Struggle Constantly With Wishing Your Partner Were Different, And Feel
Pressured To Change Who You Are Because It Makes Things Run Smoothly,
You Could Be Settling For A Partner Who Is, Simply Put, Not A Great
Match For You. In Healthy, Happy And Lasting Relationships There Are
Significant Similarities That Both Partners Share, And Without
Aligning Relatively Well In These Areas, Most Relationships Are Headed
For Undue Hardship And Unhappiness•
The Key To Dating Well Is To Know Yourself And Your Partner Deeply
Enough To Be Able To Accurately Observe The Ways That You Interact
From The Beginning Stages Of The Relationship's Development. The
Feeling Of New Love Is Like Nothing Else, But If You Are Completely
Swept Away In Emotion To The Point That You Are Ignoring Obvious
Incompatibilities, You Might Find That Months And Maybe Even Years
Down The Road That You Feel "CHEATED" In Your Relationship. By
Ignoring The Following Seven Similarities You Could Be Missing Out On
A Much More Satisfying And Happy Relationship•
1අ SPIRITUAL HARMONY:
Although Not Always Referring To Religious Affiliation, Spiritual
Harmony Refers To A Shared Perception Of God Or A Higher Power As Well
As How Much Weight Spiritual Belief Weighs In On Your Life. It Is
About The Relationship Of Spirituality In Your Life. If You Are
Religious Or Very Spiritual And Your Partner Has A Very Low Level,
There May Be Problems, Especially If Marriage And Children Follow•
2අ DESIRE FOR VERBAL INTIMACY AND ABILITY TO BE INTIMATE:
Intimacy Is What Romantic Relationships Are All About-Emotional
Intimacy, Mental Intimacy, Physical Intimacy, And For Many Spiritual
Intimacy. A Committed, Monogamous Relationship Is A Special Union In
Which You Can Share The Most Intimate Sides Of Yourself And So Can
Your Partner With You. As Part Of Sharing This Intimacy, There Are
Three Key Factors: The Ability To Express, And The Ability To Listen
Well. Beyond Those Skills, Both Partners Must Have Mutual Desire To
Get To Know The Other On All Of These Levels. LOVE Is A Total Package,
And One That Must Be Wanted Equally By Both Parties•
3අ ENERGY LEVEL:
The Energy Level Of A Person May Sound Like Something Simple, But It
Can Affect Many Things About A Person, Including Other Key
Similarities Partners Should Share Such As Ambition Level, Interests
And Personal Habits. If The Disposition Of Your Partner Is More
Low-Key And Your Disposition Is All About High Energy Wave Making, You
CaN Be Sure That There Will Be Future Problems To Contend With-You'll
Want To Go, Go, Go, And Your Partner Will Feel Pressured And May Even
Pressure You To Slow Down, Down, Down•
4අ AMBITION LEVEL:
Differences In Ambition Levels Can Wreak Havoc In Relationships
Because Work And Achievement Is Such A Large Part Of Our Culture, And
Work In Most Cases Is Necessary For Survival. Those Who Are Highly
Goal-Driven Will Have A Hard Time Understanding Why Their Partner
Seems To Be "Aimless" Or Is Not Interested In Accomplishing Anything,
When To Their Partner, They May Seem Like They Never Take Time To Stop
And Simply Enjoy Life For What It Is. And Yet, Life For What It Is To
The Ambitious Is Work And Achievement. Therefore, Ambition Level Is
Best When Relatively Similar•
5අ ROLE EXPECTATION:
Not Just About Traditional Roles Of Who Stays Home And Who Works, Role
Expectations Can Involve Everything From Who Does Particular Household
Tasks Such As Shopping And Taking Out The Trash To Who Pays On A Date
To How A Person Should Dress. Role Expectations Should Be Similar And
Compatible. It Is Not So Important What The Roles Chosen Are, But That
Both PartnerS Enjoy And Are Happy With Mutual Expectations That
Partners Have For Each Other•
6අ INTERESTS:
Relationships Are Built On Love, Attraction, Compatibility And A
History Of Shared Experiences. Interests Help To Create Those Shared
Experiences That Become Memories Of Happy Moments Spent Together.
Looking Back, Participating In Particular Interests Becomes Evidence
Of The Good Times And Love That You Have Shared. While All Interests
Do Not Have To Be The Same, And Partners Can Introduce Really
Enjoyable Independent Interests, The Major Ones Should Be Relatively
Similar. If Your Idea Of A Saturday Involves A Beach Chair And A Great
New Bestselling Book, But Your Partner Is More Into Hiking, Biking And
Rock Climbing On His Days Off, Or Your Partner's Idea Of Riveting
Entertainment Is Rental Movies And Take Out On A Saturday Night But
You're Already Dressed And Ready To Go Out To Paint The Town Red, You
May Want To Reconsider Whether Your Interest Aligns Enough For A
Long-Term Relationship•
7අ PERSONAL HABITS:
Personal Habit Are Often Overlooked During The "Honeymoon Stage" Of
Any Relationship. In Fact, Even Some Of The Most Off-Putting Habits
Later Declared As Near-Deal-Breakers Are Even Regarded As "CUTE" Or
Endearing. Whether Or Not Your Partner Is On Time Or Runs Chronically
Late, Is Clean Or Messy, Is Responsible Financially Or Plays Things
More "Loose"- All These Personal Habits Come Into Play. Additionally,
Habits Like Weight Management Or Fitness Activity Level Are Equally
Important. There May Be Other Personal Habits That Particularly
Resonate With You As Being Unacceptable-Make Sure You Watch Out For
Them Agree To Come To Terms With Them; Most Times Habits Are Hard To
Break And Even Harder When They're Not Likely To CHANGE•
