It's True That A Person's Trustworthiness Can Only Be Measured Overtime, Since Words And Actions Are Revealed (And Assessed) Month After Month. Still, In The Early Stages Of A Relationship, There Are Helpful Signs To Watch For:
1. OBSERVE THE OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR PARTNER'S LIFE:
Does He/She Have Long-standing Friendships And Professional Relationships Built On Trust? Do People Comment On Your Partner's Dependability? You Can Tell A Lot About A Person's Character By The Calibre Of His Other Relationships.
2. TAKE YOUR TIME GETTING TO KNOW THE PERSON:
The Longer You Know Someone, The Harder It Is For That Person To Keep From Showing His Or Her True Colours.
3. BELIEVE THAT "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS:"
People Who Are Trustworthy Don't Spend A Lot Of Time Telling You How Trustworthy They Are. They Just Live It.
4. NOTICE HOW EVERYDAY COMMITMENTS ARE HANDLED:
Does He/She Show Up On Time? Does He/She Follow Through On His/Her Promises? Being Reliable With Little Things Should Give You Confidence About The Big Issues.
5. LISTEN FOR GOSSIP:
Spreading Rumours Is A Form Of Backstabbing- Breaking Someone's Trust Without Their Ever Knowing It.
6. BE ATTENTIVE TO EXAGGERATION:
Does He/She Say Things That Seem Too Good To Be True? If So, They Might Be.
7. BEWARE OF BLAME SHIFTING:
Trustworthy People Take Responsibility For Their Mistakes Rather Than Blaming Others.
8. BE ALERT TO EVASIVENESS:
If Your Partner Is Defensive Or Sensitive When You Ask Simple Questions About Where He/She Has Been, The Person May Be Hiding Something And Is Afraid You'll Put Two And Two Together.
9. DON'T BE FOOLED BY FLATTERY:
Does Your New Partner Promise You The Stars And Moon? Are His/Her Compliments Over The Top? Behind The Flattering Words, Does He Seem Driven By His Own Agenda And Needs, Rather Than A Sincere Interest In Getting To Know You And Your Needs?
10. DON'T DISMISS FLIRTING:
If You Notice Your Date Flirting With Someone Other Than You, Neon Lights Should Illuminate In Your Brain. Flirting Or Checking Out Other People In Your Presence Is A First Cousin Of Untrustworthiness.
11. SNIFF OUT SECRETIVENESS:
Do You Feel Closed Out To Certain Aspects Of Your Partner's Life? If So, You Have To Wonder What Lies Behind Those Cordoned-Off Areas. Secrets Arouse Suspicion- And Often For Good Reason.
12. BE WARY OF "Little White Lies."
Someone Who Bends The Truth "A Little" In The Early Stages Of A Romance Is Likely To Shred It To Pieces Later On. If You've Caught Your New Partner In A Seemingly Innocent Lie, Watch Out!
13. WATCH FOR INCONSISTENCY:
Deceptive People Must Work Hard To Keep Track Of What They Have Said, And To Whom. When The Details Of A Story Don't Add Up Or Keep Changing Over Time, It May Be A Sign That You're Not Getting The Straight Scoop.
14) TRUST UNTIL YOU ARE CONVINCED YOU SHOULDN'T:
If You've Been Burned In The Past, You May Feel Your Partner Isn't Entitled To Your Trust Until He/She "Earns" It. But An Untrusting Attitude Can Sabotage A Growing Relationship. Believe The Best About Your Partner- And He Might Be Motivated To Live Up To Your High Expectations.
15. ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS:
If You Suspect The Other Person Is Not Being Completely Honest And Forthcoming, Remember That You Are Entitled To The Truth. Don't Let Smokescreens Deter You From Getting A Straight Answer.
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