Tuesday, 7 January 2014

COULD NAGGING ACTUALLY BE WORSE THAN CHEATING?

Is Nagging Really So Bad? After all, Most Of Us Seem To Think Of
Nagging As Annoying, But Pretty Benign And Harmless. And Some Of Us
Feel Like We'll Never Get What We Want Unless We Ask For It In 50
Million Ways. Yet Almost A Year Ago, A Wall Street Journal Columnist,
Elizabeth Bernstein, Made The Provocative Claim That Nagging Is A
"Marriage Killer... More Common Than Adultery And Potentially As
Toxic."
A Little Science Supports That Provocative Claim. Howard J. Markman,
Professor Of Psychology At The University Of Denver And The
Co-Director Of The Center For Marital And Family Studies, Spent 30
Years Studying Conflict Patterns And Divorce. His Team Found That
Negative Conflict Patterns, Consistent With Nagging, Attack Love And
Jack Up The Risk Of Unhappiness And Potential Divorce. Markman Knows
Something We All Know: Nagging Is Common. And Therein Lies Its
Inherent Danger. Your Relationship Is Like A House In A Falling Rock
Zone: Nagging Frequently Causes Rocks To Roll Onto Your House And Chip
Away Love, While Cheating Triggers An Avalanche. You Stay On The
Lookout For Avalanches, But May Be Unaware Of The Long-Term Damage
Done By The Frequent Falling Rock•
So While Nagging May Actually Not Be Worse For Our Marriages Than
Cheating (Falling Rocks Versus Avalanche), Maybe We Need To Recognize
It As A Genuine Detriment To Relationships. I Can Think Of Three
Important Ways That Persistent Nagging Can Erode A Relationship's
Foundation•
FIRST UP: COMMUNICATION•
Let's Explore A Scenario: The Nagger Gets Really Nervous Whenever
Nagged One Drives On Long Vacations. He's More Aggressive Behind The
Wheel And That Triggers Her Anxiety. So She Reminds Him Of The Speed
Limit Every Five Minutes, And Uses Hand And Foot Signals To Encourage
Him To Slow Down. With Each Hour, Nagger's Voice, Hand, And Foot
Signals Become More Emphatic, And Nagged One Becomes Less Attentive Or
Maybe Explodes In Irritation. Neither Spouse Feels Understood, And
Most Likely Neither Understands The Other. Nagging Hijacks Empathic
Communication•

SECOND UP: CONNECTION•

When Was The Last Time You Wanted To Cuddle Up With Your Spouse After
Being Nagged- Or After Nagging? Usually The More One Nags, The Faster
And Farther The Other Runs... Literally Or Figuratively. If You Nag
Your Wife About Something On The Way To A Nice Restaurant, An Evening
Out May Lose Its Sparkle Before Drinks Are Served. If The Two Of You
Are Trapped In A Nagging Cycle, You May Confuse Your Struggle
(Nagging) With Your Identities (Two People Who Can't Get Along).
Nagging Can Make You Lose Track Of Who You Are: Two People Who Love
Each Other And Struggle With An Ineffective Communication Habit. Think
About Changing Your Habit Before You Dream About Changing Your
Partner•

THIRD UP: TRUST•

If You Are The Nagger, You May Feel Uncared For If Your Spouse
Repeatedly Rejects Your Persistent Pleas. If You Are Nagged, You May
Correctly Think That Your Spouse Does Not Trust You To Be Responsible
In A Particular Area Or In Many Areas. When Nagging Becomes
Entrenched, You Each May Feel Like The Other Does Not Have Your Back.
Trust Erodes- Not Because Nagger And Nagged One Are Inherently Flawed-
But Because Each Is Persistently Trapped In An Ineffective
Communication Pattern. What If Nagger Clearly States What He/She Wants
And Explains Why, And Nagged One Honestly States His/Her Intention And
When He/She Will Comply? Each May Need To Compromise A Little, But
Trust Will Begin Grow. (And They Can Throw Away Their Nagging Labels)•

So Maybe Nagging Can't Bring Home An Avalanche Like Cheating Can. But
If It Persist Unabated In Your Relationship, It Can Become An
Off-The-Radar Marriage Killer. Perhaps It's Time To Take Another Look
At This Communication Pattern In Our Relationships•

Have You Been In A Relationship Where Nagging Was A Real Issue?

Sunday, 5 January 2014

MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS YOU CAN ASK

Have You Noticed That Conversations ArE Beginning To Take On That
Familiar New Year Cadence? Friends, Family And Colleagues Are Sharing
Ideas About Resolutions, About Things They Are Determined To Change
About Themselves•

Last Year 45% Of Us Made New Year's Resolutions, Yet In Spite Of Good
Intentions, Only 14% Of Us Achieved Them, According To The Journal Of
Clinical Psychology. These Were Not Insurmountable Goals; The Top 3
Resolutions Were To Lose Weight, To Get Organized And To Spend
Less/Save MorE•

So Why Do So Few Of Us Accomplish What We Set Out To Change? We Make
These Commitments And At The Same Time Only Half-Heartedly Expect
Them To Come To Fruition. It's Not Because These Ain't Worthwhile
Goals Or That We Don't Care. They Just Are Not Answers To The Kinds Of
Questions That We Really Need To Ask Ourselves. We Need To Ask The
Game Changing Questions That Will Yield Our True Commitment•

Take A New Approach In 2014. Rather Than Obsessing About Losing
Weight, Try Asking Yourself How You Can Actively See To Make Yourself
And The World A Better Place•

අ Rather Than Losing Sleep Over Regrets, Ask Yourself: 'How I Can
Leave A Legacy So That My Values Live On?

අ Rather Than Holding On To Old Battles, Ask Yourself: Do I
Communicate Honestly, Openly An Fairly?


අ Rather Than Focusing On The Last 5 Pounds, Ask Yourself Openly AND
What Makes You Com Alive?'

Create A Vivid Picture Describing Your Well-Lived Life. Only Then Can
You Create An Authentic ActiON Plan To Measure Progress Towards Those
Goals•

Try It Out, And Let Us Know How It Worked For You!

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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS GROUP OF COMPANIES™ © Copyright 2014•

Thursday, 2 January 2014

RELIGHT YOUR FIRE

Recent Research Suggests That Compared To Past Times People Are
Working An Extra 6-10 Hours Per Week With Only 32% Stopping To Take A
Full Lunch. Despite Countless Articles Written Each Year Aimed At
Helping Create Balance And Quality In Life, People Are Still
Overworking And Expecting To Achieve More. When You Burn The Candle At
Both Ends, Productivity Decreases And You Are Left Overwhelmed,
Overworked, Overstressed And Overcommited•

A Break From The Norm Will Recharge Your Energies, But In Terms Of
Yielding Longterm Results The Benefits May Only Be Shortlived•

In Order To Enhance Your Effectiveness The Long Term, You Need To
Maintain And Develop The Greatest Asset That You Have Yourself. Its
Essential That You Take Time To Refresh Your Skills Enhance Your
Knowledge And Develop Your Capabilities. Take Time To Tap Into The
Potential You Always Knew You Had. Read A Book, Listen To A Great
Speaker On Audio Or Attend A Programme Focused On Developing Your
Potential•

Ensure That You Are Resiliant Enough To Deal With All The Obstacles
That Life Is Giving You. Invest In Yourself So That You Are Physically
Charged And Mentally Focused. If You Feel That Your Fire Is Burning
Out Then Add Some Spark To It Again. Recharge, Reignite And Reenergise
And Be The Best You Can Be•

Tuesday, 31 December 2013

DO YOU REALLY KNOW HOW TO APOLOGIZE?

I Was Thinking About Apologies And I'm Pretty Sure I Came Up With A
Perfect Analogy. What Are Apologies Like? Apologies Are A Lot Like
Weeds: Once In A While, They're Pretty, But They're Usually Just
Annoying. Similarly, If You Think About The Countless Apologies You've
Probably Heard In The Past Year Alone, You Can Only Remember One Or
Two Specifically- And Those Were Either Really Good Ones Or Really Bad
Ones.
Bottom Line On Apologies: Most Of Them Aren't Thoughtful Or Sincere.
For Most Of Us, Making A Mistake Usually Results In The Fear That We
Will Get In Trouble Or Be Punished, So We Throw Out A Quick "I'M
SORRY" To Stop A Potential Argument And Avoid Getting In Trouble.
Often Someone Issues An Obligatory Apology And Makes A Sad Face To Go
Along With It, Convinced That All The Necessary Components Of An
Apology Have Been Met. Did I Say, "I'M SORRY?" Check. Did I Look Sad?
Check. Which Brings Us To How To Offer An Apology The Right Way.
I Don't Actually Have To Say The Words, "I'm SORRY?"
It's A Total Paradox But A Good Apology Doesn't Have To Include The
Words "I'm Sorry" Or "I Apologize." The Truth Is That A Good Apology
Includes Three Components: Acknowledging The Other Person's Feelings;
Taking Ownership Of What You Did That Caused Upset; And Assuring Him
Or Her That You Won't Make The Same Mistake Again. For Specifics, I'll
Give You Some Examples Of Good And Bad- No, Atrocious- Apologies•
EXAMPLES OF GOOD APOLOGIES
"I Know You've Asked Me Not To Flirt With Other People. At The Time, I
Honestly Didn't Think I Was. Now I Realize You Were Right, And That
Wasn't Right Of Me To Do That. I Won't Do It Again." NOTE: Did You See
The Words, "I'M Sorry?" Okay, Then My Job Is Almost Done Here!
"I Have Spent The Day Trying To Understand Why You Were Upset. I
Finally Get It. I Wasn't Thinking About Your Feelings, Only My Own. If
I Ever Do That Again, Honey; I Will Deal With This Because I Care
About You." Note: This One Is Especially Good Because The Apologizer
Actually Took Time To Reflect On The Behaviour (e.g, "I Have Spent The
Day Trying To Understand Why...). In Each Of The Good Apologies, It
Feels As If The Apologizer Is Conceding, And Is No Longer In A Power
Struggle To Win Or Be Right•
BAD APOLOGIES
"I Heard You; You Keep Saying It. I'm Sorry, Okay? I Said I Won't Do
It Again." Note: I Don't Know About You, But I Don't Want To Be On The
Receiving End Of This Apology.
"Apologize To You? What About Me? You Think You're The Only One Who
Did Anything Wrong Here?" Note: Enough Said. "I Know I Shouldn't Have
Done What I Did, But You Kind Of Set Me Up For It. You Bring It Out Of
Me, And It's Hard To Control Myself When You Push Me Too Far." Note:
Turning The Tables Is Of The Most Common Tactics For Narcissists. They
Avoid Accountability At Costs And Frequently Try To Turn The Tables,
Causing The Other Person To Feel Confused And To Ultimately Back Down•

This Kind Of Apology Is Especially Toxic. If You Get This Type Of
Apology From Your Partner, You Need To Seriously Evaluate The
Relationship. Among The Bad Apologies, You'll See How They Keep The
Disconnect And Arguments Alive. Bad Apologies Are Yet Another Attempt
To Try To Show The Other Person You Were Right All Along•

WHEN IS IT TIME TO APOLOGIZE?

Because Everyone Has A Different Personality Style, Everyone Deserves
A Little Wiggle Room When It Comes To The Timing Of An Apology. The
Ideal Apology, Of Course, Involves Someone Apologizing Right Away. Yet
Some People Need A Little Time To Retreat To Their Own Corner Before
They Can Return To The Group And Play Nicely. I Crawl Out Of My Skin A
Bit Each Time Someone Flippantly Announces Their Approach To
Relationship Problems In The Following Way: "We Have A Rule Where WE
Never Go TO Bed Angry." Child, Please! If Only Life Were That Easy. If
Someone Needs An Evening Or Even A Couple Of Days To Reflect Before
Coming Back With An Apology, Its Okay. If You Are Waiting For An
Apology, Distract Yourself With An Activity That Absorbs Your Mental
Energy And Be Patient. The Apology May Come Sooner Than You Imagine,
But You Can Also Always Ask For An Apology In A Couple Of Days If You
Haven't Yet Received It. By That Time, The Two Of You Will Probably
Have A Much More Effective Conversation As A Result•

Have You Received Any Good Apologies Lately? Or Just The Toxic Kind?

Sunday, 24 November 2013

DOES THE BIBLE SAY IT'S A SIN FOR WOMEN TO WEAR PANTS?

THE TRUTH ABOUT Deuteronomy 22:5
"The Woman Shall Not Wear That Which Pertaineth Unto A Man, Neither
Shall A Man Put On A Woman's Garment: For All That Do So Are
Abomination Unto The LORD Thy God." This Verse-- Deuteronomy 22:5-- Is
One Of The Most Commonly Quoted And Debated Verses In The Old
Testament.
Some Christians Have Taken This Verse To Mean That Christian Women
Shouldn't Wear Pants, Arguing That Pants Are That Which "Pertaineth
Unto A Man." Many Sincere And Honest Christians Have Grappled With
This Issue, Wanting To Be Pleasing To God. This Teaching, As With All
Teachings Regarding The Scriptures, Needs To Be Carefully Examined. It
Is Just As Much An Error To Teach Something That The Scriptures Don't
Say As It Is To Ignore What The Scripture Do Say.
The Teaching That It Is Wrong For Christian Women To Wear Pants Is
Based Upon The Following Beliefs:
1) Deut 22:5 Teaches That Women Should Not Wear That Which Pertains Unto A Man.
2) Pants Pertain To A Man Because They Were Not Only Exclusively
Invented For Men, But They Also Have Historically Been Worn Only By
Men.
3) The Bible Teaches Separation Of The Sexes And Since There Is So
Little Distinction Between Men's And Women's Pants, They Are
Essentially Unisex And Therefore Do Not Provide Adequate Separation.
The First Assertion, Which States That Deuteronomy Specifically
Forbids The Wearing Of "That Which Pertaineth Unto A Man," Deserves
Careful Study. As With The Study Of Any Scripture, It Is Important To
Read The Passage In Context And Examine The Relevant Words And Their
Meanings In The Original Text. A Reputable Bible Dictionary Or Lexicon
Can Be An Invaluable Aid.
The Phrase "That Which Pertaineth," Or Simply The Word Petaineth In
The King James Version Of The Bible, Is Translated From The Hebrew
Word Keliy, Which Means "Article, Vessel, Implement, Or Utensil," 1
Translators Commonly Render Keliy As Weapon, Armor Or Instrument In
The Old Testament. The Word Man, In Both The First And Last Part Of
Deut 22:5, Is The Hebrew Word Geber Meaning "Man, Strong Man, Or
Warrior (Emphasizing Strength Or Ability To Fight)."
2. It Is Important To Note That This Is Not The Only Word For Man In
Hebrew. Verse 13 Of This Very Same Chapter Uses The Hebrew Word "Iysh,
Which Is Also Translated Man And Means Just That- "Man, Male (In
Contrast To Woman, Female)."
3• It Is Apparent That Moses, When Writing Deut 22:5, Was Quite
Intentionally Not Talking About A Man In General, But A Very Specific
Kind Of Man- Namely, A Warrior Or Soldier. Considering This, Perhaps A
Better Translation Of This Verse Would Be As Follows:
"The Woman Shall Not Put On [The Weapons/Armor Of A Warrior], Neither
Shall A [Warrior] Put On A Woman's Garment: For All That Do So Are
Abomination Unto The LORD Thy GOD."
"As The Word... Geber Is Here Used, Which Properly Signifies A Strong
Man Or Man Of War, It Is Very Probable That Armour Is Here Intended;
Especially As We Know That In The Worship Of Venus, To Which That Of
Astarte Or Ashtaroth Among The Canaanites Bore A Striking Resemblance,
The Women Were Accustomed To To Appear In Armour Before Her."
4• John Gill In His Exposition Of The Entire Bible Sees A Similar
Meaning In 22:5:
"...And The Word [Keliy] Also Signifies Armour, As Onkelos Renders It;
And So Here Forbids Women Putting On A Military Habit And Going With
Men To War, As Was Usual With The Eastern Women; And So Maimonides
Illustrates It, By Putting A Mitre Or An Helmet On Her Head, And
Clothing Herself With A Coat Of Mail; And In Like Manner Josephus
Explains It, 'Take Heed, Especially In War, That A Woman Do Not Make
Use Of The Habit Of A Man, Or A Man That Of A Woman...' "
Rabbi Jon-Jay Tilsen Of The United Synagogue Of Conservative Judaism
Writes In An Excerpt From An Article Entitled "Cross Dressing And
Deuteronomy 22:5,"
"In Another Attempt To Identify The Quintessential 'Men's Items; Rabbi
Eliezer Ben Jacob, Quoted In The Talmud (Edited About 800 C.E.), Says,
'What Is The Proof That A Woman May Not Go Forth With Weapons To War?'
He Then Cites Our Verse [Deuteronomy 22:5], Which He Reads This Way:
'A Warrior's Gear May Not Be Put On A Woman' (B. Naz. 59a). He Reads
Kli Gever [Geber] As The Homograph Kli Gibbor, Meaning A 'Warrior's
Gear' ."
Rabbi Tilsen Further States,
"This Same Understanding Is Followed By Midrash Mishlei (Proverbs)
Which Contends That The Biblical Character Yael In The Book Of Judges
Kills General Sisera With A Tent Pin Instead Of A Sword In Order To
Comply With This Law. It Would Have Been 'Unlady-Like' For Her To Use
A Sword--- Worse, A Violation Of The Law--- Because A Sword Is A Man's
Tool..."
Considering The Sheer Specificity Of Deut 22:5 And The Precise Nature
Of Those Things That Are Forbidden, Deut 22:5 Is Most Likely
Ceremonial Law Rather Than Moral Law, Which Would Mean That It Would
Have A Little, If Any, Implications For Christians Today. Many
Believe, However, That This Verse States That Violators Of This Verse
States That Violators Of This Law Are An Abomination To God And That
Which Was An Abomination To God In The Old Testament Would Also Be An
Abomination To God In The New Testament. However, The Usage Of The
Word Abomination In Deut 22:5 Does Not Necessarily Make It A Timeless
Moral Law Because Any Violation Of God's Mandates Is An Abomination To
Him, Whether It Is A Violation Of Ceremonial Law Or Moral Law.
Furthermore, Deut 22:5 Is Placed Squarely In The Middle Of, And Is
Completely Surrounded By, Ceremonial Laws. If It Is Indeed A Principle
To Be Literally Followed Today, Why Would God Choose To Bury This
Verse In The Middle Of What Are Clearly Ceremonial Laws? The Second
Argument Against Christian Women Wearing Pants Is That Pants Have
Historically Been Worn By And Associated With Men And Are Therefore
Men's Clothing. One Problem With This View Is That It Is Not A
Consistently Applied Principle Among Those That Advocate It. Many Of
The Articles Of Clothing Have Histories Of Orginating With A Certain
SEX. Consider T-Shirts- These Too Were Invented For Men And Originally
Worn Exclusively By Men. The T-Shirt Was Introduced To America During
WWI When American Soldiers Noticed European Soldiers Wearing Them. By
WWI, The T-Shirt Became Standard Issue In The American Military And
Was Quickly Introduced Into American Fashion.
6• Not Only Were T-Shirts Orginally Invented For Men, But They Were
Invented Specifically For The Military. Considering This In Light Of
The True Meaning Of Deut 22:5, Which Seems To Be Forbidding Women From
Wearing The Habilments Of A Soldier, It Would Logically Follow That A
Woman Wearing A T-Shirt Would Be In Much Greater Violation Of This
Verse Than A Woman Wearing Pants. Furthermore, There Is No Distinction
Between Men's And Women's T-Shirts.

If Clothing History Is The Sole Determining Factor Of What Constitutes
Clothing That Pertains To A Man, Then T-Shirts Must Be Forbidden As
Well If Consistency Is To Be Maintained. It Would Seem That In
Practice, However, Those That Teach That It Is A Sin For Women To Wear
Pants Seem To Believe That Clothing Distinctions Only Apply To What Is
Worn On The Legs While Ignoring The Obvious About Other Types Of
Clothing Commonly Worn By Women. In Order For The Teaching To Be
Consistent, The Very Reasons Cited For Prohibiting Women From Wearing
Pants Would Also Prohibit Baseball Caps, Team Jerseys, Work Boots And
Other Article Of Clothing Historically Worn By Men. Taking The Concept
Even Further, What Of The Colour Pink Or Blue? Should Women Also Be
Forbidden To Wear Blue, Or Should Men Forbidden To Wear Pink, As These
Colours Have Historically Been Associated With The Opposite Sex? How
Far Should This Concept Be Taken?

Finally, The Third Argument, Which States That God Requires A
Distinction Between Men's And Women's Clothing And That Pants Provide
Little If Any Distinction, Must Also Be Weighed In Light Of The
Scriptures. The Scriptures, As With Most Matters, Provide A Wealth Of
Information On This Issue As Well.

It Is Curious How Those That Forbid Pants On Women, Based On Their
Idea Of Separation, Never Seem To Consider The Clothing Norms In The
Bible.
Even The Most Basic Study Into Biblical Clothing Norms Reveals That
There Was Very Little Distinction Between The Articles Of Clothing
Worn By Men And Women. In Genesis, We Find The First Accounts Of
Clothing Mentioned In The Bible. First, We Find That Upon Recognizing
Their Nakedness, Adam And Eve Sewed Garments Of Fig Leaves Together To
Cover Themselves (Gen 3:7). This Is An Interesting Account In That We
Find Humans Attempting To Clothe Themselves, But Obviously God Was Not
Pleased With Their Choices, As Later We Find That God Made New Clothes
For Them. Gen 3:21 Records That God Made "Coats Of Skin" For Them To
Wear. The Word Coats In This Verse Is The Hebrew Word Kethoneth And
Means "A Long Shirt-Like Garment."
7• Interestingly, Moses, Under The Inspiration Of The Holy Spirit,
Chose The Exact Same Word To Describe The Specific Type Of Clothing
That God Made For Both Adam And Eve. Where Is The Distinction Here? If
God Chose To Make So Little Distinction Between A Man's And Woman's
Clothes That A Single Word Can Describe The Specific Clothing Worn
Both By Adam And Eve, Then Who Are We To Require A Greater
Distinction? Later, Throughout The Old And New Testament, Common Dress
Consisted Of Two Separate Pieces. In The Old Testament, The First Part
Of The Jewish Costume Was Still The Kethoneth Such As Was Worn By Adam
And Eve. In The New Testament, This Garment Is Called Chiton In The
Greek And Is Often Translated As Coat In The King James Version Bible.
According To The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, The
Kethoneth/Chiton Was,
"...A Long-Sleeved Tunic Worn Over The Sadhin, Likewise A Shirt With
Sleeves... Here The 'Coat' (Hebrew 'Kethoneth) Was The Ordinary "Inner
Garment' Worn By The Jew Of The Day, In Which He Did The Work Of The
Day (See Mt 24:18; Mk 13:16). It Resembled The Roman Tunic,
Corresponding Most Nearly To Our 'Long Shirt,' Reaching Below The
Knees Always, And In Case It Was Designed For Dress Occasions,
Reaching Almost To The Ground,"
8• Easton's Bible Dictionary States That This Basic Garment Was Worn
By Both Men And Women:
"The 'Coat' (Kethoneth), Of Wool, Cotton, Or Linen, Was Worn By Both Sexes."
Easton's Further States That,
"The Robes Of Men And Women Were Not Very Much Different In Form From
Each Other."
9• The Second Part Of The Common Jewish Costume Was The "Outer
Garment." Throughout The Old And New Testaments, The Outer Garment
Varied In Size, Shape And Purpose. It Is Given Various Names (Both In
The Original Hebrew And In Translation) And Is Used In A Variety Of
Ways. This Outer Garment Was Commonly Used To Cover The Head Of Both
Men And Women (Cf. Ruth 3:15, 2 Sam 15:30) And Was Also Commonly
Wrapped Around The Shoulders (Cf. Isa 3:22). While The Outer Garment
Served Many Purposes And Was At Times Used In Different Ways By Men
And Women, The Way It Was Used Was Not Consistent With Either Sex. The
Garment Itself Does Not Appear To Have Been Made Functionally
Different To Any Significant Degree, And The Distinctions Between The
Male And Female Outer Garments Were Merely Stylistic (i.e Colour,
Trim, Size, e.t.c).
In Light Of The Ample Information We Have On Male And Female Garments
In The Bible, It Is Hard To Justify The Radical Distinction Between
Men's And Women's Clothing Required By Christians That Forbid Women
From Wearing Pants. There Is No Evidence That Such A Radical
Distinction Existed In Biblical Times. While There Was A Difference In
Men's And Women's Clothing In The Scriptures, These Differences Were
Merely Stylistic And Not Functional Differences.
The Differences Were Only Found In Colour, Trim, Size. E.t.c. And Not
In The Actual Form Or Function Of The Clothing As Is Seen In Pants And
Skirts Or Dresses. The Differences Between Men's And Women's Pants
Today Are As Great As The Differences Between Men's And Women's
Garments In The Bible. Essentially, Christians Today That Forbid Women
From Wearing Pants Demand A Difference In Form And Function In Men's
And Women's Clothing, Whereas The Bible Only Records A Stylistic
Difference. This Amounts To Adding To God's Word And Placing
Requirements On Our Sisters In The Lord That The Bible Does Not
Support.
Many That Forbid Women To Wear Pants Argue That If It Is Acceptable
For Women To Wear Pants, Then It Should Be Acceptable For A Man To
Wear A Dress Or A Skirt. This Is A Valid Point. However, There Is No
Inherent Sin In A Man Putting On A Skirt-Like Garment, Which Is A
Common Practice In Some Cultures Around The World Just As It Was In
The Bible. The Error Would Be In The Fact That A Man Wearing A Skirt
In Modern America Society Would Be Deemed As Counter- Culture To The
Very People We, As Christians, Are Trying To Be Examples To-- Namely
Unbelievers. However, Women Wearing Pants Is Hardly Counter Culture.
While There Was Once A Time In Our Society When A Woman In Pants Would
Have Been Viewed Negatively By SOCIETY, Such Is Not The Case Today. Is
That Because Society's Morals Have Declined, And It No Longer Sees
Women In Pants As The Sin That It Is? Of Course Not, It Is Merely A
Change In Fashion. Just Because Society Had A Particular View In The
Past, Does Not Mean That Such A View Was Inherently More Moral. Ford
Once Made Only Black Cars And Refused To Make Any Other Colour. Today,
Fords Come In Every Colour Under The Sun. Was That The Result Of Some
Sort Of Moral Backsliding? No, It Is Just That Society's Tastes Have
Changed. In Renaissance Europe, Silk Hosiery Were Considered
Appropriate Attire For Men, Yet Today They Are Deemed As Feminine.
Changes In Style And Fashion Aren't Inherently Sinful And Most Of The
Time Only Reflect A Change In Taste. Women's Pants Are No Different.
Women Did Not Start Wearing Pants As A Means Of Rebelion Or To Be More
"Manly" But Because They Were More Comfortable And Functional. Fashion
Has Been Moving In The Direction Of More Function And Less Style For
Well Over A Century Now. This Is Evidenced Most Recently By The Fact
That Suits And Ties Are Much Less Common In The Workplace Now, Having
Been Replaced By Khakis And Button-Up Shirts. Does That Signal Some
Moral Decline? Absolutely Not-- It Only Reflects A Trend In Fashions
Did In Moving Toward Pants. It Is Important That We Do Not Have A
Knee-Jerk Reaction To Every Change In Fashion. Clearly, Some Are
Indicative Of Moral Decline, But Many Are Not. As With Everything,
Changes In Fashion Must Be Weighed Against Biblical Truths To Make The
Determination•
In Short, The Issue Of Clothing Must Always Be Carefully, Thoughtfully
And Honestly Studied From A Scriptural Perspective While Allowing The
Scriptures To Be The Ultimate Authority On Such Issues. A Thorough
Study Into The Clothing Norms Of The Bible Reveals That There Was No
Distinction Between Men's And Women's Clothing In The Bible Beyond
Stylistic Differences Such As Trim, Colour And Size. In Fact, God
Himself Made Clothing For Adam And Eve That Was So Similar That One
Word (Kethoneth) Could Describe The Specific Garment He Made For Each
Of Them. This Same Word Describes The Clothing Worn By Godly Men And
Women Throughout The Bible From The Old Testament To The New
Testament. Yet Today, Many Christians Demand Much More Than Even The
Bible Did By Requiring Not Only A Difference In Style But A Difference
In Function And Form As Well. If God Makes No Such Clothing Demands On
His People, Then Who Are We To Make Them? Do We Know Better Than GOD?