WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING TO ME? DEALING WITH UPSETS IN DATING

Instead Of Freaking Out When Things Go Off Track. Use The Upsets To
Steer You Toward Great LOVE.

During Your Search For Love And Self Growth, You Have Some Good Days
Where You Feel Like You Are Getting Closer Than Ever And Then, There
Are Those Ugly Days Where You Feel Like You Fell Into A Dark Pit. The
Biggest Lie You Have Been Told Is The Idea Of A Magical Quick Fix, And
When Things Get A Little Tough, You May Panic As If You Are Screwing
Up Terribly In The Process.

When You Have A Setback You May Immediately Feel Like A Victim And
Wonder, "Why Is This Happening To Me?" You Have Been Doing Great Work,
Trying To Improve Yourself, And "Why Is Life Throwing Me This Right
Now? Why Did He Leave? Why Didn't That Relationship Work Out? What Is
Wrong With Me?

First, You Have To Remember That All Set-Backs Are Temporary And A
Valuable Part Of The Consciousness Growth Process. You Don't Move In A
Gradual Uphill Motion, Your Growth Looks More Like A Corkscrew.
Sometimes You Have To Take One Step Back In Order To Propel You Three
Steps Forward.

If You Don't See A Setback As An Opportunity, You Will Stay Stuck And
Feel Sorry For Yourself. Worse, You Will Give Up And Go Back Into Your
Old Life. There Is A Quote That I Heard Recently That Said, "Pain Is
Temporary. If You Quit, However, It Will Last Forever."

Ask The Question With Curiosity Instead Of Fear, "Why Is This
Happening?" And Expect The Answer To Be For Your Growth. Instead Of
Trying To Re-Engineer Regrets Over Past Actions, Welcome The
Opportunity Just As It Is And Learn From It. Everything, I Repeat
Everything That Comes Into Your Life Is To HELP You. Even The Crappy
Stuff.

Why Do We Need Crappy Things To Happen? Because It Is The Only Way We
Can See Where We Are Off Track. Just Like Our Body Shows Us Pain When
We've Strained Our Muscles Or Don't Get Enough Food, Our Minds Reflect
Back To Us The Parts That Are In The Way Of Our Goals.

The Emergency Broadcast System Of Upset Is Highly Active When We Set
An Intention And Start Moving Toward A Goal. The Challenges Are
Telling You, "Hey, You Want LOVE, Well This Is The Way. Deal With This
And We Can Move Forward To Giving You What You Want." Each Time You
LEARN From The Setback And Use That Energy, You Propel Three Times
Faster. You Get More Jet Fuel For Love.

Sadly, Most People Are Taught To Clear Negativity, Remove Blockages
With Magical Cures And Then People Stay Stuck Because They Don't Learn
From It. They Just Numb It Away Like Aspirin On Their Headache. You
Cannot Destroy Or Remove Anything, So If You Judge It As Bad, You Are
Actually Suppressing It Deeper Into Your Shadow And It Will Show Up
Again In Another Problem.

Ideally, You Want To Transform It The First Time So You Aren't
Building Up More Shadow And Drawing Into Your Life An Even Larger
Issue. Yikes. This Energy Will Keep Pressing Forward So You Can Use It
Or It Will Drag You Around Your Life And Ruin Your Relationships.
Then, It Will Seem Like You Are Constantly Healing Yourself And
Nothing Is Changing. Does That Sounds Familiar?

Here Are Five Easy Steps To Do When Something Doesn't Go Your Way Or
You Are Having A Crisis Of Some Kind (Breakup, Bad Business Decision,
Bad Dates, Rejection, Family Issues):

1. Acknowledge That The Crisis Or Situation (No Matter How Severe)
Always Has A Gift And You Drew It Into Your Life On Purpose To Help
You.

2. Write Down Your Long-Term Goal (LOVE, Building Your Business,
Getting Healthy).

3. What Do You Need To Let Go Of So This Situation Can Stop? What Are
You Holding On To That Keeps You Upset About It? (You Can Let Go Of A
Belief, An Idea, A Person, An Action Or Even Something Physical.)

4. How Does The Answer To Number 3 Support You In Reaching Your Goal?
(It May Not Be Obvious At First.)

5. Thank The Upset For The Lesson And Celebrate It.

Fill Yourself Up With Great Gratitude For This Growth Opportunity (GO)
And Welcome More With Open Arms As They Are The Bridge To Reaching
Your Dreams. Dropping The Judgment Around Them Makes Them Easier To
Deal With And Facing Them Directly Is Actually The Fastest Way To
Attract What You Want.

HOW TO GET GOOD AT DATING

Being An Effective And "Wise" Dater Requires That You Balance Several
Separate Issues. You Must Be Assured Of Your Own Emotional Health And
Have Created A List Of Qualities That You Want And Don't Want In A
Relationship Partner. You Also Must Have Developed The Ability To
Actively Listen. "Active Listening" Is A Way Of Absorbing Who A Person
Is, By The Things They Say. It's About Asking Questions And
Empathizing With Their Answers. This Type Of Listening Is The Best Way
To Quickly Determine If The Person Sitting Across From You Is A Good
Potential Mate.

TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF:

During A First Date, Volumes Of Personal Information Are Exchanged. As
A Person Talks About Their Life, They Reveal What Sort Of People They
Have As Friends, What Their Hobbies Are, Their Level Of
Responsibility, Their Anger Level, Their Opinions On The Opposite Sex,
And On And On. These Clues Are Usually Wrapped Inside Stories Or
Observations, But To The Person Who Is Focused On Listening, They Are
Loud And Clear. It Is Usually Best Arrange For A First Date To Be In
Setting Where You Can Spend Unlimited Time Talking And Sharing. When
You Do, You Can Learn Enough During The First Date To Decide If This
Is A Relationship That Should Move Ahead.

BECOMING AN EXPERT OBSERVER:

The Best Way To Get The Maximum Information From Someone Is To Get
Them Talking And Then Listen. Often Times The Most Basic Questions
Like, "Do You Like Your Job?" Are The Most Revealing. If Someone
Spends 15 Minutes Explaining How They Hate Their Job But Cannot Seem
To Leave, You Can Discern Some Very Valuable Information About Their
Level Of Day To Day Happiness. I Encourage You To Start With The
Simple Questions. "As You Listen To What The Person Says, You Can Ask
Follow-Up Questions In A Natural Way, And You Can Move Toward More
Meaningful Topics. You Want To Discover What The Person Enjoys About
His Daily Experience, Whether He/She Is Happy And Why."

PINPOINT THE FAMILY HISTORY:

Perhaps The Most Important Indicator Of Whether A Person Would Be A
Good Relationship Partner Is Their Relationship With Their Parents. By
Directing The Conversation To Family History You Can Quickly Learn A
Great Deal Of Information About How This Person Will Behave In An
Intimate Relationship. Also Important Here Is Information On The
Marriage Of This Person's Parents. It Is A Natural Tendency For
Individuals To Re-Live The Marriage That Was Modeled For Them As
Children. A Traumatic Childhood Would Be A Warning Sign Worth
Considering.

ACTS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS:

While Some People Are Skilled At Talking In Ways That Hide Their True
Natures, Their Actions Invariably Reveal A Great Deal About Whom They
Are. By The End Of A First Date You Have Witnessed: A Person's Phone
Manner, Their Punctuality, Their Manner, Their Respect For Service
Employees, As Well As An Entire Host Of Other Behaviours That Reveal
Their Values And Beliefs. It's Crucial That You Assess Your Date's
Judgment. If The Individual Knows How To Make Consistently Wise
Decisions, He Or She Will Almost Certainly Contribute Consistently To
The Strength And Health Of The Relationship. So Your Task Becomes One
Of "Judging Your Date's Judgments."

Lastly, Intuition Plays A Part In Deciding If This Person Is Someone
You Would Like To Continue Seeing. Do You Feel Comfortable Around This
Person? Can You Be Yourself? Even If Nothing You Have Heard During
Your Date Seems To Be A Warning Sign, You Must Still Honour That
Feeling That Says Something Is Wrong. With Some People, You Feel A
Need To Live Up To Their Expectations, Preference And Strongly Held
Opinions. With Others, You Experience A Kind Of Total Acceptance And
Unconditional Affirmation That Sets You Free At A Deep And Fundamental
Level.

Attention Not Only To What The Person Says And Does But How You Feel
At The End Of The Evening Is The Key To Making A Wise Relationship
Decision.

THE MAGA SYNDROME (SUGAR DADDY BABES)

Ahhhhh! Now Where Do I Start From? Okay! I Was Sitting In The Midst
Of A Couple Of Girls And They Were All Laughing And Chatting On How
They Make Money Out Of The Men They Roll With. They Call Them "MAGA."
Now For Those Of Us Who Don't Understand What MAGA Means In This
Context, It Means "Someone Who Is Foolish And Extravagant In Spending,
One Who Is Carefree With Money" Often The Victim.

As They Were All Yelling In Excitement, I Lifted Up My Head And Called
Out To Them. Knowing Who I Was, They Wanted To Hear What I Had To Say.

I Said, "Do You Really Think Those Men Are Foolish??? A Couple Of Them
Replied "YES." And I Asked Another Question "Do You Sleep With Them?"
And Most Of Them Said "YES" Why Not? I Laughed.....

I Said, Don't You Think You Girls Are The Real 'MAGA?' :O, Now The
Smile On Their Faces Suddenly Faded. YES, Before Ya'll Ladies Crucify
Me... This Is Why I Said That...

The Sugar Daddy (MAGA) Spends And Lavishes Money And Material Things
On You, And In Turn Has Sex With You... Don't You Think You Are Losing
More? Because Money He Can Always Replace And Get More, But What He
Takes From You Everytime You Have Sex With Him Makes You Depreciate.
Now Somebody Doesn't Get It. Yes, You May Not Notice It Now Because
You Are Young, But As A Lady You'd Look Older Than Your Age Mate As
You Age, And A Lot Of Biological Factors Comes To Play.

In A Worst Case Scenario, There Are Men Who Just Spend Without Sexing
You, And You Start Thinking You Are Smart. When He Has Used You As An
ATM Machine In The Spiritual Realm. Whatever He Gives You, He Gets It
Back In Ten Folds. Yet You Can't Think Of Anything You Achieved With
The Ones He Gives To You.

Research And Experience Has Shown That Most Of The Ladies Who Pulled
Sugar Daddies, Often End Up Having A Bad Marriage. A Case Of "What
Goes Around, Comes Back Around."

The Moment You Use SEX As An Exchange To Get Money, You Are Already
Playing The 'MAGA,' And Not The Man You Are Dealing With. Because He
Would Eventually Dump You After He Has Milked Your Youthfulness Dry
With His Money Intact. SUGAR DADDIES Don't Lose, Their Clients Are The
Ones Who Do.

BE WISE!!!

HOW YOUR ONLINE SOCIAL PROFILES COULD BE WRECKING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

You Know You're Not The Only Person Who Obsessively Searches For Their
Dates On Social Media Sites And Search Engines In An Attempt To Dig Up
Dirt, Right? Do You Know What Your Internet Footprint Is Saying About
You To Your Potential Relationships?

1¤ THE FRIEND RATIO:

Just How Many Red Flags Could You Possibly Be Raising With Your
Friends And Followers Lists? Maybe More Than You Think. One Of The
Most Accessible Pieces Of Information About You, At Least When It
Comes To The Internet, Is Who Your Friends Are.

Potential Dates Could Be Looking At Your Lists And Forming Some Pretty
Strong Opinions.

If You Look Through A List Of Friends Quickly, One Piece Of
Information Will Be Absorbed Right Away: The Ratio Of Men To Women On
The List. Women Who Have Lots Of Male Friends Can Be Intimidating To
Potential Dates.

They're Going To Wonder Who All These Guys Are, What The Relationship
Is, And Possibly Feel Threatened. The Same Goes For Women Who Are
Checking Out Men On Social Media. When They See A Lot Of Women On The
List, They're Going To Be Curious And More Cautious.

2¤ THE INFO YOU REVEAL:

Social Media Is A Good Way To Keep In Touch And Potentially Connect
With The Personalities You Enjoy, But It's Also Filled With Hot-Buton
Topics. Many People Use Social Sites To Follow The Political And
Social Causes That Matter To Them.

Some Even Use It As A Soapbox To Tout Their Pet Interests. Strong
Opinions Can Be Very Off-Putting To Potential Dates, Who May Not
Wholeheartedly Agree With Every Issue.

It Isn't Ideal To Find A Mate Who Agrees With You On Every Single
Issue, And It's Always Better To Keep An Open Mind. When You Bombard A
Potential Mate With Your Political Interests, You Could Be Turning
Them Off And Pushing Them Away Before You Even Have A Chance To Find
Common Ground.

3¤ THE REQUESTS YOU MAKE:

The Two Of You Have Been Dating For A Week, And It's Going Well. But
Before You Comb Through Their Friends List And Bombard All Of Their
Family Members And Accquaintance With Requests, Stop AnD Think. Its
Not Appropriate To Friend Their Siblings, Parents And High School
Buddies Unless You Expressly Ask Permission To Do So.

Do It Behind Your Mate's Back Or Without Their Agreement, And You
Could Wind Up Looking Like A Stalker. Even When Your Intentions Are
Totally Innocent, It's Going To Look Suspicious If Suddenly You're
Friending All Of Their Friends. The Person You're Dating Will Feel
That You're Trying To Keep Tabs On Them, And This Could Raise All
Sorts Of Trust Issues.

4¤ THE PHOTOS YOU SHARE:

Yes You Are Well Endowed With Great Hips, Thighs And Boobs, But That
Doesn't Mean You Should Share It With The World By Exposing Them In
Halves Or Full. The Stuff You Reveal In Your Photos May Be Giving Off
The Wrong Impression About What Type Of Person You Are. Show Off A Lot
Of Skin, And Your Potential Mate Could Become Jealous. They Could Lose
Respect For You. They Could Even Show Your Photos To Other People, Or
Re-Publish Them And Share Them With The World, When You Were Only
Willing To Share The Pics With A Select Few.

Once You Put Something On The Internet, Anyone Can Get To It And
Everyone Will Form Opinions About It.
Remember That Before You Show Off That Shape.

5¤ THE NEUTRALITY GAME:

Take Care In How You Present Yourself On Social Media Sites. You Don't
Want To Reveal Too Much. That Goofy Picture Of You That You Love Where
You're Passed Out On The Couch May Spark Great Memories For You, But
For A Potential Date It Can Be A Big Red Flag. You May Never Get The
Chance To Explain That Such Behaviour Is Well In The Past.

Show Your Personality Online, But Show The Filtered Version. You Want
To Find A Mate Who Loves You For Who You Really Are, And You Will Have
Many Opportunities To Reveal Your Many Layers. You Don't Have To Rush
To Show All Your Facets Off On The Internet.

RELATIONSHIP BLUNDERS GUYS MAKE

Ahhh! So The Ladies Got Theirs And You Think The Guys Are Gonna Be
Left Out? Sorry!

Now Lets Get Down To Business!

¤ PUTTING PRESSURE ON A LADY:

You Approached Her And She Told You She Already Has A Man, And Instead
Of Excusing Her You Still Go Ahead Pressuring Her To Date You. Common,
Why Want To Snatch A Girl That Is Already Taken? Imagine Yourself
Being Her Man, Would You Be Happy Your Girl Ran Off With Another Guy?
No! And Yes I Know Some Ladies Might Be Using That Line To Escape
Being Disturbed. But Either Way, Just Let Her Be.

¤ TRYING TO BUY HER AFFECTION:

How Many Times Have You Taken A Woman Out To A Nice Dinner, Bought Her
Gifts And Flowers, And Had Her Reject You For Someone Who Didn't Treat
Her Even Half As Well As You Did?

Well Guess What? It's Only Natural When This Happens.

That's Right, I Said Natural.

When You Do These Things, You're Sending A Clear Message: "I Don't
Think You'll Like Me For Who I Am, So I'm Going To Try To Buy Your
Attention And Affection."

Your Good Intentions Usually Come Across To Women As Overcompensation
For Insecurity, And Weak Attempts At Manipulation. Just Quit Such
Move.
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¤ BLAMING OTHERS AND REFUSING TO CHANGE:

Ah, She's Just A B**ch!

Yes, She Might Be A B**ch, But You May Be The Problem If You Find
Yourself Calling Every Woman You Date One. If You See A Recurring
Pattern Regarding The Way Women Dump Or Avoid You, Then Chances Are
You're Doing Something Wrong. (Same Applies To A Lady Who Is Finds
Herself Being Dumped Often).

¤ SUBMISSIVENESS:

Being Too Agreable Demonstrates To Her That You Have No Opinions Of
Your Own Or That You Believe In. A Woman Wants A MAN That Will Be A
Bit Of CHALLENGE For Her, Not A Man That Will Bend Over Backwards To
Please Her.

¤ GOING THROUGH A WOMAN'S PERSONAL STUFFS:

As A MAN, You Don't Need All These, Like Going Through Her Phones And
Searching Her Bags... Dude! That SUCKS! It Makes You Look CHEAP And
INSECURED.

¤ NEEDINESS:

Neediness Is Any Behaviour That Can Be Classified As Clingy,
Possessive, Demanding, Or Controlling. Having Any Form Of Neediness Is
A Blatant Giveaway That You Are Not Used To Being Around Women.

¤ NOT SCREENING WOMEN:

Some Men Fail From The Very Start Of Their Relationships. These Guys
Lack The Ability To Filter Out The Women They Are Incompatible With.
They Try To "Make It Work" With The Particular Women They Are After
Even Though The Women May Be Completely Wrong For Them. Most Of The
Time, These Men Suffer Because They Find The Women Physically
Attractive And Fear They Will Not Find Any Other Women That Are As
Beautiful As The Women They Are Seeing.