HOW TO BE THE RIGHT PERSON FOR A RELATIONSHIP

A Lot Of People's Childhood Fairy Tale Was To Grow Up, Fall In Love, Then Get Married And Live Happily Ever After. They Believed Or Still Believe There Is That Perfect Someone Out There Just For Them. They Just Needed To Find Him/Her To Make Their Fairy Tale Come True.

The Truth Is "Happily Ever After" Is More Of A Fairy Tale Than Reality. That's Why After Several Failed Relationships And Marriages, A Lot Of People Began To Realize That Perhaps At Least Part Of The Problem Was Not With Their Partner's, But With Them.

How Do You Seek To "Be" The Right Person In Your Relationship? Here Are Some Tips:

1) BE AUTHENTIC:

While It's Certainly Okay To Want To Make A Good First Impression, It's Important Not To Misrepresent Yourself. Don't Pretend That You Like To Travel If What You Really Want At The End Of The Day Is To Fall Asleep In Your Own Bed, Watch Television.

2) RECOGNIZE THAT YOU ARE NOT THE RIGHT PERSON FOR EVERYONE:

While I Don't Believe That There's Only One Perfect Person Out There For Each Of Us, I Know For A Fact That There Are Plenty Of People That Aren't Right For Each Other.

3) PRACTICE THE ART OF COMPROMISE (With A Smile):

You Shouldn't Expect Your Partner To Be Perfect, And Same Applies To You. Therefore, Compromise With Each Other... And Do It With A Smile.

4) LOOK AT YOUR RELATIONSHIP THROUGH A TELESCOPE:

Try To Look At The Positives In Your Relationship Through The Magnifying End Of The Telescope And The Negatives Through The Opposite End.

5) MAINTAIN INTERESTS AND FRIENDSHIPS OUTSIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP:

Few People Do Well Together 24/7, And By Having Outside Interests And Friendly Relationships You Remove Unnecessary Pressure From Each Of You To Be Everything For One Another Every Moment Of Every Day.

Each Of Us Needs A Dream To Give Our Lives Direction And Meaning. Each Of Us Should Seek Not Only To Find The Right Person, But Also To Be The Right Person, And Help Your Relationship.
Sent From Dee Dollar's Mobile® smartphone, Powered By
<@>DaCreAme InC<@>™ © Copyright 2015•

POST ELECTION VIOLENCE

At A Time Like This, It Really Amazes Me On How Most Of Our Youths Result Into Violence As A Way Of Trying To Show Their Support Or Disdain For Certain Political Aspirant. Once Upon A Time, I Thought The Only People Who Would Be Lured Into Post Election Violence Are The Illiterate And Helpless Youths... But I Was Wrong! Because In Recent Times, I've Witnessed The "So Called" Learned And Literate Following Suit. Infact, They Are At The Forefront Of It.

Some Years Back During A Campaign By A Certain Governorship Aspirant Who Is Currently The Incumbent Governor Of The State, He Was At That Time Throwing His Tape In The Air, And I Happened To Be Walking Out Of An Eatery After Having Lunch, When One Of His Tapes Landed In Front Of Me... I Was About Picking It Up, When Some Young Men Charged At Me... Being Well Trained In Self Defence, I Saw An Opportunity To Put To Effective Use In Defence What I've Practised Over The Years. I Sure Inflicted On Those Three Young Men Wounds That Would Leave Them Partially Disabled For The Rest Of Their Lives. Someone Might Say That Was Been Violent of Me, But That Wouldn't Have Been Necessary If Those Young Men Acted Wisely. Though A Thing I Wasn't Most Proud Of... And Something They'd Obviously Be Regretting Till Date. The Funny Part Was This All Happened Opposite A Police Station, And The Officers Were Just Standing There Observing. Afterwards, They Came Forward Only To Say I Was Under Arrest For Disturbing The PEACE... WHAAAAT??? I Exclaimed, Didn't You Guys See What Just Happened? Atleast The Crowd Here Can Testify To That. Besides How Can Three Men Against One Be Tagged As "Disturbing The PEACE?" Am I The One Campaigning Or Holding A Weapon Here, As I Believed You Officers Saw What Happened. I Had To Show An I.D Before They Allowed Me Walk Away. Just Then I Thought To Myself... So If I Wasn't Prepared For Self Defence, That's How Those Young Men Would Have Either Killed Or Maimed Me Over An Election.

I Really Wish Our Youths Who Engage In Post Election Violence Could See The Damage They Are Doing To Themselves And Others During Elections. The People You Are Fighting For Are Not Your Father, Neither Are They Your Family Member... Even If They Are, Why Become A Weapon Of Violence And Destruction At Their Disposal? How Much Are They Even Paying You? Money That Can't Buy The Cheapest Champagne, Money That Wouldn't Last You A Week In Four Years Minimum They Are Gonna Spend In Office #Smh

I Go Out And I See Youths Arguing And Fighting Over Who They Want To Be In Power, And I Ask Myself "Does It Warrant All These?" Even Some Of Us On Social Media Are Not Left Out. Why Insult Yourselves And Throwing Tantrums Over Such Issues? The Funny Part Is That The People Arguing And Shouting The Most In Violence Are Not Eligible To Vote, And Majority Who Are Eligible Don't Have A Voters Card. So Why Messing Yourselves Up?

I Was At A Youth Seminar Recently And The Issue Of The Election Was Raised... After The Arguments, I Then Asked How Many Of Them Who Were Eligible To Vote Had Their Voters Card,,, Was Surprised To See That 90% Of Them Don't Have It Because They Didn't Register. I Wonder How They Want To Vote. Tomorrow They Would Be The Ones Trying To Cause Trouble For Those Who Want To.

Don't Result Into Violence Just Because You Want Change, Because When The Change Comes, It May Not Be Worth The Trouble And Violence Put In To It Afterall, That Is If You Are Even Alive To Witness The "So Called" CHANGE.

VOTE The Person You Want Without Having To Criticise Other Aspirants Based On Sentiments And Ethnicity.
Sent From Dee Dollar's Mobile® smartphone, Powered By
<@>DaCreAme InC<@>™ © Copyright 2015•

THE POWER OF GIFTS

Everyday As I Go About My Duties And Responsibilities, I See And Come Across A Whole Lot Of People Struggling Through Life. Some In Their Finances, Some In Their Jobs, Some In Their Relationships, Some In Their Studies E.t.c

Oftentimes, I Just Feel Like Helping Them Out Of Their Misery. But I Can Only Reach A Few. Therefore, I'm Using Mediums Like This To Reachout To As Many As I Can. I Know When People See Or Hear Things Like This, They Think You Wanna Give Them Money... NO! Its Not Always About Money, But Sometimes Words Can Go Beyond Where Money Can.

Today I Want To Relate To Us One Secret To Living A Successful Life... And That Is...

THE POWER OF GIFTS

Many Of Us Don't Understand The Effect Of This Powerful Tool. If We Do, We Would Not Be At The Level We Are Today.

When You Give Someone A Gift, You Are Putting That Person In A Place Of Being Indebted To You. Besides Everyone Loves Gifts, Therefore Use This Powerful Tool To Your Advantage.

I'm Not Talking About Giving To The Poor And Needy Here... That's Is Not What I'm Trying To Address. I'm Talking About Giving Gifts To People Who Are Ahead Of You, People Who Are In Places That Matters. You May Not Need Their Help Today, But You Are Opening Doors Of Opportunities For Yourself In The Future. Making Them Indebted To You.

Infact, The Best Time To Give Gifts To Such People Is When You Don't Immediately Need Anything From Them. So That When The Time Comes When You Need A Favour From Them, They Can't Hesitate. They Can Go As Far As Breaking Protocol To Make Way For You.

Imagine Sending Your Boss At Work A Gift Sometimes, Don't You Think If His To Recommend Or Suggest Somebody For A Promotion Or Any Goodies In The Company You'd Be Number One On The List?

Imagine, Don't You Think Sending A Gift To Your Lecturer In School And Even The VC Of The School Can Make A Difference? Now I Don't Mean Because You Are Failing In School, But When Your Grades Are Good, So They Don't Suspect You Are Trying To Buy Your Way. So That When There Is Any Inconsistency In Your Grades, Or They Want To Do Certain Things That Would Affect Others, They'd Skip You.

Are You Looking For A Job, Are You Seeking For A Contract, Do You Want That Client To Have You Always In Mind Or Whatever It Is, Find Out Who Is Incharge And Start By Giving Gifts Before Hand. So That When There Is An Opportunity, They Cannot Hesitate To Have You Fixed First Before Others.

Remember, Its Not In The Size Or How Expensive The Gift Is. The Person May Not Need It. But The Fact That You Have Given Would Leave An Impression On The Receiver.

Also Remember, The Bible Also Made It Clear When It Stated "A Man's Gift Maketh Room For Him, And Bringeth Him Before Great Men." (Proverbs 18:16).

Its All Part Of The Sacrifices Of Working And Walking Your Way To The Top.
Sent From Dee Dollar's Mobile® smartphone, Powered By
<@>DaCreAme InC<@>™ © Copyright 2015•

AFTER SEX IS INVOLVED

WHY IT SEEMS LIKE MOST GUYS TEND TO QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP AFTER SEX IS INVOLVED

Overtime, I've Heard So Many Complains From Ladies ... Saying, What Most Guys Want Is Sex, And After The Sex... Phewww... They Are Gone Like The Wind, Or They Start Misbehaving. And They Say This Without Thinking About The Part They Played In Making That True To An Extent. So I Decided To Come Up With This Article To Open Our Eyes To Something Majority Of Us Fail To Notice.

I Very Much Believe From Careful Study And Observation Of Various Relationships That The Ladies Are Oftentimes The Reason Why Some Guys Bail Out After Sex. I Can Already Feel The Face Of Some Ladies Turning Into A Frown... Yes Its True! Therefore, Before You Start Attacking Me, Let Me Paint The Picture Clear.

Like It Has Always Been Said, The Way Men Reason Out Relationship Issues Is Quite Different From How Women Reason It.

Women Are Quite Territorial And Sexually Reserved In Nature, And Privacy Means A Lot To Them. What Is Normal To Men, Can Be Abnormal To Women. So The Moment Sex Gets Involved In A Relationship, Everything Changes For The Lady, But In The Eyes Of The Guy, NOTHING CHANGED. Cause For Him Everything Goes Back To Normal, But For The Lady, It Has All Gone Beyond Normal. Because To Her She Has Given Up Her Dignity And Broken Down Her Pride For You... So She Expects More Than What It Used To Be From You. This Is The Point Where The Lady Starts Noticing The Little Things The Guy Does That Is Quite Unusual... Maybe He Calls Her 3times A Day Before, But After Sex Is Involved, He Now Calls Once, Or Doesn't Call At All. He Usually Sends Her A Text First Thing Every Morning And The Last Thing At Night... But Now No Such Thing. Just Then The Lady Feels Sex Was What The Guy Wanted All Along, And Now He Has Gotten What He Wanted And His True Character Has Emerged.

WHAT HAPPENS TO THE GUY AFTER SEX IS INVOLVED?

What Happened Oftentimes To The Guy Is What Is Called "Regroup" After Sexual Intimacy. A Time When The Guy Sits And Tries To Relief And Ponder On The New Experience Of What You Both Shared (SEX). Now For A Guy Whose Intentions From The Onset Was To Get The Sex And Go, He Is Thinking "Do I Stay To Love And Keep This Lady Or Just Go? Afterall, I've Gotten What I Want. While The Guy Who Truly Loves The Lady Is Thinking "Okay... Now That Sex Is Involved Its A Proof That I Finally Have Her To Myself. So I Think I Should Slow Down And Get Back To NORMAL MODE." And What Is The "Normal Mode?" Its A Mode Where All The Consistently Trying To Please The Lady By Calling Her 10times A Day, Texting Everytime He Gets The Opportunity And All Other Overly Exaggerated Show Of Love Is Brought To What He Thinks It Should Be. Maybe If He Was Calling 3times A Day Before, He Now Reduces It To Just Once A Day, Or As He Pleases.

Now What Would Make The Two Kind Of Guys Analysed Above Stay Or Go Depends On The Ladies Involved. And That I Would Talk About In The Latter Part Of This Article. Which Is Where Most Ladies Get It Wrong After Sex, And Then End Up Thinking Sex Was What The Guy Wanted All Along.

WHAT HAPPENS TO THE LADY AFTER SEX?

Like I Stated Earlier, Ladies Are Territorial And Sexually Reserved In Nature, So The Moment They Give In To Sex With A Guy They Are In A Relationship With, They Expect Things To Step Up Just Immediately. They Start Wanting The Guy To Take Full Responsibility For Whatever Happens In The Relationship, And Start Reading Meaning To Everything The Guy Does That Isn't Pleasing To Them.

WHAT MAKES THE GUYS WANT TO RUN AWAY

The Point Is That After Sex Is Involved, The Wall Of Pretence Is Broken Down And The Real Characteristics Of Both Party Now Begins To Emerge. Now Most Ladies Start Becoming Insecured, Clingy, Needy, Desperate, Inquisitive, Anxious, Judgmental, Dictating, Authoritative, Naggy And More. Now Most Ladies Start Exhibiting One Or Two And Even More Of These Characteristics, And That Sort Of Starts Giving The Guy Involved A Wrong Vibe About Her.

After Sex Is Involved, Most Guys Wants To Slow Things Down, And Then Get The Lady To See Things For What They Really Are, Then Adjust For Both Party To Start Building And Gathering Momentum For The Next Phase Of The Relationship.

Another Problem That Sends Most Guys Running Away Most Times After Sex Is Involved, Is When Sex Is Involved Too Early. So When A Lady Starts Displaying Any Of The Characteristics Mentioned Earlier, The Guy Quickly Reaches For The Exit Door Without Thinking Twice. Because There Was No Strong Bond And Commitment Before The Sex.

But If There Was A Strong Bond And Commitment, Even When The Lady Starts Displaying Those Characteristics, He Certainly Would Be Able To Understand And Get The Lady To Understand Him Too, And Everything Works Out Fine Eventually.

Besides, I See A Whole Lot Of Teenage Relationships Lately... So The Statistics Of The Guys They Are Involved With Running Away After Sex Is Very High. Because Most Of These Teenagers Are Yet To Master And Put Their Emotions In Check.

Therefore, A Guys Commitment To A Lady After Sex, Often Lies In The Ability Of The Lady To Handle Her Obsessive Behaviours After Sex Is Involved.

WHAT SHOULD BE DONE TO KEEP THE GUYS FROM RUNNING AWAY

After Sex Is Involved, It Is Expected Of You As A Lady To Be Non-Critical, Radiate Feminine Energy That Is Being Laid Back, Comforting, Alluring, Confidence, Joy, Happiness, Self-Control.

As A Lady After Sex Is Involved, You Need To Calm Down And Be Incharge Of Your Emotions. Don't Expect The Guy To Be All Over You Inlove, Or Expecting Him To Act The Way He Did When He Was Still Chasing After You. Show Him Love, Don't Leave Every Relationship Responsibilities To Him Alone To Shoulder Because He Has Started Having Sex With You... Don't Set Your Expectation Too High.

NOTE: I Very Much Understand That There Are Guys Who Just Want Sex, And When They Get It, They Are Gone. But What I'm Basically Addressing Is Why Guys Who Truly Would Have Been Committed To A Relationship After Sex Run Away Rather Than Stay And Take It To The Next Level.

Besides I've Seen Guys Who Intend To Just Have Sex And Go, Who End Up Staying After Sex Is Involved, And Are Today Happily Married To The Same Ladies They Wanted To Play Games With. It All Boils To How Well The Ladies Involved Took Charge Of Their Emotions, And How Well They Were Able To Adapt And Take Care Of Their Responsibilities.

Remember, That You Gave Into Sex With Him Doesn't Yet Make Him Your Husband, So Don't Start Challenging Him On Certain Things Like A Wife Will! Else You'll Be A Victim Of A Runaway Boyfriend After Sex Is Involved.
Sent From Dee Dollar's Mobile® smartphone, Powered By
<@>DaCreAme InC<@>™ © Copyright 2015•

HARD- LEARNED LOVE LESSONS

While There Are Very Few Guarantees In Life And Love, One Thing's For Sure. Along The Road Toward Happily Ever After, There Will Be Plenty Of Bumps. But That Doesn't Necessarily Make The Journey Unpleasant. In Fact, Some Of The Lessons You Learn In Life And Love May Be Hard To Swallow, But Ultimately Make You A Stronger, Healthier, And Happier Individual. What Follows Are Some Hard- Learned Love Lessons. See Which Ones You've Already Encountered, As Well As The Ones You've Yet To Experience.

¤ SOME RELATIONSHIPS ARE TEMPORARY

When You Acknowledge That Some Relationships Are Temporary, You Learn To Stop Blaming Yourself For What You Perceive As Relationship Failures, And Instead See Them For What They Are- Valuable Life Lessons. With The Benefit Of Hindsight, It's Probably Clear That The Relationships That Ended Were With Partners Who Weren't Your Perfect Match.

Maybe Your Personalities Didn't Mesh, Your Goals And Future Vision Were Not Aligned, Or Your Priorities Conflicted. As Painful As These Breakups Can Be, They Happen For A Reason. Not Only That, But If You're Totally Honest With Yourself, You'll Admit That You're Much Better Off As A Result Of The Relationship And Breakup Than You Would Have Been Had You Never Experienced The Love And Loss In The First Place.

¤ LEARN/APPLY YOUR LESSONS QUICKLY

Just As Breakups Happen For A Reason, The Lessons You Learn As A Result Of Heartache Are Valuable As Well. For Example, You May Never Have Known The Importance Of Being With Someone Who Makes You A Priority Had You Not Gone Through A Relationship Where Your Partner Put Work, Friends, And Hobbies Before You. Or You May Not Have Realized The Importance Of Healthy Family Relationships Until You Dated Someone Whose Family Life Was Incredibly Dysfunctional. Not Only Is It Important To Identify The Lessons You Learn Along The Journey Toward Happily Ever After, But You Owe It To Yourself To Apply The Lessons Learned, Paying Attention To Red Flags As They Are Revealed To You In The Future.

¤ YOUR PARTNER CANNOT FIX YOU OR YOUR LIFE

Once Upon A Time, Women Were Raised To Believe That Prince Charming Would One Day Swoop In On A White Steed And Save Them From Whatever They Didn't Like About Themselves Or Their Lives. This Antiquated Fairy Tale Is In Need Of A Major Rewrite. In Fact, If Your Perfect Partner Were To Arrive In The Middle Of Your Messy And Miserable Life, Chances Are He Would Make A Hasty Retreat. Which Is Why It's Essential To Take Steps To Fix Whatever It Is That You Don't Enjoy About Your Life, Starting Today. If You Don't Like Your Job, Do Something About It. IF You're Burdened By Debt, Take Steps To Remedy The Situation, Day By Day, Week By Week. Don't Expect Some Guy To Solve Your Problems Or Rescue You From Your Everyday Existence. It's Just Not Going To Happen. Instead, It's Up To You To Rescue Yourself.

¤ FIGURE OUT WHAT REALLY MAKES YOU HAPPY

Since It's Unlikely That You Perfect Partner Will Magically Appear And Save The Day, It's Essential That You Figure Out What Makes You Happy- Today! Once You Do, Empower Yourself To Take The Necessary Steps To Change Your Life Accordingly. By Creating And Embracing A Life You Love, You're All The More Likely To Attract The Love Of Your Life. In Doing So, You Increase Your Chances Of Relationship Success, Because Both You And Your Partner Were Happy As Individuals Before Coming Together As A Couple.

¤ TIME BETWEEN RELATIONSHIPS IS JUST AS VALUABLE AS BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP

We All Know Someone Who Floats From Partner To Partner, Relationship To Relationship. However, This Kind Of Behaviour Is Not Something To Envy. Truthfully, Time Between Relationships Is Just As Important To Your Personal Growth As Time Spent In Relationships. By Taking Time After A Breakup To Heal, Learn Your Lessons, And Get To Know The New You That's Emerging As A Result Of Those Life Experiences, You Give Yourself The Opportunity To Grow As An Individual. PLUS, You Discover Your Own Resilience, Something YOU'd Never Experience If You Floated From Partner To Partner.

It's These Life Lessons That Ultimately Make You A Better Person And Eventually A Better Partner In Your Next Relationship. Don't Cheat Yourself Out Of Valuable ME Times Between Breakups. You'll Miss Out On So Much!
Sent From Dee Dollar's Mobile® smartphone, Powered By
<@>DaCreAme InC<@>™ © Copyright 2015•