BE THE BEST AND BE EXCELLENT IN WHATEVER YOU DO

I've Heard And Seen People Who Behave And Act Slothful In Whatever They Do, Especially When They Think The Pay Wouldn't Be Enough, Or The Job Isn't Worth Their Best.

People Who Function With Such Mentality Are Simply Doing Themselves A Great Dishonour, Because Your Way To The Top And Bigger Opportunities With BIG Paycheck Starts From How Well You Handle The Small Things You Are Doing Right Now.

PERSONALLY, I Learnt A Long-time Ago That My Work Is A Direct Proportion And Representative Of Who I Am And What I Carry. Hence, If I'm Gonna Lay My Hands On Anything, It Must Be Done To The Best Capacity And Decorated With Excellence Irrespective Of How Much Or How Little My Returns May Be Or Whether I Like The Job Or Not. As Far As I'm Involved, Such A Task Must Be Decorated With Excellence. And That Attitude Has Helped Me A Long Way. That's How I Got The Name "Exzel" An Intentional Misspelling Of The Word "Excel" Representing Excellence. For Those Of You Who Have Been Asking And Wondering How I Came About That Name... There You Got It! :-)

In My Days Of Little Beginnings, I Use To Know Of A Man Who Worked As An Electrical Engineer. He Was Quite Good, But Lacked Diligence And Excellence. Few Years Later Up The Ladder Of Success, The Company I Worked For Asked That I Recommend People For A Job Position Before It Goes Public... In The Case Whereby I Have No One To Recommend And If Nobody Else Has. Why? Because They Believed Whatever And Whoever I Recommend Would Also Be An Extension Of Myself. Just Then The Post Of An Electric Engineer Was Open, And Immediately I Remembered The Electric Engineer I Once Worked With, Whom I Knew Hasn't Got Anything Major Doing At The Moment. But Then I Also Remembered He Wasn't A Diligent And Excellent Person... So I Didn't Recommend Him. That Was How The Job Was Put Out To The Public.

Now, One Would Say I Was Being Inconsiderate. But Was It My Fault? NO! It Was The Impression He Made The Time We Once Worked Together. And That Sort Of Worked Against Him, As I Wouldn't Want To Recommend Anybody Who Wouldn't Be Diligent For The Sake Of My Reputation In The Company.

Are You A Receptionist? Are You A Driver? An Apprentice As An Artisan? Are You A Cobbler? Or Whatever You May Be Into As A Business Man/Woman Or An Employee... You Have Got To Do It Diligently Coupled With Excellence. Don't Be A Party To Those Who Always Grumble, Backbite, Gossip, Complain, Nag And Go To Sleep On The Job. Or Amongst Those Who Try To Dodge When There Is A Task To Be Accomplished, Or Never Complete A Task.

Never Think Nobody Is Watching You, If Your Boss Isn't Watching You, Your Colleagues And Friends Are Watching! You Never Can Tell When Any Of Them Would Be In A Position Of Power To Appoint Somebody. You Also Can Never Tell Why You Are Yet To Be Promoted At Work Or Given Special Attention... Or Worse, Not Getting A Job.

Some Folks Can't Even Get A Recommendation From Their Friend, Because Their Friend Feel They Would Disgrace Him/Her If They Give Them An Opportunity.

Moreso, Have You Noticed That The People Who Are Creative, Productive, Diligent And Excellent On The Job Almost Get Away With Anything In The Company? Now You Wonder Why The Director(s) Never Get To Fire That Guy/Lady Despite His/Her Arrogant Demeanour. Or That Guy Who Seems To Always Disagree With What The Boss Says... Something Most Folks Wouldn't Try Knowing You'd Get Fired In A Blink Because They Know They Almost Not Relevant To The Company.

So Much For Being Diligent And Excellent... You Don't Have To Like Whatever It Is That You Do, But If You Must Do It, Let It Be Done To The Best In Excellence. Be So Good That When Your Name Is Been Mentioned At The Corridors Of Power, Even The Devil Can't Stop You From Being Selected.

No Doubt The Bible Says "Seest Thou A Man Diligent In His Business? He Shall Stand Before Kings; He Shall Not Stand Before Mean Men." (Proverbs 22:29).

BE DILIGENT AND EXCELLENT!

ARE YOU (REALLY) READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP?

Calling All Singles: Think You're Ready For A Relationship? Now Is The Time To Check In With Yourself And Determine Whether You Really And Truly Are Ready For A Relationship. Though You May Tell Yourself You're Sure You're Ready And Really Want To Settle Down With Someone, You First Have To Look At Your Behaviour- Not What You Say-Is The Truth-Teller.

When It Comes To You And Your Love Life, Your Behaviour Is The First Place To Start When Asking Yourself If You're Really Ready For A Relationship. The Only Way You're Going To Find And Maintain A Healthy Romantic Relationship Is If You Start It On A Reasonably Solid Foundation, Which Means That You Need To Have Your (Bleep) Together.

When You're Truly Ready For A Good Adult Relationship, Your Behaviours Will Reflect How Balanced You Are. Take A Look At Some Of The Requirements For Being Ready For A Relationship Below.

1. Your Church Is Not A Bar Or Nightclub:

Going Out To Bars Or Nightclubs Isn't Necessarily A Bad Thing Or A Deterrent To Finding A Good Relationship. The Issue Is More About How You Feel And Act When You're There Which Indicates Whether You're Really Ready For A Relationship. If You're Drinking A Lot When You Go Out, You're Not In A Position To Start A Good Relationship. Sure, You Can Meet Someone, But It's Not Your Best Self You're Putting Forward, So You're Going To End Up With Someone Who's Not Good For You. If You Love To Go Out But Want A Relationship, There's Nothing Wrong With It: Introduce Yourself To People And, When You Meet Someone You Like, Make Plans To See Them In A Different Environment.

2 You've Reflected On Why Your Past Relationships Didn't Work:

There's No Riper Time To Play The Blame Game Than When You End A Relationship. Everyone Loves To Point The Finger At The Other Person, But It Takes Two People To Mess Up A Relationship. When You're Really Ready For Another Relationship, You Can Look Back On Past Relationships And See Which Behaviours You Engaged In That Were Unhealthy And Counterproductive. What's More, When You Look Back At Those Relationships, You Don't Feel-Wait For It-Bitter. YOU Might Feel Angry At Your Ex For Good Reasons, But You Don't Feel Bitter (A Feeling That's A Mix Of Anger And Hopelessness).

3 You Have Retired From The Drama:

Not Only Can You Understand Why Past Relationships Didn't Work, You Can Now Safely Say- And Feel It With Emotion- That You Have Retired From The Drama That Comes With Bad Relationships And Are Ready To Calm Down And Have A Real Adult Relationship. When You Hear Friends Talk About Their Exploits With So-And-So Who Stood Them Up Or Their Fights Followed By A Crazy Make-Up Sex, You Sigh And Remind Yourself That You Have No Place For That Drama Any Longer In Your Life. YOU Feel Wiser, More Mature, And Know More Than Before What You Want And Need From Your Next Partner.

The Goal For Everyone Is To Match What They Say They Want With The Behaviour They Engage In, And That Is A Lot More Difficult Than It Sounds.
However, If You Look More Closely At Your Feelings And Your Behaviour, You Will Be One Step Closer To A Relationship That's Good For You. Just Imagine!

WHEN SHE 'LIKES YOU, BUT ISN'T INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP

Have You Ever Had A Woman Tell You That She Likes You A Lot, But Not In That Way?

Reality Check: When A Woman Behaves In Ways Which Tell A Guy She "Likes" Him... But That She's Just Not Interested In Taking Things Any Further, Something Almost Always Happens. Most Guys Immediately Start Doing Anything They Can To Escape That Dreaded Friend Zone And Convince Her To Take Things To The Next Level With Him.

They Chase Her. They Start Calling And Texting Her All The Time. THEY Become Clingy And Desperate, Believing They Can Persuade A Woman To Feel ATTRACTION For Them. And Obviously, In The Light Of Day, Most Guys Would Agree That All Of This Is A VERY Bad Idea.

So What Should You Do Instead?

1. Stop Worrying About What She Thinks.

Once A Woman Starts To "Like" You, You Can Look At It As Either A Blessing (It's A Start) Or A Curse (Stuck In The Friend Zone Again). That's Why I Recommend That Men Forget All The Wondering And Guessing, And Simplify The Situation. Forget What She Thinks. Focus On How You Feel About Yourself... And Therefore How You Behave Because Of It. YOU See, Every Thought, Idea, And Notion You Have About YOURSELF Affects Your Body Language And Every Word You Say. They Either Signal A Woman That You're Permanent "Just Friends" Material Or Potential "Relationship" Material.

So Go Ahead And Assume That Maybe She'll Just Want To Be Another Friend Of Yours In Your Life- And Then RELAX. Start Having FUN With Her Instead Of Constantly Trying To Plot Your Next Move And Assume Fake Airs, And You'll Be Amazed At How Quickly You Start Moving Up The "Potential Relationship Material" Ladder.

2. CHALLENGE Her Instead Of CHASING Her.

Like I Said Above, It Sounds Pretty Obvious To Most Guys In The Light Of Day- Don't Chase. Yet A Lot Of Guys Are Guilty Of Chasing Women They Like. They'd Get Possessive And Clingy, Act Beggy And Desperate, Run Around At Their Beck And Call Hoping To "Win" Their Approval.

The Best Way To Do It Is To Challenge A Woman Instead Of Chasing Her. Instead Of Begging, Look For Ways To Get To Know Her Better... Similar Ways That You See The World... Then Stop Being Her "Shoulder To Cry On" And Start Challenging Her In Fun Ways In These Areas.

For Example, If You're With A Woman That You Feel Might Be Great For A Relationship, And You Happen To Disagree On Something... Instead Of Getting Defensive Or "Kissing Up" To Her Point Of View, Take Advantage Of The Situation. Playfully Tease Her On Her Viewpoint. Argue Why She's Wrong. Do Some "Play Fighting" On The Issue. THEN Ask Her To Describe In Detail How SHE Feels About It. Ask Her To Show You How And Why She Sees Things Like She Does.

This Is Incredibly Powerful Because It Not Only Shows You're A Confident Man With Your Own Point Of View... It Also Shows That You're Excited To Learn More About Her Viewpoint.

3. Know When To Move On.

Of Course, If All Else Fails And A Woman's Just Not Interested In You In "That Way," It's Your Responsibility To Respect That And Move On. It's The Right Thing To Do For Her... But It's Also The Right Thing To Do For You.

After All, Why Spend Valuable Time Working On Something That Can't Be Fixed? Plus, Another Amazing Woman That You Can Truly Connect With May Just Be Around The Corner.

So- When It Comes To Responding To A Woman Who "Likes You" But Doesn't Seem To Want To Take Things Any Further, The Ball Is In Your Court. Build Up Your Feelings About Yourself... Work To Challenge Her Instead Of Chasing Her... Know When To MOVE ON... AND You'll Be On Your Way To Escaping The Friend Zone For Good.
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WHY DOES LOVE FADE OVER TIME?

Many Love Stories Tell Tales Of The Brilliance Of Love And The Pain Of Its Decline. One Has To Wonder How We Would Have So Many Stories If It Weren't For Heartbreak. The High And Euphoria Of Early Love Make Everything Seem So Promising.

Despite This, People Go Through Many Relationships And Many Break-ups Over And Over Again. It Is Rare To Find Someone Whose First Attempt At Lifelong Love Was Their Final. Why Then Do We Continue To Be So Hopeful Time And Time Again When So Often Love Fades? Also, Why Does Love Fade When It Can Seem So Promising?

☆.When One First Falls In Love There Is A Tremendous High. Some Liken This Euphoria To The High Of Drugs. In Many Ways, These People Are Correct. When We First Fall In Love Our Bodies Release Chemicals Such As PEA (Phenylethylalamine). The Effects Of This Chemical Last Between 6 Months-5years. This Chemical Can Supplant Genuine Affection And Cooperation, But, Once The Body Has Become Accustomed To It, The Relationship Will Die If Strong Bonds Have Not Been Forged. Before This Time Adrenaline And Endorphin Reign. This Is Also Why Some People Flit From Relationship To Relationship. They Are Endorphins Junkies. They Are Constantly Seeking The Next Surge Of Chemicals From The Next Partner.

☆. When We First Fall In Love We Only See Parts Of Our Partners. WE are Not With Them On A Daily Basis. THE Realities Of Changing Cat Boxes And Grumpiness From Life's Every Stressors Have Not Kicked In. The Longer A Couple Is Together The More The Partners Learn About Each Other. In Time The Mundane Realities Of Life And The Frustrating Challenges Will Begin To Show. It Is When You Can See Your Partner And Know What Really Bugs You About Them That You Are Beginning To Know What You Might See In The Future.

A Couple Does Well To Examine The Flaws And Realities And Decide Logically If These Problems Will Be A Pebble In The Shoe. When You Can Accept That Love Does Not Conquer Everything You Are On Your Way To Understanding Your Partner Well Enough To Have An Inkling About What The Future May Bring. If You Analyse Your Relationship And The "Yeah Butts" Are Giving You Serious Pause, You Need To Consider A Pause In The Relationship.

☆. When One Begins To Be Truthful With Themselves In A Relationship They Will Be Able To Make Decisions With A Clear Mind. This Is Important As The Choices Made In A Relationship Can Affect The Couple, The Individuals, Families, And Children. If Things Seem Wrong, They Likely Are. Don't Get Married Just Because The Wedding Was Planned When The Realities Began To Hit. Divorces Are Painful. Mutual, Peaceful Divorces Are Rare. Break-ups Can Also Be Very Destructive, Especially In A Long Standing Relationship Or One With Children Involved.

On The Other Hand, Just Because Love Is Changing Doesn't Mean That The Relationship Is Doomed. The Euphoria Will Fade And When It Does, There May Be A Wonderful Partnership That Has Forged. Don't Take The Loss Of Chemistry As A Sign Of Doomsday. Equally Important, Don't Take The Chemistry Of Sexual Interactions For Love. Above All Of That, Know That You Can Heal And Use Your Past Wisdom To Love Again If You Keep Your Heart Open. Not All Euphoria Ends In Heartbreak.
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THE WRONG REASONS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP

You Meet An Amazing Man And INSTANTLY Fall For Each Other. FOR A While, Things Are Perfect. He's Loving, Affectionate, And You Share Things You've Never Shared With Anyone Else Ever Before. You Start To Believe That He Could Finally Be The One.

But Then Things Start To Shift... And He Becomes Distant And Withdrawn. Instead Of Being Present And Wanting To Talk And Share With You, He's Often Distracted, Irritated And Doesn't Seem As Happy Just To See You And Be With You.

And Then It Happens. Out Of The Blue He Says Something Like, "I Really Care About You, But I'm Just Not Ready For A Serious Relationship Right Now." Of Course You're Devastated And Completely Taken Off-Guard. Were You The Only One Feeling How Great You Were Together?

Was There Something Wrong With Him? Was He Afraid Of Commitment? Or Maybe... Just Maybe You Got In The Relationship And Started Moving Towards A Committed Relationship With This Man For The Wrong Reasons.

Most Women Never Set Out To Find And Fall Into A Relationship For The Wrong Reasons, But It's An Unfortunately Common Process. Here Are Some Of The Wrong Reasons To Get Involved In A Relationship:

1 ► AVOIDING THAT LONELY FEELING:

Another Weekend Rolls Around... But You Have No One Special To Share It With. YOU Get Into Your Bed At Night Alone And Wonder, "I'm A Great Woman. Why Don't I Have A Real Partner To Share My Life With?" You Might Not See It... But On An Unconscious Level, The Struggles Of A BAD RELATIONSHIP May Actually Be More Comfortable And Familiar To You Than The Idea Of Being Alone.

When You Fear Being Alone, You're Much More Likely To Make Bad Choices And End Up Getting Involved With And Staying In Bad Relationships Because It Distracts You From Feeling Lonely.

2► FILLING THE VOID:

If You Believe That A Loving Relationship Will Ease The Emptiness Inside You, The Harsh Reality Is That No Relationship Is Ever Going To Be Able To "Fill You Up." And If You Try, It's Almost Certain That The Man In Your Life Will Start To Sense This And Be Turned Off And Not Want Your Relationship To Work Or Last. Once The Easy Emotional Connection And Satisfaction Of "New Love" Wears Off... You'll Find That You're Not "Filled Up" After All And No Matter What He Does Or Says, Ultimately It Won't Be Good Enough... Or Feel Good Enough For You.

This "VOID" Is The Very Thing That Makes You So Vulnerable To The Wrong Relationships In The First Place- It Will Lead You To Get Involved Not Because A Man Or A Relationship Is Right For You... But Because You Are Driven To Fill The Void.

3► CAVING IN TO SOCIAL PRESSURE:

Are A Bunch Of Your Friends Married, Engaged, Or Falling Deeper Into Lasting, Committed Relationships With Great Guys? If So, Odds Are It's Having A Strong Impact On The Way You're Thinking And Feeling. Seeing The Love And Luck That Other Women Have In Relationships Can Make You Feel An Intense Level Of Pressure To Find The Right Lasting Relationship Now. Ironically, Your Intense Desire To Have A Great Relationship Than You Are In Him And How He Actually Feels When He's With You.

4► YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR MATERIAL AND FINANCIAL NEEDS:

The Craving To Have Someone Take Responsibilities For The Things You Lack, Can Be Very Devastating. Cause The Moment He Doesn't Meet Up In This Areas, Your Actions And Reactions Begins To Send The Wrong Signals To Your Man, And Before You Know It, He Begins To Withdraw. If Going Into A Relationship For You Is To Rely Solely On Your Partner To Have Your Financial And Material Needs Met, Then You Are In For The Wrong Reasons.

WHAT TO DO ABOUT ALL OF THIS

If You Feel Like You End Up Repeating The Same Kind Of Painful Experience Or Situations In Your Relationships, And You Want To Get Off The Wheel... What Should You Do Now? Before You Do Anything, You Likely Need To Stop Letting Yourself Feel Out Of Control- Only You Own And Control Your Life. Once You Take The Control Back, You Can Start Taking Steps To Bring About The Change You Want.

A Great First Step Is To Seek Out Amazing Resources And Information That Will Help You Quickly Grow And Learn.

If You're Ready To Stop Getting In Relationships For All The Wrong Reasons, Take The Time To Help Yourself Let The Woman Inside Shine- The Woman Who A Man Will Quickly Fall For. If You're Ready For A Change, We Can Help.

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