Many Have Argued That A Man Cannot Genuinely Love More Than One Woman.
They Argue That If It Is More Than One Then It Is Lust Or Infatuation.
They Also Posit That "REAL LOVE" Trancends Any Degree. That Is, If You
Really Love A Woman It Is 100 Per Cent, It Can't Be Shared With Any
Other One, Else Lust Comes In•
Is There Any Merit In This Popular And Strongly Articulated Position?
Perhaps We Should Agree First On What LOVE Means To Have A Common Ground.
The Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary Defines Love As...
1)• Strong Feeling Of Deep Affection For Somebody,
2)• Strong Feeling Of Affection For Somebody That You're Sexually
Attracted To...
3)• The Strong Feeling Of Enjoyment That Somebody Or Something Gives You,
4)• A Person, Thing Or An Activity That You Like Very Much•
It Is Only Commonsensical And Normal That A Man Can Have The Above
Defined Feelings For Two Different Women. I Guess The Question Most
Folks (Women And Girls Especially) Really Want To Ask Is: Should A Man
Act On These Feelings? Should He Act On These Natural Instinct Or
Attraction And Go After All These Women? Now That's A Different
Question! But It Will Amount To Self-Deception And Delusion To Opine
That A Man Cannot Have Strong Feelings Of Affection For More Than One
Woman At The Same Time. It Simply Happens! But A Disciplined Man In A
Committed Relationship Or Who Has Taken Marital Vows With A Particular
Woman, Won't Act On These Feeling Except In The Instance Where His
Religion Or Personal Beliefs Allows Marrying More Than One Wife.
We're Only Taught By Culture Or Societal Norms To LOVE One Person In A
Relationship At A Time. The Capacity To Love Others Is Infinite
Especially As No Two People Are The Same. Should One Chase Two
Relationships At The Same Time Is Another Matter. This Widely Held
Misconception May Have Been Started By Puritans And Those At The Helm
Of Religious Affairs To Control Those With Roving Eyes And Hearts. It
Also Gives A Measure Of Comfort To Women That Once They Are The Apple
Of A Man's Heart, He Will Look No Further. But This Is Scant
Consolation In The Face Of Harsh Reality. It Is Better To Face The
Bitter Truth Of The Matter Than To Be Ensconced In The Comfort Of
Self-Deceit•
It Seems We Confuse Fidelity, Commitment And Marriage With The Issue
Of LOVE. Marriage As An Institution Excludes All Others Not In The
Union. Fidelity Means Staying Faithful To Your Spouse Or "LOVED" One.
A Man Can Love Any Number Of Women He Opens His Heart To. LOVE Comes
In Degrees. We Can Speak Of The Degree Or Intensity Of Love For Each
Of These Different Women But Not That It Must Be Infatuation To Have
Strong Feelings For More Than One WoMAN.
Reading From Various Sources, Love Is A Feeling Of Deep Affection Or
Passion. It Is Tender, Passionate Affection. It Is A Strong Personal
Liking. No Definition Of LOVE Anywhere Says That It Is The Exclusion
Of All Others!
Should A Man Pursue All The Women He Has Feelings Of Deep Affection Or
Passion For? That's A Moral And Different Question Altogether!
Some Religions Allow Marrying Up To Four Wives. And To Varying Degrees
The Husband Loves All His Wives. He May Have A Personal Ranking Of His
Level Of Affection For These Women But That Does Not Mean He Doesn't
Love Each Of Them•
Each Individual Brings Different Flavours To The Table. How Can He Not
Love Each Of Them For Their Different Pleasing Attributes? It Is A
FALLACY To Keep Insisting That There Is No Way A Man Can Love Two
Girls At The Same Time. And That One Must Be Infatuation. INFATUATION
Means To Inspire With A Foolish Love Or Admiration. The Men Caught In
These Situations Are Neither Foolish Nor Merely Out To Satisfy The
Flesh. They Know What They Feel And It Is LOVE.
Should A Man Therefore LOVE Two WOmen Or Pursue Two Relationships At
The Same Time Because He Has Natural Feelings? This Is A Moral
Question And It Is Different From: CAN A Man LOVE Two Women At The
Same Time?
