CAN HAVING SEX TOO FREQUENTLY BE A PROBLEM?

Low Libido Is The Most Common Issue I Get Asked About When It Comes To
Sex And Relationships. But I Also Sometimes Get Asked Whether Frequent
Sex Can Be A Problem. Is It Bad To Have Sex Every Day? Generally
Speaking, There Isn't Any Harm, As Long As You And Your Partner Are
Both Happy With This. Having Sex Seven Or More Times A Week Is
Considerably More Than The Average, Which Is Just Under Twice A Week.
However, Many Loved-Up Couples, Particularly In The Honeymoon Phase,
Will Have Daily Sex And This Reflects The New Passion You Have For One
Another. If You're Further Into A Relationship And Still Having Daily
Sex, Many Would Ask: "What's Your Secret?". There Are Several Ways To
Communicate In A Relationship And Bonding Through Sex Is A Great Way
To Stay Connected As A Couple.

A QUESTION OF BALANCE

The Only Issues Would Be If One Partner Doesn't Want To Have 'As Much
Sex As The Other, In Which Case The Frequency Needs To Be Negotiated,
Most Couples Have To Navigate This Area At Some Point. The Other Issue
Is If Your Focus Is So Much On Sex That You Have No Other Way To
Relate To Each Other. Sex Shouldn't Be The Only Activity You Enjoy
Together.

If You're Single, Daily Sex Isn't Necessarily Harmful, But It Does
Indicate A Rather One- Dimensional Approach To Life. And The More Sex
You Have With Multiple Partners, The More You Increase Your Risk Of
Unsafe Sex. There Are A Few Signs That Could Indicate Your Daily Sex
Isn't Healthy And May Border On A Sex Or Love Addiction. If You Find
Yourself Thinking About, Planning Or Pursuing Sex For The Majority Of
The Day Or Night, So That Your Focus Is Not On Your Responsibilites,
This Is A Problem.

Libido Naturally Fluctuates Across The Lifespan, And As A Reflection
Of What's Going On In Your Life And Relationship. The Amount Of Sex
You're Having Must Feel As Though It's In Balance With The Rest Of
Your Life. The Moment You Feel It Is Unbalanced, Take Some Time To Get
It Back. Your Life As A Couple Will Be Better For It.

Got A Question For Us, You Are Free To Ask Or Drop Your Comments.

FACTS ABOUT HAVING INTERCOURSE DURING PERIODS

Many Men And Women Feel Anxious About Having Sex During Periods
Because We Have Been Culturally Conditioned To Believe That
Menstruation Is Something Dirty.
There Are Also Misconceptions About The Medical Aspects Of SEX During
Periods. Medically, It Is Normal To Have Sex During Periods. The Safe
Sex Practices Required To Avoid Pregnancy And STDs When A Woman Is Not
Menstruating Should Also Be Used During Periods.
1¤ CAN SEX DURING PERIODS RESULT IN PREGNANCY?
Chances Of Pregnancy During Periods Are Minimal. However, If You
Strictly Want To Avoid Pregnancy It Is Advisable To Use An Adequate
Birth-Control Method Each Time You Have Intercourse, Including During
Periods. Though The Chances Of Pregnancy During Periods Are Very Low,
They Are Not Entirely Absent Because The Sperm Can Survive In The Body
For A Few Days And There Is A Small Chance That An Early Ovulation
Will Cause Pregnancy.
2¤ WILL CONTACT WITH MENSTRUAL BLOOD CAUSE SEXUALLY-TRANSMITTED DISEASES (STD)?
Menstrual Blood Is Nothing But Normal Human Blood Mixed With Tissues
Lining The Uterus Contact With Menstrual Blood Is Not Harmful In Any
Way. If Your Partner Has A STD, You Have A High Chance Of Contracting
It And You Should Be Using A Condom During Intercourse, Both During
Periods And Otherwise.
3¤ WILL CONTACT WITH MENSTRUAL BLOOD HARM THE PENIS?
NO, Menstrual Blood Will Not Harm The Penis In Any Way. The Worries
And Concerns About Menstrual Blood Stem From The Fact That We Have
Been Socially Conditioned To See It As A Dirty Fluid.
Scientifically, Menstrual Fluid Is A Mix Of Blood And Tissues That
Line The Uterus Every Month To Prepare It For Pregnancy. If Pregnancy
Does Not Occur, The Tissue Is Shed Because It Is No Longer Required.
4¤ CAN SEX DURING PERIODS INJURE THE UTERUS?
NO, Sex During Periods Cannot Injure The Uterus. There Is A Common
Perception That The Mouth Of The Uterus Opens Up During Periods And
The Penis Can Poke Into It And Hurt The Uterus. This Is Not Correct.
Menstrual Flood Oozes Out Of A Very Small Opening In The Mouth Of The
Uterus. The Penis Can Never Poke In Through This Opening.
5¤ WILL SEX DURING PERIODS STOP BLEEDING?
Some Women Do Notice That Their PeriodS Stop Within A Day Or So Of
Sexual Intercourse. This Does Not Mean That The Menstrual Blood Has
Been Pushed Back Into The Uterus And Is Unable To Flow Out. It Happens
Primarily Because Sexual Intercourse Causes Uterine Contractions That
Expel The Menstrual Fluids And Tissue Faster, Thus Causing The
Bleeding To Stop Sooner Than Usual.
6¤ IS SEX DURING PERIODS A PERVERSION?
You Would Be Happy To Know That A Large Number Of Couples Have Sex
During Periods. From The Medical Standpoint, Normal. So If YOU Too
Indulge In It, There Is Absolutely No Need To Feel Guilty Or Anxious.
7¤ WILL SEX DURING PERIOD RELIEVE MENSTRUAL CRAMPS?
YES, Some Women Do Experience A Decrease In Menstrual Cramps. If They
Have Sexual Intercourse. This Can Happen Because Of Multiple Factors.
On One Hand, Orgasm Causes The Release Of Some Chemicals In The Body
That Have Pain Allaying Properties. Some Scientists Also Believe That
This Happens Because Excess Cramp Causing Chemicals Called
Prostaglandins Get Used Up.
8¤ IS IT OK TO HAVE ORAL SEX DURING PERIODS?
YES, From The Health Perspective It Is Okay To Have Oral Sex During
Periods. It Is Advisable To Use A Dental Dam If You Have Oral Sex With
A Menstruating Female Partner.

9¤ SHOULD I REMOVE MY TAMPON BEFORE HAVING SEX DURING PERIODS?

YES, Always Remember To Remove Your Tampon Before Having Sex During
Periods. If You Do Not Do This There Is A Chance That The Tampon Will
Get Pushed Up In Your Vagina And If It Is Left There For A Prolonged
Period, It Can Cause Infection.
¤ "IS It Acceptable To God For A Husband And Wife To Have Sex While
The Wife Is Menstruating/Having Her Period?"

ANSWER: Leviticus 15:19 Says, "When A Woman Has Her Regular Flow Of
Blood, The Impurity Of Her Monthly Period Will Last Seven Days, And
Anyone Who Touches Her Will Be Unclean Till Evening."

Similarly, Leviticus 15:24 Says. "If A Man Lies On With Her And Her
Monthly Flow Touches Him, He Will Be Unclean For Seven Days; Finally,
Leviticus 20:18 Declares, "If A Man Lies With A Woman During Her
Monthly Period And Has Sexual Relations With Her, He Has Exposed The
Source Of Her Flow, And She Has Also Uncovered It. Both Of Them Must
Be Cut Off From Their People." As A Result Of These Scriptures, Some
Hold That A Married Couple Should Not Have Sex While The Wife Is
Having Her Period.

The Problem With This View Is That If The Scriptures Are Applied
Consistently, Even Touching A Woman Who Is Having Her Menstrual Flow
Would Be Forbidden. Further, According To Leviticus 15:20-23, Even
Touching Something That The Woman Has Also Touched Would Be Forbidden.
Do These Laws Apply To Us Today? NO, They Do Not. WHY? It Is Important
To Remember The Purpose Of The Old Testament Laws Concerning Blood. In
The Sacrificial System, Blood Was Sacred (Leviticus 17:11). A Woman's
"Uncleaness" During Her Period Was Symbolic Of The Value Placed On
Blood. As A Result, Contact With A Woman Who Was Having Her Period Was
Forbidden. Christians Today Are Not Under The Old Testament Ceremonial
Law (Romans 10:4; Galatians 3:24-26; Ephesians 2:15). There No Longer
Is A Sacrificial System. Jesus' Blood Sacrifice Paid The Penalty For
Sins Once And For All. The Levitical Ceremonial Laws Do Not Apply
Today. There Is No Biblical Reason Why A Married Couple Cannot Have
Sex During The Wife's Period. Some Doctors Do Not Recommend It From A
Medical Perspective, But There Are No Proven "Dangers" Of Having
Sexual Intercourse During A Woman's Period. Usually Women Have No
Desire To Have Sexual Relations During Their Period, So That Is
Definitely Another Thing To Consider. Basically, This Issue Must Be
Decided By A Husband And Wife In The Spirit Of "Mutual Consent" As 1
Corinthians 7:5 Describes.

REASONS SOME MEN LEAVE WOMEN THEY LOVE

You Have An Amazing Relationship With A Guy Who Adores You. Things Are
On The Right Track. Then Out Of The Blue You Get It With It- Wham! He
Tells You He's Unhappy, And Suddenly He Has One Foot Out The Door.

It Was Only A Few Days Ago That You And The Man Were Close, Connected
And Intimate. What Happened To The Love You Shared?

This Doesn't Have To Happen To You... Here Are Reasons...

1¤ HE FEELS LIKE YOU'RE TRYING TO FIX HIM:

If You Aren't Getting What You Want From A Relationship, It's Common
To Become Frustrated And Eventually Stop Communicating In A Clear And
Loving Way. This Is Where Things Like Demands, Pleading, And Even
Begging For What "Should Be" Creep In And Get In The Way.

I Get It- When A Woman Doesn't Feel Heard Or Appreciated In Her
Relationship, Changing Her Tone Seems Like The Only Way To Get A Man's
Attention.

Unfortunately, This Is When Men Mistake Your Intentions And Feel
Criticized Or Blamed. If A Man FeelS Like You're Judging His Faults Or
Shortcomings, He'll Never Open Up And Listen. Instead, He'll Shut
Down, Stop "Hearing" You, And Pull Back Even More. Remember The Great
Jack Nicholson Line From As Good As It Gets? He Tells Helen Hunt, "You
Make Me Want To Be A Better Man..."

You Can Create The Space For Your Guy To WANT TO Be A Better Man On
His Own. But You Can't Make Him Do This By DEMANDING That He Change.
It's A Losing Battle. Lasting Change Come From The Inside.

2¤ HE FEARS LOSING HIS FREEDOM:

Have You Thought About Why A Man Commits Himself To One Woman, And How
Your Guy FEELS In Your Relationship Lately? If You're Having More
Negative Interactions Than Positive Ones, A Man Will Question What You
Have. If It Goes On For Too Long, Eventually He'll Start Thinking
About A Way Out.

On The Other Hand... Your Relationship Is Healthy, Fun, Emotionally
Intimate And Positive In The Way You Treat Each Other, A Man Won't
Think Twice About Continuing To Devote His Heart And Life To You.
You'll Be That Rare Special Woman He Fell In LOVE With In The First
Place, And Who He Craves Being With.

If You Set A Positive Emotional Tone In The Relationship, A Man Will
Be More Mindful Of What He's Gaining With You, Rather Than Any Of The
Things Other Men Fear Losing In Their Freedoms.

3¤ EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM:

A Relationship With A Man Can Bring Up A Lot Of Intense Emotional
Issues Inside. The Question Is- Do You Let All These Emotions Build Up
Inside You To Where They Finally Explode In A Semi-Destructive Way?

And Do You Find That Your Men Either Don't Have The Emotional Skills
To Handle These Situations With You, Or They Become More Distant When
You're At Your Most Intense?

If So... Then You Likely Are With A Man Who Doesn't Have Much Of An
Emotional "Center" To Keep Him Calm And Present With You Even When
Emotions Run Hot.

This Is A Man's Fault. A Mature Man Needs To Be A Source Of Support
And Masculine Stability In Your Relationship. Yet, At Times, Even A
Good Man Can Become Overwhelmed Verbally, aND Go Into What I Call
"Emotional Overwhelm." This Is Where A Man Can't Handle The Emotions
Coming At Him And Feels So Anxious Inside That He Ends Up Withdrawing
To Get Away. Why Is This Important?

If You Can Learn To Talk About "Loaded" Topics Without Having Your Man
Become Emotionally Overwhelmed, Your Relationship Will Instantly
Change For The Better. But If You Keep Pushing Each Other Past A Safe
Emotional Place, Don't Wonder Why He Acts Distant.

WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT

When You Focus On The Idea That Men Might Leave Good Women For No
Apparent Reason, It Can Make Relationships Seem Hopeless.

Don't Let This Fear Get Inside Your Head. If You Know How To
Communicate With Your Man In A Way That Demonstrates The Happy,
Fulfilled And Loving Woman You Are Inside... And You Find Ways To
Continually Praise Rather Than Criticize Or Tear Each Other Down...
You'll Be Amazed At How He'll Show You His Love And Appreciation In
Return.

Too Many Relationships Lose The Simple Appreciation Which Brought Them
Together In The First Place. You Deserve A Fulfilling, Long-Lasting
Relationship With A Man Who's Ready And Willing To Do His Part In
Creating An Incredible Life Together.

WAYS TO LEARN FROM PAST RELATIONSHIP FAILURES

Single Again? Take Heed Of The Old Adage "What Doesn't Break You Makes
You Grow Stronger" And Discover How To Find Something Positive In
Relationship Failures.
Breakups Might Leave You Feeling Bereft But Every Failed Relationship
Comes With A Lesson, Be It Good Or Bad. Ultimately They Will Help You
Establish What You're Looking For In A Match And Make You A Happier
And Healthier Person. Find Out How To Get The Best Out Of Difficult
Experiences And Your Newly Single Status.
1¤ TAKE STOCK OF YOUR OWN LIFE:
Don't Expect Future Partners To Fix You. In Fact, If Your Ideal
Partner Were To Find You In A Mess, Chances Are He Would Make A Speedy
Retreat. It's Vital To Take Steps To Change What It Is That You Don't
Like About Your Life. If You're Struggling With Debt, Attempt To Sort
The Situation, Little By Little. It's Up To You To Make Your Life
Appealing As A Single Person. You And Future Matches Need To Be Happy
As Individuals Before Becoming A Couple.
2¤ VALUE SINGLE TIME:
There Will Always Be Those Who Float From Relationship To
Relationship. But This Isn't Something To Envy. You Need To Be Able To
Rely On Yourself, Not Others. Time As A Singleton Helps You Heal After
A Breakup, Learn Your Lessons And Discover Your Own Resilience, Which
You Won't Be Able To Do If You Jump Straight Back Into A Relationship.
Plus, It Allow For Some Important 'ME' Time... And Being Single For A
Bit Can Be Fun!
3¤ LOOK IN THE MIRROR:
Blaming A Partner Entirely For A Breakup Won't Get You Anywhere. Look
At What You Could Improve About Your Own Behaviour In A Relationship.
Do You Communicate Your Feelings Enough? Are You Too Strong Headed?
Think About What Has Negatively Impacted Your Past Relationships
Before Entering A New One. But Also Establish Your Strengths As
Confidence Is Paramount.
4¤ ACCEPT THAT NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS LAST:
Once You Accept That Some Relationships Are Temporary, You Can Learn
To Stop Blaming Yourself For What You See As Relationship Failures.
Instead Take Them For What They Are Helpful Life Lessons. They Might
Be Painful But Breakups Happen For A Reason.
As A Singleton, The Benefit Of Hindsight Should Help You See That You
Just Weren't Compatible With Previous Partners. Perhaps Your
Personalities Didn't Fit Well, Your Goal Weren't The Same And Your
Priorities Conflicted. If You're Honest With Yourself You'll Admit
That You're Much Better Off As A Result Of The Relationship And
Breakup Than You Would Have Been Had You Not Experienced Them At All.
"Choosing A Partner Successfully Is A Skill You Can Develop."

5¤ LEARN HOW TO APPLY LESSONS:

Look At Past Relationships And Reassess Your Priorities Now You're
Single. For Example, You May Never Have Known The Value Of Being
Someone Who Always Puts You First Had You Not Experienced A
Relationship With A Partner Whose Priorities Were Work, Hobbies Or
Friends, Or You mAY Not Have Realised The Importance Of Happy Family
Relationships If You Hadn't Dated Someone With A Dysfunctional Family.
Take These Lessons And Apply Them To Future Relationships, Looking For
Warning Signs Before It's Too Late.

HOW TO END BAD RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

Being Single Gives You Valuable Time To Reflect On The Past Before
Committing Yourself To Someone New. But Even If You're In A
Relationship, You Can Use Previous Experiences As Lessons For The
Present. If Things Keep Turning Sour, Spotting The Patterns Can Help
You Make Positive Steps For The Future.

Here Are The Four "Key Indicators" To Look For As A New Relationship Commences:

1¤ HOW IS THE INITIAL EMOTION HANDLED?

The Beginning Of A New Relationship Can Be Very Revealing. Think About
The First Few Days, Weeks And Months When You Moved From Being Single
To Part Of A Couple. Some Relationships Start With Intense Infatuation
Which Can Often Become Physical Prematurely With Confused Implications
About Commitment. Others Progress Much More Steadily And Rationally.

Look At Your Past Relationships And Establish Whether There Are
Similarities. There's Nothing Wrong With Strong Attraction, But It's
How You Handle This Passion That Can Cause A Relationship To Develop
In A Healthy Or Unhealthy Way.

2¤ HOW QUICKLY DO THINGS DEVELOP?

Look Back To The Most Significant Moments Of Past Relationships: The
First Kiss Or First Time A Gesture Of Commitment Was Made. By
Pinpointing These Moments You Can Establish Whether A Relationship Has
Progressed At An Even Or Hurried Pace.

If Things Are Too Rushed, It Could Suggest That One Or Both Partners
Are Overeager, Insecure And Impulsive. The Most Stable Relationships
Develop Steadily And Gradually.

3¤ WHO DO YOU TEND TO GET INVOLVED WITH?

People Are Often Drawn To Partners With Similar Flaws. Compare Your
Past Partners And Identify Whether Their Character Traits Match Up.
Before You Relinquish Your Single Status, Make Your Potential New
Partner Is Significantly Different From Your Last.

4¤ DO YOUR PARTNERS HAVE SIMILAR BACKGROUNDS?

As Well As Their Personality Traits, Consider Their Family
Backgrounds. Do They Come From Broken, Volatile Or Chaotic Homes? Look
At What Impact This Has Had On Your Relationship.

By Examining Your Relationship Past You Can Help Ensure A Happier Future.