SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD AS OVER

Once The Honeymoon Period Is Over Most Relationships Fall Into A Comfortable Pattern That Might Be Short On The Fireworks Of The First Year, But Provides A Stability And Intimacy That Feels Great.

However, If That Comfortable Groove Has Started To Feel More Like An Apathetic Rut It Might Be Time To Take A Long, Hard Look At Your Relationship And See If It's Likely To Stand The Test Of Time. Here Are Some Ways To Tell If Your Relationship Is On The Rocks...

1. YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE

If You Come Home From Work, Stick The Telly On And Don't Speak To Each Other Beyond The Occasional "Pass The Crisps", You're In Trouble.

Communication Is The Key To Every Relationship And Without It Minor Issues Can Flare Up Into Fights And You'll Both End Up Feeling Unloved And Indifferent. If You Don't Want To Talk To Each Other About How Your Day Was Or Chat And Laugh Together Anymore, It's A Clear Sign That You're Losing Interest.

2. YOU IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER:

If You Find Yourself Constantly Having Daydreams That Fail To Feature Your Partner It's Time To Ask Yourself Some Questions. You Might Long For A Home Free Of Their Clutter And Chat, Or Fantasise About A Date With That Hot New Colleague, Or Wish You Could Just Take A Holiday Alone: Whatever It Is, You've Started To Emotionally Detach.

3. YOU RARELY HAVE SEX:

Once The Initial Excitement Of A New Relationship Has Worn Off You Will Naturally Have A Bit Less Sex, But A Strong Desire For Your Partner And Regular Sex Make For A Healthy, Functioning Relationship. It May Just Be That Your Sex Life Has Got A Little Bit Routine And Injecting Some Zest With A Little Bit Of Experimentation Will Put Things Back On An Even Keel, But If You Still Aren't Feeling It, Its Probably Time To Wave Goodbye.

4. YOU PICK FIGHTS:

If You Find Your Partner Irritating And Can't Resist Constantly Picking Them Up On Their Habits Then The Writing Is On The Wall. Relationships Require Empathy, Compassion And Compromise To Keep Going, So If You've Jacked All That In Favour Of Snapping And Bickering It's Time To Get Out Of There.

5. YOU FORGET ABOUT THE LITTLE THINGS:

Whilst Big Gestures Are Thrilling And Romantic They Don't Help Maintain A Relationship On A Day-TO-Day Level. A Recent Study Funded By The Economic Science And Research Council Found That The Simple Things- Such As Bringing Your Partner A Cup Of Tea In Bed- Nurture A Relationship Much More Than Grand Romantic Gestures. If You've Forgotten About Those Little Things And Rarely Think To Do Anything For Your Partner, From Offering Them A Cuppa To Giving Them A Cuddle, Then It's Time To Forget About The Whole Thing And Move On.
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DO YOU HAVE THE KIND OF ATTITUDE MEN FIND IRRESISTIBLE?

When You Meet A New Man You Like, It's Tempting To Think You Need To Actively Do Something To Show Him Why He Should Be Attracted To You And Interested In You. You Might Think You Need To Show Him What A Great Cook You Are By Making Him A Meal Or Helping Him With A Problem So That He Sees That You'd Make A Good Partner.

But While Every Relationship Needs A Balance Of Give And Take, These Efforts On Your Part Are Not What Make A Man Attracted To You. The Truth Is That The Women Who Men Find Irresistible Have Certain "Attitudes" That Draw A Man's Attention And Interest Easily-With Little Or No Effort.

You Can Think Of These "Attitudes" As What You Are Saying To A Man Without You Saying A Word. Your Internal Emotions, Your Body Language, And Your Tone Of Voice All Communicate Your "Attitude" At A Deep Level.

Here Are Some Attitudes That Are Subtly Irresistible To A Man:

1.) I Don't Let A Man Determine What I Will Have In My Love-Life."

This Kind Of Woman Won't Settle For A Man Who Isn't Giving Her What She Wants And Needs Emotionally. Men Respect This At A Deep Level, And They Either Become Engaged And Inspired By This To Want To Be With You... Or Turn The Other Way If They Really Aren't Looking For What You Want.

How Do You Embody This? By First Taking Stock Of What You Really Need In A Relationship, And Then Sticking Up For Instance, Say You're Ready For An Exclusive Relationship. Simply Tell Him, "You Have Every Right To Date Other Women, But I'm Looking For Exclusivity. It's What Feels Right For Me." This Is A Lot Different, From Issuing A Man An Ultimatum. It Tells Him That This Is What You Need Independent Of Him To Make Something Happen. Rather, You Are Stating What You Are Looking For- With Or Without Him.

Irresistible Attitude #2: I'd Leave A Man Before I Allow Unacceptable Behaviour."

This Woman Won't Stay In A Relationship That's Abusive, Degrading, Or Morally Questionable. She Also Won't Put Up With Bad Behaviour From A Man. Integrity And Trust Are Important To Her, And She Lets Him Know That.

The Cornerstone Of This Attitude Is A Healthy Sense Of Self-Esteem. In A Relationship, The First Person You Must Take Care Of Is You. Know Your Boundaries So That You Can Recognise When Someone Crosses Them- And Let Him Know When Something Is Not Acceptable To You.

Irresistible Attitude #3: "I Wouldn't Keep A Man From Doing The Healthy, Personal Things He Enjoys, Or Let My Own Fears Or Limitations Stand In His Way."

She Knows That Her Man Is An Adult Who Has The Right And Freedom To Make His Own Choice. She Understands That The More She Tries To Restrict Him, The Less He's Going To Feel Open, Free And Empowered When He's With Her. She Respects His Need To Pursue His Goals And Dreams.

A Smart Woman Gives A Man The "Rope" He Needs To Be Himself. She Recognises That When Each Person In A Relationship Nourishes His Or Her Particular Passions, That The Relationship Also Becomes More Interesting And Passionate.

When You Embody These Irresistible Attitudes, A Man Is Much Less Likely To Get Weird On You When You Let Him Know How You're Feeling, Because He'll Be Craving A Meaningful And Deep Connection With You As Well. These Attitudes Tell Him That You Are The Kind Of Woman Who Has A Strong Sense Of What She Needs And That She Is Not Looking To Him To Make Her Happy. She Takes Responsibility For Her Own Happiness- And This Is Infinitely Attractive To A Man.

Understanding Attraction And How It Works In A Man Is Crucial For Having A Lasting, Secure Relationship. TO Learn More About The Kind Of Woman A Great Guy Is Attracted To For A Long Term, Then Stick Around For Our Subsequent Articles As We Unfold What Makes A Guy Want To Commit To You, And What You Can Do To Get Him There Without Any Convincing Or Game Playing.
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IS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT A REAL THING?

Listen To Enough Pop Songs And Watch Enough Romantic Movies, And You're Bound To Start Believing That Love At First Sight Happens All The Time. But Does It Exist In The Real World, Between Real People?

Like So Much About Love, The Question Of Love At First Sight Can't Be Answered Objectively. But I'll Do My Best To Answer It Here In The Most Helpful Way.

IS YOUR MIND PLAYING TRICKS ON YOU?

Have You Ever Seen Someone And Instantly Felt Attracted To Every Part Of Them, Including Their Personality (Even Though You Haven't Even Talked To Them Yet?) You Might Be Quick To Call It Love At First Sight, But It's Probably What Psychologists Call The Attractiveness Halo Effect. When You See Someone Who Looks Great, Your Brain Sometimes Jumps To The Conclusion That Their Personality Must Be Great Too.

We All Know That Not Everyone's Looks And Personalities Match Up. Some Attractive People Are Total Jerks, And Some Of The Best People In The World Aren't What You'd Necessarily Think Of As Hot. So The Halo Effect Is Really Just An Illusion. Your Sudden Feelings Of Love Might Go Away As Soon As You Get To Know The Person Better.

LOVE: MORE THAN JUST LOOKS

Everyone's Got A Different Take On What Love Is, But Few People Believe That's Made Out Of Stuff You Can Find Just By Looking At Someone. Love (At Least If You Ask Me) Is Made Up Of Compromise, Empathy And Patience. You Can't Give Or Get Those Sorts Of Things At First Sight.

That Doesn't Mean That Your Initial Feelings Can't Turn Into Love. When You First See Someone, You Might Instantly Know That You Want To Get Close To Them And Learn About Them. As Your Relationship Progresses, Those Feelings Might Eventually Grow Into Love. But Is "LOVE" Really The Word For Your Gut Reaction? Not Unless Your Definition Of Love Is Kinda Superficial.

WHEN COUPLES "JUST KNOW"

You Might Meet Couples Who Say That When They Saw Each Other For The First Time, They "Just Knew." What Did They Really Know? Probably That They Liked How The Other Person Looked And Acted, And That They Wanted To Take Things To The Next Step And Get To Know Each Other Better.

If They Want To Call It "Love At First Sight," That's Okay By Me. But Keep In Mind That There Are Lots Of Other Couples Who Get The Same Feeling When They Meet Each Other, And It Ends Badly Or Doesn't Go Anywhere At All. It's Not The Stuff That Comes Later- The Commitment And Caring That Makes A Relationship Last.

THE DANGER OF BELIEVING TOO STRONGLY IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

You Might Be Wondering Why I'm Giving Love At First Sight Such A Bad Rap. It's Not That I Don't Think The Idea Is Sweet, Or That I Don't Love Me Some Romantic Movies. But It's Wrong To Think That If You Don't Have Intense Feelings Right Away, It Could Never Be Love. Some Of The Best And Strongest Relationships Started Out In Totally Unromantic Ways.

More Importantly, Though, The Halo Effect Can Be Dangerous. If You See Someone Hot And Assume That What You Feel Is Love, You'll Overlook Qualities In Them That Could End Up Hurting You. You Might Let Them Get Away With Abusive Behaviour Because Your Heart Has Taken Over Your Better Judgment.

SO WHAT'S THE ANSWER?

Whether Or Not You Want To Believe In Love At First Sight Up To You. Just Don't Go Out There Expecting To Find It And Get Upset When You Don't.

And When You Meet Someone You Instantly Swoon Over, Be Aware That There's A Whole Lot About Them You Haven't Seen Yet- Including Some Stuff That Might Not Be So Deserving Of Your Love.

Have You Ever Met Someone And Immediately Felt Love At First Sight? If Yes, Kindly Share With Us What Your Experience In The Relationship Was Or Is Like. :-)

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WHAT TO DO WHEN A GIRL SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND

Many Guys Are Afraid Of Finding Out If A Girl They've Been Crushing/Admiring Has A Boyfriend Or Not.

When I Meet A Girl, I Find Out If She Has A Boyfriend Or Not. If She Has A Boyfriend, I Ask About Him To Find Out If He's REAL Or Not. That's What You Should Be Doing Too.

Now This Article Isn't About Telling You Whether Or Not To Sleep With A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend.

This Article Is About Telling You What To Do When A Girl Says She Has A Boyfriend.

WHAT TO DO WHEN A GIRL SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND: Proper Screening: Find Out ASAP!

The Results Of An Interaction Can Take A Turn Depending On How You Find Out A Girl Has A Boyfriend. Many Times Girls Will Say They Have A Boyfriend To Just Filter You Out And Make You Go Away. This Can Sometimes Be Because Of A Bad Opener Or She Doesn't Find You That Attractive.

Sometimes A Girl Doesn't Want To Hurt Your Feelings So She Makes Up A Lie. Now I'm Not A Home Wrecker, So I Indirectly Ask If A Girl Has A Boyfriend Or Not.

EXAMPLE 1: Found Out She Had A Boyfriend

There Was This Cashier Once Who Would Always Smile And Give Me Seductive Looks. So After The Holidays I Asked What She Got For Easter From Her Friends And Family. It Was A Normal Conversation, I Was Going Direct, And I Was Just Seeking Information.

Exzel: Hey, How Was Your Holiday?

Girl: Great And Yours?

Exzel: Great Huh? What Stuff Did You Get?

Girl: *Lists Stuff* How Bout You?

Exzel: This And That, What'd Your Boyfriend Get You?

Girl: He Got Me This And That And Blah Blah Blah

Exzel: Sounds Like You're Spoiled *Exit Exzel From Interaction*

Now A Lot Of Guys Can Say I Already Knew She Had A Boyfriend But I Really Didn't. I Know That Some Women Enjoy Flirting When They Have A Boyfriend Cause They Like The Attention From Guys.

A Lot Of Times I Just Assume A Girl Has A Boyfriend When I Go Out. It's A Lot More Flattering In A Girls Mind To Think That Someone Out There Finds Her Attractive. If She Doesn't Have That Someone When You Could Possibly Be That Someone In Her Life.

EXAMPLE 2: Found Out She's Single

Exzel: You Know You Should Stop Looking At Me Like That?

Her: What? Why?

Exzel: Cause Your Boyfriend Might Get Jealous.

Her: I Actually Don't Have A Boyfriend.

Exzel: *Goes In For A Close*

Girls With Boyfriends: How Committed Are They? Girls To Stay Away From!

THE USERS

The Reason I Screen For Girls With Boyfriends Is To Keep Me From Wasting Time. First Off, If A Girl Has A Boyfriend You Should Never Take Her Out On A Date And Wine And Dine Her.

The Reason Being You Had A Great Time With Her, But She's Going To F**k Her Boyfriend. Women Love Getting Free Meals. If Anything You Became A Provider And A Great Friend To Her.

One Who She Won't Hesitate To Call Whenever She Has Any Boyfriend Problems. You're Way More Invested In Her Than She Is In You. The Girl Is Teasing You, She Gives You Flirty Smiles And Soft Hugs Because She Wants You To Stick Around. Girls Know How To Keep Men Around, But You Have To Keep Men Around, But You Have To Have The Balls To Simply Walk Away.

Sometimes She Just Wants To Make Her Boyfriend Jealous. She's Dancing On You At The Club To Get A Rise Out Of Him. If She's Trying To Make Him Jealous, She's More Invested In Her Boyfriend NOT You. You Are Simply A Tool At Her Disposal.

Regardless, Her Friends Will Stop Her Making A Big Mistake Anyway. Women Are Very Emotional And Do Things That Logically Don't Make Sense To Men.

You Have To Look At The BIG PICTURE, And Make Good Decisions. Don't Buy Meals For A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend, And Don't Get Led On With A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend. When You Get Led On It Shows How Inexperienced You. Real Men Walk Away And Find People Who Won't Waste Their Time.

Girls With Boyfriends: The Girl Who Needs To Be Rescued

For Whatever Reason This Girl Is Dating Some Crazy Guy Who's Abusive. The Guy Beats Her Up And Slaps Her Around. You Think To Yourself You Can Save Her, You Cannot. I Don't Care How "Lethal" Your Hands Are Or How "Tough" You Think You Are.

If Her Boyfriend Is Crazy And Known To Be Violent Then You Should Stay Away From That Girl. If The Man Is Unstable Just Walk Away From Her And, Avoid Her Like A Plague. Girls Like This Have Awful Taste In Men And More Than Like Have Some Psychological Issues Too.

Now Lets Cover How You Actually Met This Girl And How She's Different.

Girls With Boyfriends: She's In "Love"

When A Girl Is In Love With Her Boyfriend She Will Give You A TON Of Resistance. The Reason Being Is She Doesn't Want To Hurt Her Boyfriend. She Cares About Him And HE Cares About HER.

Now If You Happen To Sleep With This Girl She's Going To Be An Emotional Wreck. The Reason Being Is She Cheated On Someone She Loved And The Boyfriend Will Probably Dump Her If He Ever Finds Out.

This Leaves A Woman Torn Apart Because She Made A Mistake. Trust Me, I've Been There, And I Know How Devastated The Lady Was Afterwards.

At The End Of The Day It's On YOU To Decide If It's Worth It Or Not. I'm Not Here To Judge You, I'm Here To Advise You.

Girl Who Has A Boyfriend: Defining The Relationship And Circumstances Where You Met Her

Now Notice In My Examples Above No Matter What The Girl Said I Remained Unfazed.

Now For Those Of You That May Be Wondering I Typically Don't Go After Girls Who Have Boyfriends. It's Not Because Of Some Morals, Ethics, Or Etc... It's Because It Takes A Great Deal Of Time And More Effort To Get These Girls Laid.

Girls Love Going Out When They Have Boyfriends Because They Love The Attention. They Love Getting Free Stuffs And They Love Having Fun With Their Girlfriends. Now There May Be A Girl You End Sleeping With Though.

Girl Who Has A Boyfriend: The Girl On A Mission!

This Girl Has A Boyfriend And Wants To Sleep With Another Guy In Revenge.

Her Boyfriend Messed Up And Cheated On Her, And Now She Wants Revenge. She Wants To Hurt Him Just Like The Way He Hurt Her. This Girl Is Up For It And She's Being Very Blunt About It.

You Must Act Quick And Not Hesitate Because If You Don't Do It She'll Find Someone Who WILL. If You Want To Sleep With Her You Must Move Fast And Act Quickly. It Will Be A One Time Thing And She'll Leave The Situation Feeling Great And Satisfied. She'll Make Her Exit And Go Back TO Her Boyfriend.

Don't Get Attached. If You Guys Think Women Don't Do Things Like This, Then Watch For Another Article Titled "Women Are Just As Horny As Men" If Not Hornier.

What To Do When A Girl Says She Has A Boyfriend: Conclusion And Wrap Up

If You're The Type Of Guy Who Doesn't Want To Sleep With Someone's Girlfriend, Screen Her For A Boyfriend. If She Has A Boyfriend And You Don't Want To Sleep With Her, Just Exit From Her Life.

Now If You Want To Sleep With A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend Anyway Then Try To Avoid The Types I've Listed. Find The One On A Vendetta At Your Local Bar Or Club Or Anywhere Else.

I'm Not Encouraging You To Start Sleeping With Every Girl Who Falls Prey To You. Because Remember I Prefer Not To Waste My TIME.
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THE MISTAKES LADIES WHO APPROACH A GUY MAKE THAT RUIN THEIR RELATIONSHIP

Yes Great People... Welcome To Another Article From My Series "The MIND OF A PLAYA"

Like I Promised In My Last Article Titled "Is There Anything Wrong In A Lady Approaching A Guy Or Telling Him How She Feels? I'm Here With A Follow Up On That Article. Now For Those Of You Who Haven't Read That Article, You Can Do So By Visiting www.Deedollar.Blogspot.Com.

Its No Longer A New Thing Lately To See Ladies Approach A Guy They Like And Pour Their Hearts Out, While Some See It As Cool, Others See It As A Lady Presenting Herself Cheap. Well As For Those Who Have No Problem With It, And Specifically Those Who Have Done It And Failed... Am Here To Give You A Few Tips On Why The Relationship Probably Never Worked.

For Most Guys, Its Unusual And A First Experience To Have A Lady Approach Them. And Saying 'NO' Isn't Really An Option Especially If The Lady Is One That They Would Love To Have A Relationship With. Yes, I'll Address This Issue In Two Perspective

1) When You Are Not His Type

2) When You Are His Type.

WHEN YOU ARE NOT HIS TYPE

As A Lady, When You Approach A Guy Whom Isn't Attracted To You In Anyway, And Doesn't Want To Be Outrightly True To You By Turning You Down In The Most Appropriate Of Ways, So As Not To Hurt You... What First Comes To His Mind Is "Is She The Kinda Girl I Wanna Be With?" Now If You Are Unfortunate To Approach A Guy Who Isn't Man Enough, That Sees You As An Easy Prey. He Wouldn't Care About Your Character/Attitude Or Other Essential Qualities He Needs In A Woman. Because All His Mind And Focus Is Directed Towards Having SEX With You As Soon As Possible.

...And Because You Are Already So Into This Guy, You Wouldn't Mind Doing Anything Just To Get Him To Love You As Much As You Love Him, You Then Fall For Anything. Now This Is Where Some Ladies Who Have Approached Guys And Failed Get It Wrong. Because Soon The Guy Is Done And Gone... And You Feel Cheap, Cheated, And Used. Then You Start Thinking The Whole Idea Of Approaching A Guy Is Lame And Wasted.

WHEN YOU ARE HIS TYPE

The Mistake Ladies Who Approached A Guy Who Is Genuinely Interested In Return Mostly Lies In This Part.

Remember I Talked About How The Bible Admonished Men To Love Their Wives... And I Said Its Because Men Have A Hard Time Loving. Men Are Quite Slow To Love Than Women, But Women Are Naturally Wired To Love.

So One Of The Mistakes Most Ladies Who Approach A Guy Make Is Actually Wanting The Guy To Start Responding With All The Love And Care They Require From A Man. What They Forget Is That A Guy Who Shows A Genuine Interest, And Who Sees Her As His Type Also Needs Time To Be Sure About What He Is Getting Himself Into, If Truly It Would Work Out.

As A Lady Who Approached A Guy, Don't Forget That The Qualities The Guy Is Looking For In A Wife Wouldn't Change Because You Approached Him First. So If Your Qualities In The Course Of The Relationship Doesn't Tally With What He Wants In A Woman, Then That Relationship Is Sure To End Soon Leaving You The Lady Emotionally Shattered In Regret For Making The First Move.

NOTE: If You Are A Lady Who Nags, Cheats, Who Is Rude And Non Social, Don't You Think Approaching A Guy First For A Relationship Wouldn't Favour You? So Its Advisable To Be At Your Best Before Being The First To Make A Move.

Finally, Don't Expect The Man To Immediately Start Doing The Things He Would Have Done If He Was The One Who Approached You. Give Him Time To Grow Into Loving You By The Way You Handle Issues Maturedly. Be In Control Of Your Feelings, Don't Let It Escalate Into Making You Behave Needy And Possessive, Because It Would Scare Your Man Who Is Just Getting To Love You Away.

Just Imagine How It Took You Time As A Lady To Finally Get To Love That Guy Who Once Approached You. If It Is So For You As A Lady Who Has Twice The Ability To Love, How Much More A Man Who Is Slow To Love?

JUST THINK ABOUT THAT.

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