DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR?

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So The Last Guy You Dated Turned Out To Be A Self-Centered Jerk Who
Ended Up Cheating On You While You Were Making Plans To Move In With
Him As A Prelude To Marriage. This Time You Are Not Going To Settle
For Less, And The Good News Is That The Guy You Just Started Dating
Has Everything You're Looking For:

1• Nice Guy. Check.
2• Well Built. Check.
3• Intelligent. Check.
4• Successful. Check.
5• Good Looking. Check.
6• Age Appropriate. Check.
7• Religiously Compatible. Check.
8• Wants To Get Married And Have Kids. Check.

After A Three-Week Courtship, He Even Asks You To Be His Girlfriend
And Says He Wants To Have A Committed And Monogamous Relationship With
You. Fantastic! You Say Yes Amid High Hopes That He Could Be The One
You've Been Looking For, The One With Whom You Can Finally Settle
Down.

And There You Are The Following Weekend, Sitting Next To Him On His
Couch The Entire Day Watching Football With His Friends Before Going
Out On The Boat To Be Surrounded By A Large Group Of People.

Yawn.

What Happened?

What Happened Is That You Were So Eager To Find Someone- And SO
Focused On The External Checlist- That You Forgot Some Important
Items:

1• Emotionally Available.
2• Wants To Spend Time Alone With You.
3• Enjoys One-On-One Conversations.

The First Item Is A Reccuring Theme In All My Columns And I Could
Write A Whole Book About It (Actually, I Did). But The Last Two Are
Just As Important And Not As Obvious. And All Three Of Them Boil Down
To Whether This IS A Person Who Even Knows How To Have A Deeper
Relationship.

You Might Ask Yourself The Same Questions. Are You Emotionally
Available? Do You Want To Spend Time Alone With Your Partner? Are You
Comfortable With One-On-One Conversation?

Bottom Line Is That You Need To Be Careful What You Wish For.

Put Another Way, Make Sure You're Precise Enough When You Put Your
Order In With The Universe. Because The Universe Is Very Literal And
Has A Very Ironic Sense Of Humour.

You May Just Get All The Qualities You Asked For. And None Of The Ones
You Didn't.

Have You Thought About What's Most Important To You In A Partner?