On The Right Track. Then Out Of The Blue You Get It With It- Wham! He
Tells You He's Unhappy, And Suddenly He Has One Foot Out The Door.
It Was Only A Few Days Ago That You And The Man Were Close, Connected
And Intimate. What Happened To The Love You Shared?
This Doesn't Have To Happen To You... Here Are Reasons...
1¤ HE FEELS LIKE YOU'RE TRYING TO FIX HIM:
If You Aren't Getting What You Want From A Relationship, It's Common
To Become Frustrated And Eventually Stop Communicating In A Clear And
Loving Way. This Is Where Things Like Demands, Pleading, And Even
Begging For What "Should Be" Creep In And Get In The Way.
I Get It- When A Woman Doesn't Feel Heard Or Appreciated In Her
Relationship, Changing Her Tone Seems Like The Only Way To Get A Man's
Attention.
Unfortunately, This Is When Men Mistake Your Intentions And Feel
Criticized Or Blamed. If A Man FeelS Like You're Judging His Faults Or
Shortcomings, He'll Never Open Up And Listen. Instead, He'll Shut
Down, Stop "Hearing" You, And Pull Back Even More. Remember The Great
Jack Nicholson Line From As Good As It Gets? He Tells Helen Hunt, "You
Make Me Want To Be A Better Man..."
You Can Create The Space For Your Guy To WANT TO Be A Better Man On
His Own. But You Can't Make Him Do This By DEMANDING That He Change.
It's A Losing Battle. Lasting Change Come From The Inside.
2¤ HE FEARS LOSING HIS FREEDOM:
Have You Thought About Why A Man Commits Himself To One Woman, And How
Your Guy FEELS In Your Relationship Lately? If You're Having More
Negative Interactions Than Positive Ones, A Man Will Question What You
Have. If It Goes On For Too Long, Eventually He'll Start Thinking
About A Way Out.
On The Other Hand... Your Relationship Is Healthy, Fun, Emotionally
Intimate And Positive In The Way You Treat Each Other, A Man Won't
Think Twice About Continuing To Devote His Heart And Life To You.
You'll Be That Rare Special Woman He Fell In LOVE With In The First
Place, And Who He Craves Being With.
If You Set A Positive Emotional Tone In The Relationship, A Man Will
Be More Mindful Of What He's Gaining With You, Rather Than Any Of The
Things Other Men Fear Losing In Their Freedoms.
3¤ EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM:
A Relationship With A Man Can Bring Up A Lot Of Intense Emotional
Issues Inside. The Question Is- Do You Let All These Emotions Build Up
Inside You To Where They Finally Explode In A Semi-Destructive Way?
And Do You Find That Your Men Either Don't Have The Emotional Skills
To Handle These Situations With You, Or They Become More Distant When
You're At Your Most Intense?
If So... Then You Likely Are With A Man Who Doesn't Have Much Of An
Emotional "Center" To Keep Him Calm And Present With You Even When
Emotions Run Hot.
This Is A Man's Fault. A Mature Man Needs To Be A Source Of Support
And Masculine Stability In Your Relationship. Yet, At Times, Even A
Good Man Can Become Overwhelmed Verbally, aND Go Into What I Call
"Emotional Overwhelm." This Is Where A Man Can't Handle The Emotions
Coming At Him And Feels So Anxious Inside That He Ends Up Withdrawing
To Get Away. Why Is This Important?
If You Can Learn To Talk About "Loaded" Topics Without Having Your Man
Become Emotionally Overwhelmed, Your Relationship Will Instantly
Change For The Better. But If You Keep Pushing Each Other Past A Safe
Emotional Place, Don't Wonder Why He Acts Distant.
WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT
When You Focus On The Idea That Men Might Leave Good Women For No
Apparent Reason, It Can Make Relationships Seem Hopeless.
Don't Let This Fear Get Inside Your Head. If You Know How To
Communicate With Your Man In A Way That Demonstrates The Happy,
Fulfilled And Loving Woman You Are Inside... And You Find Ways To
Continually Praise Rather Than Criticize Or Tear Each Other Down...
You'll Be Amazed At How He'll Show You His Love And Appreciation In
Return.
Too Many Relationships Lose The Simple Appreciation Which Brought Them
Together In The First Place. You Deserve A Fulfilling, Long-Lasting
Relationship With A Man Who's Ready And Willing To Do His Part In
Creating An Incredible Life Together.
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