HOW MANY DATES BEFORE YOU DECIDE IT'S NOT A MATCH?

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Your Chemistry And Compatibility With Another Can Be Completely
Determined. But Here At GREATMINDZ, I've Outlined A Few Important
Things To Consider Before Deciding To Either Go For It Or Break It
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1අ PUT YOUR DEAL BREAKERS ON HOLD:

For The First Date, Try To Put Your Nagging List Of Usual Deal
Breakers Aside And Get To Know Your Date With An Open Mind. Once
You've Gotten That Initial Impression, Use The Second Date To
Gradually Ease Into Your Deal Breaker Evaluation. Remember, Both Of
You May Be Nervous; And If He Refers To His Dogs As "His Children,"
Keep An Open Mind Before Deciding That His Love Of Dogs Is Weird•

2අ DON'T DISMISS THEM AFTER ONE DATE:

Unless You Have A Legitimately Terrible Time On Your Date, Be Open To
Giving Your Prospect A Second Shot Before Making Any Concrete
Decisions. Would You Want Everyone You Meet To Make Snap Decisions
About YOU Solely On Their First Impressions?

3අ PAY ATTENTION TO HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM:

With All Of This Thinking Going On, There Are Going To Be Times When
You Need To Let Go Of All The Analyzing And Just Focus On Your Date.
But If Your Mind Involuntarily Wanders As He/She Is Talking To You, Or
You Find Yourself Not Enjoying Activities With Them That You Normally
Love, They May Not Be A Match. Focus On The Experience Itself. Let Go
Of "Destination Thinking" And Instead View The Date As One Step On
Your Journey Toward Love And Partnership•

4අ HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU'RE NOT WITH THEM?

Time Spent Apart Is Just As Revealing As Time Alone, So Be Aware Of
Your Initial Feeling When They Send You A Text Or Suggest Getting
Together. Also, Pay Attention To How You Talk To Your Friends About
Your New Date (Or If You're Even Talking About Him/Her At All!). All
These Interactions While You're Apart Are Subconscious Indicators Of
How You're Really Feeling•

5අ TRUST YOUR GUT:

When All Is Said And Done, Your Intuition About A Person Is Usually
Right, If You've Been On Two Or Three Dates And Still Really Aren't
Feeling A Romantic Connection, It's Most Likely Simply Not There. Go
With Your Gut And Move On To Someone Who Can Provide You With
Something Lasting•

6අ ONCE YOU KNOW, DON'T WASTE ANY TIME:

No One Relishes Initiating Anything Remotely Close To A Breakup, But
Many Of Us Have Wound Up In Drawn Out, Grey Area Relationships Because
We've Avoided Having Those Conversations. If You Feel Fairly Sure
After A Couple Of Dates That This Isn't Someone You Want To Pursue A
Relationship With, You Need To Let Them Know. It's Entirely Possible
That The Feeling Is Mutual; But If They Are Still Pursuing You, Find A
Gentle And Kind Way To Express That You Just Aren't Feeling A Romantic
Connection. It May Be Uncomfortable, But Ultimately It Will Save Both
Of You Time And Free You Both To Find That Person IR A Great Match!