<@>Greatmindz<@>™
As If Dating Wasn't Interesting Enough, Imagine The Look On A Guy's
Face When A Sistah Breaks This News To Him: "I'm A Virgin." The
Reaction Given When A Person Says They've Never Seen The Colour Purple
(Say WHAAAAAT!?). Yeah, In Their Face, It's Like They're Reaching For
The Right Thing To Say, But The Fact That They're Stunned Keeps Them
Pretty Speechless. You Actually Can Find A Much Worse Reaction When
You Tell Other Women About Your Virgin Status. They're Initially
Pretty Confused Or Say "Awwwwww" (Like You're A Bunny) And Then Play
Like It's All Good: "But Seriously, That's Awesome!" However, We Know
Inside They're All Thinking, "That Couldn't Be Me..."
In A Society That Is Driven By Sex, To Claim Yourself One Of The Few
People Around Who Passes On Doing It Comes With A Lot Of Side Eyes And
Misconceptions. I Thought I'd Take A Moment To Clear A Few Of These
Things Up•
1• THAT EVERY VIRGIN IS WAITING UNTIL MARRIAGE:
Every Virgin Is Different. While One Might Be Holding On To Their
Virginity For Religious Reasons And Indeed Want To Wait Until
Marriage, Others Might Be Opting Out Of Getting It In Because They're
Waiting For "That" Time. You Hear Enough Stories About People Their
Virginity To And Saying It Was Horrible And Hey, Sometimes That Makes
You Want To Wait A Bit Longer. And Also, Some Might Know Themselves
And Their Emotions And Think That If They Have Sex, They Could Get Too
Attached To The Guy They Laid Down With (A.k.a, Crazy), Best To Just
Wait For The Right One And Not The One Who Will Be Too Done With You
Right After...
2• YOU'RE A PRUDE-ISH ICE QUEEN:
No Worries, If You Talk About Sex, They Won't Hiss Like A Cat At The
Concept. And If You Touch Them In The Club, We Probably Won't Scream,
But You Might Get The Crazy Face. The Misconception That Because They
Haven't Actually Engaged In Sex Means That They Are Not Sexual Is
Pretty Ridiculous. Missy Once Said It Best: "Have You Ever Been In The
Mind Of A Virgin? It Gets Hot And Curious..." Assuming Folks Don't
Look At Guys In A "I'm Low-Key Undressing You With My Eyes" Type Of
Way Or Get Tempted When Dating One Is Not Right. Virgins Can Be Very
Sexual People, They Just Haven't Given "It" Up Yet. Don't Get It
Twisted Boo•
3• THAT YOU'RE DESPERATE:
I'd Also Like To Acknowledge The Perception That Virgins Are
Desperate. I've Seen Enough Comedies To Know That Virgins Are Looked
At As The Drunk Chicks At The Bar Trying To Throw Their V-Card On To
Someone. Anyone For That Matter I'm Sure There Are A Few Who Get To A
Certain Age Or Point And Want To Be Anything But A Virgin, But A Lot
Of Them Are Pretty Cool With Things The Way They Are.
4• YOU DON'T TALK ABOUT SEX:
Friends And Associates Shouldn't Feel Like They Have To Be Mum Or Dad
Around You About Their Exploits Just Because You Aren't Having Sex.
Just Because Someone Is A Virgin Doesn't Mean They Are Blind To The
Fact That Sex Is Everywhere: In Every Song, Every Movie, In Every Ad
And More, So If You Want To Talk About Sex, Then Talk About It!
Virgins Are Still Very Capable Of Being An Ear Open To Friends Who
Want To Brag Or Talk About Sexual Issues, And They Are Pretty Capable
Of Doing So Without Judging•
5• YOU HAVEN'T EXPERIENCED ANYTHING:
While You May Have Not Engaged In SeXUAL Intercourse, That Doesn't
Mean A Virgin Hasn't Engaged In Other Sexual Activities. Seriously,
Some Do..."Take Care Of Themselves" If You Know What I Mean, And
Others Do Everything BUT Sex (But Then Again, That Depends On What You
Classify As Sex Too). That Pretty Much Plays Into Why I Said Virgins
Can Be Sexual People. They Might Not Be Ready To Go To THAT Point With
Someone Yet, But That Doesn't Mean Some Of Them Haven't Tried Their
Hands At A Sexual Foreplay Or Own A Toy Or Two... ;-)
6• THAT YOU ARE NOT REAL A WOMAN...
Comments That Claim Virgins Aren't Really Living Until They've Had
Sex Are Pretty Random And Sound Like This: "When You Get Some, You
Won't Be Worried About---," "She Just Needs Some D*** And She Won't
Act Like That. " Say What You Want, But If You're Paying Your Own
Billl And Living On Your Own, I'd Say You're Pretty REAL•
7• THAT VIRGINS "LOOK" A CERTAIN WAY:
"You Don't Look Like Virgin. " Say What? I Guess Because You Choose To
Wear Skinny Jeans, Tight Tops And Show A Little Leg From Time To Time
You Just Look Like You're Down For Whatever. Not True. Just As It
Isn't True That Virgins Have A Certain Nerdy Or "Stay Away From Me"
Look. I'm Assuming People Think That They Like To Be Covered Up From
Head To Toe, Shop For Turtlenecks All Year RoUND And Don't Like Going
Out. And On Top Of That, That They're Either Really Angry, Really
Funny Looking, Or Don't Know How To Be Social Creatures. Once Again,
Every Virgin Is Different, And There's No Set Look Or Behaviour That
Classifies Them All. Like Most Stereotypes, Ones For Virgins Don't
Apply To Everyone.
What Are The Misconceptions You Often Hear About Virgins?
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