As Privacy, Safety,
Fear Of Coming On Too Strong, And Sheer Volume Of People Using These
Sites Can Be So Overwhelming That Many Are Deterred From Pursuing It
As A Possible Dating Avenue. Lucky For You, I'm Here With Some Tips To
Help You Navigate Through It All!

1අ STICK TO MUTUAL FRIENDS:

When It Comes To Social Media, Safety Is A Valid Concern. I Mean, Who
Hasn't Squirmed Over One Of Those Awkward "Catfish" Moments When A
Lovestruck Girl/Guy Realizes Who He/She Was REALLY Talking To Online?
To Avoid A Dangerous Or Cringe-Worthy Scenario, I Recommend
Communicating With Someone Who Has At Least One Or Two Mutual Friends•

A Special Guy/Girl May Catch Your Eye Through A Photo, A Funny Link
He/She Posted On Your Friend's Timeline, A Witty Tweet, Or One Of The
Networks Themselves May Just Give You The Nudge You Need. Both
Facebook And Twitter Have Sections That Suggest People To Befriend Or
Follow Based On Your Interests, Location And Network Of Friends•

2අ SHOW YOU LIKE HIM/HER BY "LIKING" HIM/HER:

One Way To Get His/Her Radar (If You're Not Already) Is To Master The
Subtle Art Of "Liking" (Or "Favoriting" On Twitter.) If You're Not
Quite Ready To Put Yourself Out There And Send A Message, Start By
Liking Or Favouriting His/Her Statuses Or Tweets Here And There. If
He/She Tweets A Link To An Article About Something You're Passionate
About, Favouriting The Tweet Will Only Bring Your Name To The Top Of
His/Her Mind But Show That You SHARE An Interest. Just Don't OVERDO
It; Frequently Hitting That Like Button Seconds After His/Her Words
Float Into Cyberspace Can Come Across As OVERBEARING•

3අ START SMALL CONVERSATIONS:

After A Couple Of Well- Placed Likes, It's Time To Start The
Conversation. You Can Begin By Simply Responding To Something He/She
Posted On A Mutual Friend's Comment Thread Or Replying To One Of His
Tweets. A Casual, Thoughtful Response Will Make An Impression And Open
The Door For Interaction•

4අ SEND A MESSAGE:

If You're Getting Good Vibes From Your Interactions Thus Far, It's
Time To Pull The Trigger And Send A Message. The Message Doesn't Have
To Bare All; Simply Sending Him/Her A Link To An Article You Think
He/She'd Be Interested In Or Asking If He/She's Going To A Mutual
Friend's Upcoming Party Will Suffice. The Privacy Of A Message Can Be
All You Need To Get Him To Open Up And Allow The Two Of You To See If
There's A CONNECTION!

Have You Met Anyone Interesting Through Facebook Or Twitter? What Was
The Experience Like And Would You Recommend It?

CAN I GET PREGNANT FROM PRE-CUM?

While It'S Not Likely, It Is Possible. When A Guy Is Aroused, A Clear
Alkaline Liquid-- That'S Considered To Be Sperm Free Is Released To
Lubricate His Urethra (tHE Tube That Carries The Urine And Sperm Out
Of His Body), Preparing It For The Safe Passage Of Sperm When He Does
Infact Ejaculate•

But Any Sperm Left In The Urethra From A Previous Ejaculation Can Mix
With The Secretion. And, If His Little Swimmers Make Their Way Into
Your Vagina, You Can Get Pregnant. You Should Also Know That This
Fluid Can Transmit STDs, Such As HIV And Hepatitis. And, Other
Diseases, Such As Herpes, Can Be Passed Simply By Rubbing Against Each
Other's Genitals•

BOTTOM LINE: Since Exposure To Pre-Ejaculatory Fluid Can Lead To
Pregnancy, Play It Smart And Have Him Use A Condom. If You Add
Water-Based Lube, He'll Learn That Rubbing Against You Will Still Feel
Fabulous•

THE CONNECTION BETWEEN BLUE BALLS AND SEX

Have You Ever Had Someone Ask "What Are Blue Balls?" "Blue Balls" Is A
Slang Term Referring To Testicular Aching That May Occur When The
Blood That Fills The Vessels In Male's Genital Area During Sexual
Arousal Is Not Dissipated By Orgasm•

Blue Balls Are Not Just A Figment Of A Lame Excuse To Try And Get You
In The Sack. Though It Doesn't Happen To All Men, It Is A Very Real
Condition That Results From A Prolonged State Of Sexual Arousal. When
A Guy Is Physically Turned On, Blood Flows To His Penis, Which Is What
Gives Him An Erection, And His Testicles, Causing Them To Swell. If He
Doesn't Ejaculate, There Is A Buildup Of Pressure, And His
Supersensitive Balls Feel The Brunt Of It. The Sensation Can Range
From A Mild Ache To Worse-Than-Getting-Kicked-In-The-Crotch Pain. But
The Bottom Line Is, It's Not Dangerous, And He Can Deal With It,
Whether That Means Giving Himself A Helping Hand Or Just Waiting It
Out. The Blood Will Eventually Drain, And Any Discomfort Will
Disappear On Its Own. In Case You Were Wondering, It's Called Blue
Balls Because The Blood That's Been In The Scrotum For A While Loses
Oxygen And Can Give The Appearance Of A Bluish Tinge-- Although It
Sounds Like Something Guys Came Up With To Express Just How Sad They
Are That They Can't "CUM!" But Its Obviously The TRUTH•

The Condition Usually Does Not Last Long And The Level Of Pain
Associated With Blue Balls Is Usually Minor And Can Be Exaggerated.
Most Men Have Been Socialized To Ejaculate When They Get An Erection
During Sexual Activity. Failure To Ejaculate And Feel Orgasm Often
Adds Frustration And Disappointment To The Reality Of The Physical
Sensation•

Men Who Believe That They Should Ejaculate Every Time They Have An
Erection Are Likely To Exert Pressure On Their Partner To Proceed With
Sex Without Taking Her Feelings Into Consideration•

Some Men Find That Masturbation Is A Viable Solution And Are Realizing
That Ejaculation Is Not A Requirement In Every Sexual Situation. This
Attitude Allows Both Men And Their Partners To Relax More And To Learn
That Pleasure And Meaning Can Exist Without Having To Reach
Ejaculation And Orgasm During Every Sexual Encounter•

Men Are Not Alone In Experiencing The Discomfort Of Unrelieved
Vasocongestion. Women's Genitals Also Become Engorged With Blood
During Sexual Arousal, And Like Their Male Counterparts, Women Can
Experience Pelvic Heaviness And Aching If They Do Not Reach Orgasm•

Feel Free To Share Your Experience With Us, Or Ask Any Questions
Regarding BLUE BALLS•

STOP COMPLAINING AND START PROCLAIMING

All Things Are Functioning Together For Your Good; The Plants, Air,
Electricity And Everything In This Earth. This Simple, Yet Powerful
Thought Will Change Your Life If You Can Only Believe It. There's No
One With A Good Enough Idea To Stop Your Prosperity And Victory. So
You See, It's Impossible For You To Be Disadvantaged If You Live In
This Truth•

The Systems Of This World Are Programmed To Fail, Therefore Ride Above
Them! Don't Play By Their Rules; Employ Kingdom Ideas And Principles
In Your Dealings. It Makes No Difference How Terrible The Economic
Situation May Be, You're Still Not A Victim. Your Prosperity Is Not
Dependent On Government Policies, For The Word Of God Is Greater And
More Powerful Than Any Government• STOP Complaining And Start
Proclaiming What You Desire And Want To See Happen•

God Has Chosen You Out Of This World (John 15:19). Therefore, No
System Of Government Can Work To Your Disadvantage If You Function By
God's Word. The Bible Says, "If Ye Be Willing And Obedient, Ye Shall
Eat The Good Of The Land" (Isaiah 1:19). You Know There's Much Evil In
The Land, But If You Hearken To The Lord's Instructions Only The Good
In The Land Will Be Your Lot•

The God Who Commanded Light To Shine Out Of Darkness (2 Corinthians
4:6) Can Cause You To Prosper In Famine Or Austere Times. He Did It
For Isaac (Genesis 26:1-14), And He Can Do The Same For You. Yes, The
Economic, Political And Social Systems Of Today's World May Be
Defective; But They'll Work For Your GOOD•

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA••• GOD BLESS!!!

~PRESIDENT~

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HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA BY Exzel Dee Dollar

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA

INDEPENDENCE DAY SPEECH By #ExzelDeeDollar

Its Another Independence Day Celebration For Nigeria And Already
Criticisms And Negative Talks About The Government Not Doing Anything
For The Masses Has Already Began On The Streets And Even On Social
Networks And Media.

I've Often Sat Down To Reflect On The Government And The People, And I
Realized That Folks Who Believe Their Having A Better Life Depends On
The Government Are Yet To Wake Up From Their Slumber. I Refused Long
Ago To Stop Depending On What The Government Can Do For Me, Because I
See Myself Also As A GOVERNMENT. I Mean, The Government Don't Feed Me
And Neither Do They Pay My Bills... They Don't Buy My Clothes And They
Are Not Responsible For My Shelter. So If I Can Do All This Myself
Then Why Lament About The Economy And The Government? It Is Obvious
That The Government Can't Satisfy Everybody.

Have You Ever Thought For Once That If Everybody Was Lamenting And
Waiting For The Government We Wouldn't Have Men Who Have Beaten The
Odds To Become Job Creators, Which Is The Reason We Have A Lot Of
PRIVATE Own Companies That Has Created JOBS For Other People To Earn A
Living?

Am Appalled When I See People Laise About, And Blame Their Situation
On The Government. I've Often Advice People To Be The CHANGE They
Seek, And Stop Waiting For The Government To Change Or Help Change
Their Situation For The Better.

I've Always Been Of The Opinion That Their Are People Whom Their
Destiny Is Tied To Mine, That If I Don't Make It, No Government Would
Ever Do It For Them.

I've Always Seen Myself As The Government To Thousands Of People, Whom
Through Me Their Families Would Be BLESSED. Imagine If The Likes Of
Carlos Slim, Steve Job, Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote, Mike Adenuga,
Warren Buffet, Donald Trump E.t.c. Imagine If These Men Never Realized
And Maximized Their Potential, Or Were Probably Sitting Somewhere And
Lamenting About How Poor Their Family Were, And How The Government
Wasn't Favourable To Them. Am Sure The World Would Have Been More
Terrible Than It Is• Imagine The Thousands Of People Whom Are
Benefiting From The JObs These Men Have CREATED!

The Truth Is That Their Are Certain People The Government Would
Benefit, And You Might Not Be Part Of Those People Who Would Benefit
From The Government. It Just Might Be That Your Neighbour Next Door
Could Be The Government That Would Help You, Or Your Relative, Or
You'd Help Yourself.

YOU Might Just Be The GOVERNMENT That Boy/Girl Who Has No Home Or
Shelter Is Waiting For, And You Might Just Be The GOVERNMENT That
Man/Woman Who Has No Job Is Waiting For, Or The GOVERNMENT That WIDOW
Is Waiting For•

REALIZE That Some People's Destiny's Are Tied To Yours, And If You
Don't STEP UP , CREATE IT, And MAKE IT, They Wouldn't Make It•

YOU ARE THE GOVERNMENT TO SOMEBODY... So RISE UP And Take The
CHALLENGE And Tell Yourself That YOU ARE CAPABLE, And Through You
Families Would See The Light And Be BLESSED•

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIANS... AND A HAPPY NEW MONTH... GOD BLESS!!!

COURTSEY: ~PRESIDENT~

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