ARE YOU FORCING YOUR FEELING FOR SOMEONE

Sometimes It Just Happens: There Is Someone You Think Is A Great Person, But That "It" Factor Just Isn't There For You. They Are Nice, They're Funny; They're Smart, They're Not Needy 0r Bossy. Maybe Your Friends And Family Even Like Them And Are Repeatedly Warning You Not To "Let This One Get Away." But Still, You Just Don't Feel It For Them.

Here Are Some Suggestion If You Find Yourself Feeling Like You Should Want To Be With This Person More Than You Actually Want To Be With Them.

☆. Don't Beat Yourself Up About It:

If You're Not Feeling Something You Think You Should Feel (Or Even Want To Feel), Don't Be Hard On Yourself. We Feel The Way We Do, And No One Should Ever Be Criticised For The Desires They Do Or Do Not Experience. So Our First Recommendation Is That You Give Yourself A Break. Look At Your Feelings And Accept Them For What They Are. Then You Can Begin To Approach The Situation From A Much More Clearheaded Position.

☆. Get Clear On Why The Feelings Aren't Happening:

One Of The Best Ways To Gain More Awareness As To What's Going On Here Is To Do A Bit Of Soul-Searching. When You're Being Completely Honest With Yourself, Are There Reasons You Can Pinpoint As To Why You're Not Experiencing Stronger Emotions In This Relationship? Maybe You've Been Hurt And Are Still Reticent About Moving On. Or Maybe There Are Some Sort Of Other Unresolved Issues From Past Relationships, Even Non-Romantic Ones. And, Of Course, It Could Be That There's Simply Not The Physical Chemistry That You Want In A Relationship. That Happens. The Point Is That The More Honest You Can Be With Yourself On This Question, The Better You'll Be Able To Get Clear On How Best To Respond.

☆. Explore Why You Think You Should Force Your Feelings:

Like The Previous Suggestion, This Is One Demands Honesty On Your Part. Why Is It That You Feel That You Should Force Your Feelings For This Person? Is It Because You Are Afraid To Be Alone? Or That You're Afraid Of Hurting The Other Person? Are You Feeling Pressure From Others, Or Working Out Of A Fear That You Won't Find Someone Better? Or Maybe There's Something That This Person Offers- A Better Lifestyle Or Some Sort Of Security- That You Really Like Having In Your Life. Do Your Best To Figure Out What It Is That Makes You Feel That You Simply Ought To Make Things Work Out. That Will Help You Respond To The Situation In A Way That You Feel Good About.

☆. Communicate With The Other Person:

Clear And Honest Dialogue About How You Are Feeling Is Absolutely Crucial, Especially When You Already Respect And Care For The Other Person. There's Nothing At All Wrong With Saying Something Like, "Its Not Fair To Either One Of Us For Me To Try To Make Something Happen That Just Isn't There." Be Delicate And Be Kind If You Really Know, And You're Certain That There's No Way That It'll Ever Happen Between You, Then Be Honest And Communicate That To Them. Yes, It Will Probably Be A Painful Message For Them To Hear. But They'll Respect You For Your Honesty, And You'll Avoid Hurting Them Even More Down The Road.

☆. Be Willing To Request Some Patience:

You Might Be At A Point Where You're Still Open To A Relationship, But Maybe You're Not Moving As Quickly As The Other Person. If This Is The Case, Then Speak Up. Let Them Know How You Feel, That You Care About Them And Possibly See Potential For You Two Together, But That You Need Time To Allow A Relationship To Develop. Even If You're Getting Pressure From Numerous People, Keep In Mind That You Have Every Right And Even A Responsibility To Figure This Out For Yourself And To Do So In A Way That Let's You Make A Good And Healthy Decision.

☆. Be Open To Surprising Possibilities:

Consider The Possibility That The Other Person May Grow On You. And You Might Feel Differently In Time. Many A Relationship Began With One Person Wanting To Simply Be Friends And The Other Person Desiring More Than That. We're Not Saying That You Should Ignore Or Deny Reality Or Simply Keep At It And Expect That The Chemistry Will Eventually Appear. It Often Doesn't. And As We Said, If You Know For Sure That You'll Never Feel Anything Stronger Or More Serious For The Person, Then You Owe It To Them To Let Them Know. But If You're Not 100 Percent Sure, Then Is There Any Reason You Can't Give Yourself A Bit More Time, Just To See What Might Happen?

☆. If Possible, Maintain Friendship:

If You Two Are Really Compatible, And The Other Person's Feelings Aren't Too Advanced, Then Explore Together The Idea Of Simply Enjoying A Friendship For The Time Being. It May Be That The Relationship Has Progressed Too Far For This To Happen. If The Other Person Wants More Than Friendship, They May Not Be Willing To Settle For Less. Likewise, You May Decide That You're Unwilling To Live With Whatever Pressure Comes With Being The Person Who Is Being Waited For. But If You Can, Then Maintain Your Friendship And Enjoy All The Things You Can Offer Each Other. Then, Once A Strong Friendship Has Developed, Who Knows What Might Happen?

DATING MISTAKES THAT MAkE YOU LOOK DESPERATE

Have You Ever Wondered Why You Have Great First And Second Dates, But Can't Seem To Find A Fulfilling Long-Term Relationship With Anyone?

Last Week I Spoke With A Lady, A Single Mother In Her Early Thirties, She Has Been Dating The Same Guy Off And On For Over 2 Years. Despite The Fact That She's In Love With Him, He's Not Ready To Commit.

She's Confused About Why Her Boyfriend That She Is Willing To Drop Anything And Everything Immediately To Spend Time With Him, Including Her Parental Responsibilities (Which Is Probably Playing A Big Role In Why He's Not Sure About Their Relationship). It Turns Out She's Been Making Several Mistakes, Since The Beginning Of Their Relationship.

Here Are A Few Tips On What Not To Do During The Courtship Phase Of Dating (Usually The First Couple Of Months), Because They Can Set Up Bad Habits. Avoid These Mistakes At All Cost:

☆. Being Available All Of The Time:

When You First Start Dating Someone It Can Be Tempting To Want To Spend All Of Your Time With Him/Her, Persuading You To Keep Calendar Clear. Having Nothing Else To Do But Spend Your Time With That Person Makes You Come Off As Boring, Having No Life And Few Friends. This Is Not The Impression You Want To Make.

☆. Initiating Phone Calls Or Texting All Day Long:

It Is Important To Stay In Touch With Your New Love Interest, But Don't Go Overboard. Calling Or Texting Once Or Twice A Day Says "I'm Interested In You", Calling Or Texting Several Times Each Hour Of The Day Says "I'm A Borderline Stalker."

☆. Needing To Know Every Detail Of His/Her Day:

As Relationships Grow You Learn More And More About The Other Person; What They Like, Who They Hang Out With, Where They Go Regularly. This Should Be A Natural Process That Develops Over Time. When You Demand To Know All Of These Details Up Front It Can Make You Appear Insecure And Controlling.

☆. Talking About The Distant Future Within First Few Weeks Of Dating:

Dating Is An Opportunity To Get To Know Someone Gradually Over Time. Talking About The Long-Term Future Together Is Something That Couples Should Do Once They Are Exclusive And Have Some History Together. It Often Scares People Away If You Start Planning The Wedding (Aloud) On Your Second Or Third Date.

☆. Going Along With Anything And Everything:

There Is Tremendous Value In Being Flexible, And Tremendous Weakness In Having No Boundaries (a.k.a Not Being Able To Say "No"), People Naturally Push Other's Boundaries As They Become Emotionally Closer. This Is A Necessary And Critical Part Of Intimate Relationships. When You Accept Everything, (Your Date Showing-Up An Hour Late With No Phone Call, Him/Her Being Too Busy To Help Out In A Genuine Emergency, Or Cancelling Plans Last Minute Because There Is Something Else He/She Would Rather Do) Regardless Of How You Feel About It-You Come Off As Needy.

☆. Giving It All Away On First Date:

There Are Few Things That Kill Emotional Bonding And Interest Faster Than Getting Sexual Too Soon. True Intimacy Is Developed Over Time And Through Series Of Interactions Where You Learn More And More About The Other Person. This Increases Your Attraction To Him/Her Of Them Beyond Physical Appearance. When You Have Sex Right Off The Bat, It Sabotages This Process, You've Already Gotten Physical And That Can Muddle Your Chance Of Building True Intimacy. It Can Also Look Like That Is All You Have To Offer-Sex. Which Is Simply Not True. Not Forgetting To Mention That Having Sex On The First Date Isn't Always A Loser's Choice, But There Are Relationships That Have Also Thrived And Made Progress Afterwards... But Its Rare To Find Such These Days. So Its Best To Stay Out Of It If You Ain't Sure About Who You Are With.

☆. Including Your New Partner In Family And Personal Events Too Soon:

If You Invite The Girl/Guy You've Been Dating To A Family Function Too Soon, It May Scare Them Away. You May Think Your Family Is Wonderful And Perfect, But That Might Not Be How They Appear To Your New Mate. Having A Solid Foundation And Connection Together, Before Introducing Them To The Fam Can Go A Long Way. And Bring Your New Flame Into Your Family Dynamics Too Quickly Might Freak Him/Her Out.

These Are Few Behaviours That May Seem Harmless In The Moment, But Can Ultimately Represent Wanting Commitment Before You Really Know Each Other. For The Best Chance Of Developing A Long-Term Relationship Avoid These Impulses, At Least At First. You Can Always Decide To Move Things Forward In The Future, But You Can Never Take Back Things From The Past.