What To Do To Get To Know And Attract A Man Through The Things You Say
In E-Mails Or Phone Calls In Order To Create Interest Before You Meet
In Person.
Ok, Let's Say You "Meet" A Man Online And Start To Correspond With Him
On A Daily Basis. He's Intelligent, Charming, Attractive And Has A Lot
Going For Him In General. You Have Fun Communicating With Him And
Make Sure To Do And Say Things That Would Help Determine If He's The
Right Guy And Capture His Attention If He Is.
But Then It Happens...
Out Of The Blue He Stops Writing Or Calling And You're Left Feeling
Confused And Disappointed Because Out Of All Your Matches, This Guy
Was The One You Were Most Excited About Meeting. This Is Never A Fun
Feeling. How Can You Get To Know The Right Man Online And Do It In A
Way That Increases The Chances You'll Keep Him Attracted From The
First "Hello" All The Way Through A First Date... And Beyond?
GET CLEAR ON WHAT ONLINE DATING IS FOR:
First Of All, I Want To Make A Distinction About What I Believe Online
Dating Is. Online Dating Is A Great Way To Get Introduced And To
Qualify Men Who Share Your Interests And Values, For The Purpose Of
Seeing If There Is Spark Enough There To Meet In Person.
A Few E-Mails, Phone Calls, And Text Messages Are A Kind Of Virtual
"Flirting." There Is No Real Relationship Yet In The Man's Mind.
Therefore, If You've Been Talking To A Man Online For A Little While
(Weeks Or Months) And He Suddenly Stops Writing Or Takes Longer To
Write You Back, Don't Take It Too Personally.
The Key Here Is Not To Overanalyze Why. There Is No Rhyme Or Reason
For Why A Man Will Do This, And Trying To Figure It Out Will Not Only
Drive You Crazy, But You'll Inadvertently Give Off A "Vibe" That Won't
Help You. As Disappointing As It May Feel, It's Best To Just Move On.
My Quick Tip Is To Qualify With A Phone Conversation First, Then Meet
A Guy For A Low-Pressure Or Fun "Get To Know Each Other" Event. This
Can And Will Save You Time, Energy And Confusion.
But There's More To It Than Just This....
THE DANGER OF THE "INSTANT CONNECTION"
When You Start Talking To A Man Online It's Easy To Get Addicted To
The Feeling Of Emotional Connection When You "Click" With Him And
You're Both Sharing Personal, Intimate Things About Yourselves With
Each Other.
For Some Women, Talking To A Man Online Can Be The Only Recent
Experience Of Dating Someone Their Own Age And Feeling Comfortable
With It. Becareful Here. Don't Make The Mistake Of Thinking That You
Ability To Share And Connect Will Translate Well When You Meet In
Person. He May Not Act Or Talk The Same Way That He Writes. You May
Not Feel As Comfortable With Him In Person As You Do Online, Or Feel
The Same Chemistry.
HOW TO STAND OUT AND BE UNIQUELY ATTRACTIVE:
When You're Moving Through The Steps Of Getting To Know A Man Online,
You Want To Communicate That You're Having Fun And Enjoying Yourself,
Without Pushing Toward The Next Step. If A Man Is Interested, He'll Be
Asking For Your Number Or Working Toward Setting Up A First Date.
You Want To Avoid Asking Him If He's Open To Having A Relationship
With You (He Isn't Thinking That Yet), Or Trying To Get Him To Approve
Of The Way You Look Or The Type Of Woman That You Are.
One Of The Most Common And Unattractive Things That Men Experience
Over And Over Online And In Their Dating Life Are Women Who Are
Constantly Seeking Approval Or Jumping Into "Relationship Mode" Too
Quickly. If You Want To Be Uniquely Attractive, It's Important To
Avoid Doing Thisāļ
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