"Predictable Male Withdrawal." I'll Take A Second To Explain Exactly
What This Is And Why It's Important...
In The Early Stages Of Dating, A Man Is Often Attentive, Affectionate,
And Willing To Do Anything To Stay Close To You. He Talks About His
Life, His Feelings And Wants To Know Everything About You. He Wants To
Make Sure You Have Incredible Experiences Together.
But Then It Happens...
At Some Point You Sense A Shift In Him. His Openness And Curiosity
Fades. He Rarely Wants To Talk About Your Feelings Or The
Relationship. He Seems Distant And Withdrawn. You Worry About Your
Feelings Or The Relationship. He Seems Distant And Withdrawn. You
Worry About It, And Wonder Why Suddenly You're The Only One Who Cares
About The Relationship. Unfortunately, Pointing This Out To Him Only
Adds To The Tension And Distance You Feel.
¤ UNDERSTANDING MEN AND PATTERNS OF WITHDRAWAL:
There's A Hard Truth About Most Men When It Comes To Dating. A Man
Either Won't Tell You, Or Doesn't Know Himself, Whether Or Not He's A
"Withdrawer" In Relationships.
For Example, A Man Would NEVER Say To A Woman-
"I'm Looking For A Committed Relationship... But The Truth Is That I'm
Not 100% Emotionally Available. I'll Put You On An Emotional
Rollercoaster By Periodically Pulling Away From You. But Hey... Want
To Go Out Sometime?"
Part Of The Beauty Of Online Dating Is That You're Able To Get A Rich
Sense Of The Man You're Connecting With Before You Meet In Person. But
There's One More Important Thing You'll Want To Know- Whether Or Not
He'll Grow To Be More Loving As The Relationship Grows, Or If He'll Be
The Kind Of Man That Periodically Gets Distant, Therefore Bringing Up
Your Fears And Uncertainty.
¤ IDENTIFYING "WITHDRAWERS"... AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU'RE WITH ONE
The Best Way To Know A Man's Emotional Habits In Relationships. Is He
Close To His Family And Friends? What Does He Say About Them? Is He
Loving And Surportive Of Them? Or Is He Constantly Negative And
Dismissive Of Them?
There's A Lot You Can Tell About A Man By Simply Listening And Observing.
So What If You're Already With A Withdrawer? Follow These Tips To Keep
Your Sanity:
Tip #1) AVOID FALLING INTO THE COMMON ROLE OF THE "CONVINCER"
When You Sense A Man Is Less Available To You, And It Scares You, The
Common Reaction Is To Unconsciously Convince A Man To Stay And Open Up
Emotionally. This Usually Shows Up As Subtle Begging, Whinning, Or
Pouting In Order To Change His Behaviour.
Unfortunately, These Are The Exact Kinds Of Behaviours That Seem
"Needy" To A Withdrawn Man, And Cause Him To Want To Pull Away More.
Tip #2) KEEP YOUR CENTER:
The Quickest Way To Connect With Someone, Especially A Man, Is To Be
The Kind Of Positive, Magnetic Person That They Can't Help But Be
Changed And Inspired By.
When We Feel Uncertain And Worried, We Often Put More Attention And
Focus On The PROBLEMS We See. But, As The Saying Goes, Sometimes The
Best Medicine Is Laughter. Try To Look At Problems In Your
Relationship As OPPORTUNITIES For Love, Growth And Understanding.
To Maintain A Positive Attitude, You Have To Have A Full Life- Without
A Man. Don't Stop Doing The Things That Make You Feel Great About
Yourself And Your Life.
Tip #3) LEAD WITH ATTRACTION:
Talking About Your Relationship "Issues" Will Never Change A Man. What
Does Change Him Is The Magic Power Of ATTRACTION. Remember What Drew
You To Him In The First Place. It's Not Just Physical Attraction, But
Emotional Attraction That Creates A Strong, Unbreakable Bond Between
You And A MAN.
