Brings Out The Best In All Of Us; The Journey Ahead Feels Like An Open
Road Full Of Possibility... But Then Something Happens: Either The
Relationship Starts To Feel Stale, Or Perhaps Money Issues, Kids, Or
Trying To Figure Out A Comfortable Work-Life Balance Comes Into Play.
Whatever The Cause, The Initial Spark Dims Or Goes Out Altogether, And
The Future Becomes A Long And Winding Road, Full Of Pit Stops And Flat
Tires.
You See, We Spend A Lot Of Time And Energy Finding Our Perfect Mates.
By The Time We Say "I DO," We Assume (And Fervently Hope) That The
Work Is Over. The Idea Of Having To Spend Time Working On Your
Relationship May Seem Strange Or Even Depressing, But It's Worth It!
Even If It Feels Like Your Whole Situation Needs An Overhaul,
Deepening Your Relationship Doesn't Have To Be A Grueling Process.
With The Right Tools, The Suffering Can End.
One Of The Best Ways To Help Your Relationship Is To Ensure You're
Thinking About It The Right Way. After Working With Thousands Of
Couples- And On Our Own Marriage- We've Distilled Some Essential
Truths That Help Couples Keep Their Relationships Fresh As They
Navigate The Life-Long Experience Of Growing Real LOVE:
1• CONFLICT IS GROWTH TRYING TO HAPPEN:
Most People Believe That If You're Having Problems In Your Marriage,
You're With The Wrong Person. So, When Conflict Gets Heated, They
Wonder If It's Time To Bail... And It's Not! Rather, If You're Willing
To Work With The Conflict, There Is Something Wonderful And Amazing
Waiting For You Right Around The Corner. The Key Is Learning How To
Work With Conflict Creatively- In Ways That Help Both You And Your
Partner Grow. Plus, Just Changing Your Perspective So That You View
Conflict As An Opportunity, An Indicator That It's Time To Grow, Can
Help Ease The Troubles You're Having•
2• IT'S NOT HIM; IT'S YOU:
Ninety Percent Of The Upset You Feel With Your Partner Comes From Your
Past. It's True! So Stop Blaming Your Partner. We Know That It's Hard
To Do, Especially When You Feel Miserable And It Seems As Though The
Source Of Your Misery Is, Well, That Annoying Person You're With. But
Here's The Thing: We Fall Head Over Heels In Love With Someone Who Is
Similar To Our Parents, Which Is A Mysterious Design That Holds The
Potential For Deep, Abiding Connection- Once You Get Past All The
Squabbling. So, The Next Time You Feel Your Blood Boiling, Remind
Yourself: This Feeling Has More To Do With My Past Than My Partner!
3• A LAUGH A DAY KEEPS THE DIVORCE LAWYER AWAY:
Sometimes We're So Busy Working On Our Relationships That We Actually
Forget To Enjoy Them. And What's The Point Of Doing All Of That Work
If You're Not Having Fun With Your Partner? Using Humour And Joy Is
Critical To A Couple's Happiness. Now, This Doesn't Mean You Get To
Dust Off Your Passive-Aggressive Tendencies And Use "Humour" To Zing
Your Partner With Little Digs Or Critiques. What It Means Is That You
Go Out And Have Fun. So, Create Fun Times Together By Mixing Things Up
A Little. Try Dance Lessons, Improve, A Cooking Class.
4• WANT TO SPICE UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP? DITCH ALL NEGATIVITY!
Why Are We So Inclined To Focus On What's Bad Instead Of What's Good?
Every Relationship Contains At Least Some Negativity, And The Amount
Of Negativity In A Relationship Is Directly Proportional To The Amount
Of Trouble It's In.
Negativity Includes Any/All Words, Tone Of Voice, Facial Expressions
And/ Or Behaviour Your Partner Says Feels Negative To Him/Her. And
Yes, Rolling Eyes Counts.
You See, Negativity Is Like Rat Poison; Nothing Can Grow In It. So, If
You Want Your Relationship To Grow, You've Got To Get Rid Of All
Negativity. Yes, All Of It. We Finally Did, And Infact, Our Zero
Tolerance Policy Is The Single Most Effective Strategy We've To Create
Real Love•
These Truths Can Help You Become Better Partners For Each Other And
Create Real, Lasting And Blissful Connection•
