ARE YOU (REALLY) READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP?

Calling All Singles: Think You're Ready For A Relationship? Now Is The Time To Check In With Yourself And Determine Whether You Really And Truly Are Ready For A Relationship. Though You May Tell Yourself You're Sure You're Ready And Really Want To Settle Down With Someone, You First Have To Look At Your Behaviour- Not What You Say-Is The Truth-Teller.

When It Comes To You And Your Love Life, Your Behaviour Is The First Place To Start When Asking Yourself If You're Really Ready For A Relationship. The Only Way You're Going To Find And Maintain A Healthy Romantic Relationship Is If You Start It On A Reasonably Solid Foundation, Which Means That You Need To Have Your (Bleep) Together.

When You're Truly Ready For A Good Adult Relationship, Your Behaviours Will Reflect How Balanced You Are. Take A Look At Some Of The Requirements For Being Ready For A Relationship Below.

1. Your Church Is Not A Bar Or Nightclub:

Going Out To Bars Or Nightclubs Isn't Necessarily A Bad Thing Or A Deterrent To Finding A Good Relationship. The Issue Is More About How You Feel And Act When You're There Which Indicates Whether You're Really Ready For A Relationship. If You're Drinking A Lot When You Go Out, You're Not In A Position To Start A Good Relationship. Sure, You Can Meet Someone, But It's Not Your Best Self You're Putting Forward, So You're Going To End Up With Someone Who's Not Good For You. If You Love To Go Out But Want A Relationship, There's Nothing Wrong With It: Introduce Yourself To People And, When You Meet Someone You Like, Make Plans To See Them In A Different Environment.

2 You've Reflected On Why Your Past Relationships Didn't Work:

There's No Riper Time To Play The Blame Game Than When You End A Relationship. Everyone Loves To Point The Finger At The Other Person, But It Takes Two People To Mess Up A Relationship. When You're Really Ready For Another Relationship, You Can Look Back On Past Relationships And See Which Behaviours You Engaged In That Were Unhealthy And Counterproductive. What's More, When You Look Back At Those Relationships, You Don't Feel-Wait For It-Bitter. YOU Might Feel Angry At Your Ex For Good Reasons, But You Don't Feel Bitter (A Feeling That's A Mix Of Anger And Hopelessness).

3 You Have Retired From The Drama:

Not Only Can You Understand Why Past Relationships Didn't Work, You Can Now Safely Say- And Feel It With Emotion- That You Have Retired From The Drama That Comes With Bad Relationships And Are Ready To Calm Down And Have A Real Adult Relationship. When You Hear Friends Talk About Their Exploits With So-And-So Who Stood Them Up Or Their Fights Followed By A Crazy Make-Up Sex, You Sigh And Remind Yourself That You Have No Place For That Drama Any Longer In Your Life. YOU Feel Wiser, More Mature, And Know More Than Before What You Want And Need From Your Next Partner.

The Goal For Everyone Is To Match What They Say They Want With The Behaviour They Engage In, And That Is A Lot More Difficult Than It Sounds.
However, If You Look More Closely At Your Feelings And Your Behaviour, You Will Be One Step Closer To A Relationship That's Good For You. Just Imagine!