INSECURITIES CAN RUIN SO MANY THINGS

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Being Insecure Is A Big Plague On A Person's Life Because Of A Variety
Of Reasons. Insecurity Is Bred By Low Self-Confidence, A Condition
That Causes A Person To Not Be All That They Are Capable Of. To Gain
This Confidence One Must Be Willing To Be Courageous Enough To Explore
Whom They Really Are At Their Heart's Level And To Be Even More
Courageous By Exhibiting To ThE World That They Are With No Question
Or Hesitation.

Being Insecure Is Like A Cancer To Every Relationship That A Person
Chooses To Become A Part Of. Insecurity Leads To Distrust, And
Distrust Leads To Problems Such As A Lack Of Passion, And The Loss Of
LOVE•

Escape From Living With The Disease Of Insecurity And Commit Your Life
To Feeling Secure With Whom You Are. In Turn This Will Affect Those
You Have A Relationship With By Reassuring Them That Because You Are
Confident In Who You Are, They May Be Able To Be Confident In Who Both
Of You Are As A COUPLE•

DANGEROUSLY IN LOVE: SIGNS TO PROTECT YOUR HEART FROM HARMING YOU

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In The Very Beginning, New Relationships Can Be Exciting And Take Us
On A Roller Coaster Ride. For Some, The More Tumultuous The Twists And
Turns, The More Intrigued We Become- Mistaking Dysfunction For A
"Normal" Relationship. While Not All Unhealthy Relationships Involve
Physical Abuse, It's Important To Recognize When A Partnership No
Longer Makes Us Feel Good About Ourselves•
Here Are Some Warning Signs To Look For To Help You Get Out Of A Bad
Situation Before You Find Yourself Dangerously In LOVE•••
1• A BAD TEMPER:
Does Your Mate Have A Short Fuse And Fly Off The Handle At The
Slightest Incident? Many Men Who Lose Their Temper Easily Find
Themselves Getting Physical With People Or Into Altercations With
Complete Strangers, And Will Eventually Aim His Anger Toward You.
Sometimes, Women Mistake This Negative Energy As Passion, And Feel
That It Is A Sign That He Truly Cares, When In Reality He's Just A
Ticking Time BOMB Waiting To Explode. Same Goes To Ladies Who Also Get
To Explode Aggressively On Their Partner Over Little Things•
2• JEALOUS BEHAVIOUR:
Jealousy Is Never Hot, On Anyone. And If Your Man/Woman Feels You Were
A Little "Too Friendly" Towards The Waiter, Things Can Get Very
Uncomfortable Very Quickly. If Your Partner Tries To Isolate You From
Your Friends, Your Family And The Rest Of The Outside World, Chances
Are His Insecurities Will Lead You To Feel Trapped And Resentful.
Constantly Feeling Like You Have To Defend Yourself Or Give In To
Jealous Tantrums Is A Sure Sign That There Is No Trust-And Where There
Is Relationship•
3• HE/SHE TRIES TO CONTROL YOU:
No One Wants To Be Bossed Around, Especially Not By Someone Who Is
Supposed To Be Your Partner In A Relationship. Your Mate Shouldn't
Feel The Need To Tell You What To Do, Who To Speak To, How To Behave,
Where You Can Or Cannot Go Or Who You Can Associate With. If He/She
Must Know Where You Are, Where You're Going And Who You're With At All
Times, He/She Probably Can't Be Trusted Too!
4• PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE:
Probably The Most Obvious Warning Sign Is If Your Partner Is
Physically Abusive Towards You. Love Is Never Supposed To Hurt, And
Raising A Hand To Someone In Anger Is Never Okay. If Your Mate Pushes,
Shoves, Slaps Or Punches You- For Any Reason - Run In The Other
Direction, Call The Police And Report The Abuse And Never Look Back.
Once It Starts, It Won't Stop Unless You Leave- And It'll Never Get
Better, Only Worse. Many Have Lost Their Lives Believing That Their
Man Will CHANGE•
5• VERBAL ABUSE:
Words Sting With The Same Power As A Punch, And Can Wear You Down To
The Point Where You Feel Worthless. If Your Mate Intimidates You,
Threatens You, Insults You Or Embrasses You In Private Or Public, It's
Time To Get Out Of The Relationship To Preserve Your Self Esteem And
Emotional Sanity. Your Mate Is Supposed To Love And Uplift You, Not
Shoot You Down Or Make You Feel Fearful Or Small In His Presence•
6• HE OR SHE ABUSES DRUGS OR ALCOHOL:
Most Physical Or Verbal Outbursts Are Fueled By Drug Or Alcohol Abuse,
So If You're Involved With An Addict Of Any Kind, It May Be Time To
Back Away From The Relationship While They Seek Rehabilitation. Some
People Do Things They Wouldn't Normally Do While Under The Influence,
But That Is No Excuse To Stay If They Can't Control Their Behaviour.
Some Men And Women Feel Guilty If They "Abandon" A Partner Fighting
Drug Or Alcohol Addiction, But Enabling Their Behaviour Will Only Make
It Worse. Leave For Your Own Safety While They Seek Help Elsewhere.
Their Sobriety Is Not Your Responsibility, Especially If Your Well
Being Is At Stake•

WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL

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"What Makes You Different Makes You Beautiful•"

The Things That Make You Different Are The Things That Make You
Beautiful. There Are Some Very Unique Traits That Every Single Person
In The World Has That Can't Be Compared To Any Other Person
Collectively. Sure, We All Have Our Similarities, But There Is No Way
That Two People Can Say That They Are Exactly Identical.

This Is One Of The Great Beauties That Life Has To Offer Us, Even
Though A Lot Of Us Choose Not To Acknowledge This Interesting Tidbit,
As They Desire To Fit In Instead Of Stand Out. Remember That If You
Ever Want Somebody To See How Truly Beautiful That You Are, You Have
To Be Willing To Live Your Life As Yourself. Don't Try On Someone's
Life In An Effort To Impress, Because In The End The Only Person They
Will Be Truly Impressed With Will Be You In The Outfit Of Another
Person•

MARITAL BLISS: KHALIA WEDS DARA

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This Last Weekend Herald A Lot Of Events, And Amonst Them Is The
Inestimable Union Between Khalia And Dara In HOLY MATRIMONY.

Now Who Says It Isn't Possible To Meet Your Life Partner Via The
Internet? On The Contrary, This Is One Union That Began A Long Time
Ago Via The Internet, And Has Stood The Test Of Time. DARA Is
Nigerian, While His Better Half 'KHALIA Is From North America.

One Would Expect That Since It Was A Long Distance Relationship Via
The Internet, A Lot Of Insecurities And Doubts Would Have Crippled The
Relationship. But Hell No! They Believed And Trusted Each Other So
Much To Have Come This Far To Seal It Up In Holy Matrimony. The
Wedding Which Was Held In Lagos Nigeria, Saw A Lot Of Family, Friends
And Well Wishers Who Came From In And Outside The Country Was A
SUCCESS And Is One To Be Talked About For A Very Long Time As Regards
Internet Dating/Relationships Been A POSSIBILITY And SUCCESS.

However, This Is Wishing KHALIA AND DARA MARITAL BLISS...GOD BLESS.

DON'T GET IT TWISTED: 7 BIG MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT VIRGINS

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As If Dating Wasn't Interesting Enough, Imagine The Look On A Guy's
Face When A Sistah Breaks This News To Him: "I'm A Virgin." The
Reaction Given When A Person Says They've Never Seen The Colour Purple
(Say WHAAAAAT!?). Yeah, In Their Face, It's Like They're Reaching For
The Right Thing To Say, But The Fact That They're Stunned Keeps Them
Pretty Speechless. You Actually Can Find A Much Worse Reaction When
You Tell Other Women About Your Virgin Status. They're Initially
Pretty Confused Or Say "Awwwwww" (Like You're A Bunny) And Then Play
Like It's All Good: "But Seriously, That's Awesome!" However, We Know
Inside They're All Thinking, "That Couldn't Be Me..."
In A Society That Is Driven By Sex, To Claim Yourself One Of The Few
People Around Who Passes On Doing It Comes With A Lot Of Side Eyes And
Misconceptions. I Thought I'd Take A Moment To Clear A Few Of These
Things Up•
1• THAT EVERY VIRGIN IS WAITING UNTIL MARRIAGE:
Every Virgin Is Different. While One Might Be Holding On To Their
Virginity For Religious Reasons And Indeed Want To Wait Until
Marriage, Others Might Be Opting Out Of Getting It In Because They're
Waiting For "That" Time. You Hear Enough Stories About People Their
Virginity To And Saying It Was Horrible And Hey, Sometimes That Makes
You Want To Wait A Bit Longer. And Also, Some Might Know Themselves
And Their Emotions And Think That If They Have Sex, They Could Get Too
Attached To The Guy They Laid Down With (A.k.a, Crazy), Best To Just
Wait For The Right One And Not The One Who Will Be Too Done With You
Right After...
2• YOU'RE A PRUDE-ISH ICE QUEEN:
No Worries, If You Talk About Sex, They Won't Hiss Like A Cat At The
Concept. And If You Touch Them In The Club, We Probably Won't Scream,
But You Might Get The Crazy Face. The Misconception That Because They
Haven't Actually Engaged In Sex Means That They Are Not Sexual Is
Pretty Ridiculous. Missy Once Said It Best: "Have You Ever Been In The
Mind Of A Virgin? It Gets Hot And Curious..." Assuming Folks Don't
Look At Guys In A "I'm Low-Key Undressing You With My Eyes" Type Of
Way Or Get Tempted When Dating One Is Not Right. Virgins Can Be Very
Sexual People, They Just Haven't Given "It" Up Yet. Don't Get It
Twisted Boo•
3• THAT YOU'RE DESPERATE:
I'd Also Like To Acknowledge The Perception That Virgins Are
Desperate. I've Seen Enough Comedies To Know That Virgins Are Looked
At As The Drunk Chicks At The Bar Trying To Throw Their V-Card On To
Someone. Anyone For That Matter I'm Sure There Are A Few Who Get To A
Certain Age Or Point And Want To Be Anything But A Virgin, But A Lot
Of Them Are Pretty Cool With Things The Way They Are.
4• YOU DON'T TALK ABOUT SEX:
Friends And Associates Shouldn't Feel Like They Have To Be Mum Or Dad
Around You About Their Exploits Just Because You Aren't Having Sex.
Just Because Someone Is A Virgin Doesn't Mean They Are Blind To The
Fact That Sex Is Everywhere: In Every Song, Every Movie, In Every Ad
And More, So If You Want To Talk About Sex, Then Talk About It!
Virgins Are Still Very Capable Of Being An Ear Open To Friends Who
Want To Brag Or Talk About Sexual Issues, And They Are Pretty Capable
Of Doing So Without Judging•
5• YOU HAVEN'T EXPERIENCED ANYTHING:
While You May Have Not Engaged In SeXUAL Intercourse, That Doesn't
Mean A Virgin Hasn't Engaged In Other Sexual Activities. Seriously,
Some Do..."Take Care Of Themselves" If You Know What I Mean, And
Others Do Everything BUT Sex (But Then Again, That Depends On What You
Classify As Sex Too). That Pretty Much Plays Into Why I Said Virgins
Can Be Sexual People. They Might Not Be Ready To Go To THAT Point With
Someone Yet, But That Doesn't Mean Some Of Them Haven't Tried Their
Hands At A Sexual Foreplay Or Own A Toy Or Two... ;-)
6• THAT YOU ARE NOT REAL A WOMAN...
Comments That Claim Virgins Aren't Really Living Until They've Had
Sex Are Pretty Random And Sound Like This: "When You Get Some, You
Won't Be Worried About---," "She Just Needs Some D*** And She Won't
Act Like That. " Say What You Want, But If You're Paying Your Own
Billl And Living On Your Own, I'd Say You're Pretty REAL•
7• THAT VIRGINS "LOOK" A CERTAIN WAY:
"You Don't Look Like Virgin. " Say What? I Guess Because You Choose To
Wear Skinny Jeans, Tight Tops And Show A Little Leg From Time To Time
You Just Look Like You're Down For Whatever. Not True. Just As It
Isn't True That Virgins Have A Certain Nerdy Or "Stay Away From Me"
Look. I'm Assuming People Think That They Like To Be Covered Up From
Head To Toe, Shop For Turtlenecks All Year RoUND And Don't Like Going
Out. And On Top Of That, That They're Either Really Angry, Really
Funny Looking, Or Don't Know How To Be Social Creatures. Once Again,
Every Virgin Is Different, And There's No Set Look Or Behaviour That
Classifies Them All. Like Most Stereotypes, Ones For Virgins Don't
Apply To Everyone.

What Are The Misconceptions You Often Hear About Virgins?