HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA BY Exzel Dee Dollar

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA

INDEPENDENCE DAY SPEECH By #ExzelDeeDollar

Its Another Independence Day Celebration For Nigeria And Already
Criticisms And Negative Talks About The Government Not Doing Anything
For The Masses Has Already Began On The Streets And Even On Social
Networks And Media.

I've Often Sat Down To Reflect On The Government And The People, And I
Realized That Folks Who Believe Their Having A Better Life Depends On
The Government Are Yet To Wake Up From Their Slumber. I Refused Long
Ago To Stop Depending On What The Government Can Do For Me, Because I
See Myself Also As A GOVERNMENT. I Mean, The Government Don't Feed Me
And Neither Do They Pay My Bills... They Don't Buy My Clothes And They
Are Not Responsible For My Shelter. So If I Can Do All This Myself
Then Why Lament About The Economy And The Government? It Is Obvious
That The Government Can't Satisfy Everybody.

Have You Ever Thought For Once That If Everybody Was Lamenting And
Waiting For The Government We Wouldn't Have Men Who Have Beaten The
Odds To Become Job Creators, Which Is The Reason We Have A Lot Of
PRIVATE Own Companies That Has Created JOBS For Other People To Earn A
Living?

Am Appalled When I See People Laise About, And Blame Their Situation
On The Government. I've Often Advice People To Be The CHANGE They
Seek, And Stop Waiting For The Government To Change Or Help Change
Their Situation For The Better.

I've Always Been Of The Opinion That Their Are People Whom Their
Destiny Is Tied To Mine, That If I Don't Make It, No Government Would
Ever Do It For Them.

I've Always Seen Myself As The Government To Thousands Of People, Whom
Through Me Their Families Would Be BLESSED. Imagine If The Likes Of
Carlos Slim, Steve Job, Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote, Mike Adenuga,
Warren Buffet, Donald Trump E.t.c. Imagine If These Men Never Realized
And Maximized Their Potential, Or Were Probably Sitting Somewhere And
Lamenting About How Poor Their Family Were, And How The Government
Wasn't Favourable To Them. Am Sure The World Would Have Been More
Terrible Than It Is• Imagine The Thousands Of People Whom Are
Benefiting From The JObs These Men Have CREATED!

The Truth Is That Their Are Certain People The Government Would
Benefit, And You Might Not Be Part Of Those People Who Would Benefit
From The Government. It Just Might Be That Your Neighbour Next Door
Could Be The Government That Would Help You, Or Your Relative, Or
You'd Help Yourself.

YOU Might Just Be The GOVERNMENT That Boy/Girl Who Has No Home Or
Shelter Is Waiting For, And You Might Just Be The GOVERNMENT That
Man/Woman Who Has No Job Is Waiting For, Or The GOVERNMENT That WIDOW
Is Waiting For•

REALIZE That Some People's Destiny's Are Tied To Yours, And If You
Don't STEP UP , CREATE IT, And MAKE IT, They Wouldn't Make It•

YOU ARE THE GOVERNMENT TO SOMEBODY... So RISE UP And Take The
CHALLENGE And Tell Yourself That YOU ARE CAPABLE, And Through You
Families Would See The Light And Be BLESSED•

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIANS... AND A HAPPY NEW MONTH... GOD BLESS!!!

COURTSEY: ~PRESIDENT~

QUESTION AND ANSWERS GROUP OF COMPANIES Copyright © 2013•

PRAISE AND CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE

<@>Greatmindz<@>™

"The More You Praise And Celebrate Your Life, The More There Is In
Life To Celebrate"

The More That You Give Thanks To God, And The More That You Show You
Are Thankful For Being Given A Life To Live To Help Change The World,
The More That You Will Have To Be Thankful For In Life. Also, The
More That You Celebrate The Victories, And Not Only The Victories, But
The Lessons That YoU Are Able To Learn Along The Way From Your
Defeats, The More That You Will Have To Actually Celebrate In Your
Life. We Are All Given What We Are Given. Sure ThERE Are Things In
Life That We Will Eventually Conquer And Take But We Must Learn That
The Most Important Parts Of Our Lives Aren't Necessarily The Victories
For Ourselves. The Most Important Parts In Life Are What We Are Able
To Help Inspire Others To Learn From Our Experiences, Because These
Are The Parts Of Life That Will Help To Influence Generation After
Generation•

CAN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME TOO COMFORTABLE???

<@>Greatmindz<@>™
When You Are First Dating, You Are On Your Best Behaviour. Bad Habits
Are Hidden. You Usually Try To Look Your Best, Act Your Best, Talk
Your Best, And Be Your Best At All Times! You Are Attentive. You Go
Out Of Your Way To Do Small Things For Each Other. And You Certainly
Hide Your "Bad Habits"- Those Things That Your Mum Thought You To
NEVER Do In Public! When You Are First Dating, Your Manners Are
Impeccable. You Wouldn't Dream Of Belching Or Farting In Front Of Each
Other. That Would Be Horribly Embarrassing! You Never Answer Your
iPhone At The Dinner Table. How Rude! You Never Keep Each Other
Waiting. How Disrespectful!
As Your Relationship Progresses, However, You Start To Become More
Comfortable With Each Other, And That, I Argue, Can Be Simultaneously
A Very Good Thing, And A Very Bad Thing. I Love When The Formality
Disappears And The Comfort Level Around Each Other Increases. It
Transitions Relationships To A New Level. But, Can Relationships
Become Too Comfortable? Should Relationships Hang On To Some Of That
Formality, That Level Of Trying To "Impress" Each Other, That Ability
To Always Be On Your Best Behaviour, In Order To Be MOst Successful?

Its Good To Be Yourself Around Your Partner, And Feel Free.
That Being Said, We Are Also Aware That When That Familiarity Turns
From One Of "Comfort And Ease" To One Of "Disregard And Disrespect"
That It's Time To Reassess. It Is When Relationships, Either Dating Or
Marriage, Start To Turn From Comfort To Complacency, That Many Couples
Start To Feel Disconneted, Unappreciated, And Undervalued•

It's A Fine Line! What Do You Think? Are You In That Phase Of
Formality And Best Behaviour? Are You Transitioning To Pleasantly
Comfortable? Or Are You Stuck In That Complacent "Whatever- I Really
Don't Care" Mode? Is It Time To Reassess Your Comfort Level To Ensure
You Haven't Gotten "Too" Comfortable?

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP COSTING YOU TOO MUCH???

<@>Greatmindz<@>™
Have You Ever Blamed Yourself For Giving Too Much In A Relationship?
If You Have, You've Probably Felt Resentment For Not Getting Back What
You Feel Is Owed For All Your Effort. On Top Of That, If The Partner
You Gave So Much To Has Moved On To Someone Else, It Feels Like That
Other Person Is Now Getting The Benefits That Should Have Gone To You.

Thinking About How You Gave So Much Can Keep You Awake At Night, As
You Beat Yourself Up For Being So Foolish.

But A Better Use Of That Time Would Be To Ask Yourself Why You Let
Yourself Give So Much And Get So Little In Return? What Drove You To
Settle For Crumbs When You Were Feeding Him/Her The Whole Cake? The
Answer Is Simple. You Were In A "Pay As You Go" Relationship.

How Does That Happen? Most Likely Things Started Out Strong And It
Seemed Like He/She Really Cared. But Most Relationships (Unless You're
With "The One") Start To Fizzle And Burn Out And That's When You
Panic. You Start To Feel That It's Up To You To Get That "Loving
Feeling" Back•

You Might Suspect That This Isn't My Mr/Miss Right, But The Fear Of
Being Alone Or Starting Over Again Drives You To Try And Make It Work.
You Get The Crazy Idea That If You Show Him/Her Much Love And How Good
You Can Be, They'll Naturally Respond Back To You In Kind. But It
Doesn't Work That Way; In Fact It's The Opposite•

So How Do You Show Them How You Feel? You Start "To Pay" For Love. For
Example: As A Woman You Do Laundry, Clean The House, Shop And Cook.
And As A Guy You Buy Presents And Treats, Give Money, Or Generally Go
Out Of Your Way To Tend To Their Needs. None Of These Actions Are
Wrong, But It's The Intention Behind Them That Counts. You Put Effort,
Time AnD Money Into Getting Your Partner's Interest Back But You Are
Killing Yourself In The Process. You Pay And Pay And Get Little To
Nothing In Return•

In A Healthy Relationship, Both Partners Have To Give Their All. They
Have To Be 100% Invested. If You're "Paying As You Go" You've Tipped
The Scales And Not In Your Favour. So Ask Yourself If You're Feeling
Resentful That You're "Owed" Something In Your Relationship. If You
Are, It's A Good Indication That The Feelings Between The Two Of You
Are No Longer Mutual. If You Keep "Paying" That Feeling Is Just Going
To Get Stronger And Things Will Get Worse. It's A Signal To Stop
Giving And Pull Back•

If Stopping Causes Him/Her To Step Up And Start Giving Back, The
Balance Is Restored. But If Nothing Changes, It Means You're Still In
A "Pay As You Go" Relationship. It's A Sign That What You Had Is No
More And It's Probably Time To Walk Away•

Have You Been In This Situation? If So, How Did It Work Out?

THE THREE LOVE RELATIONSHIP STAGES

<@>Greatmindz<@>™
In Explaining The Different Stages Of Romantic Relationships. My
Takeaway: Don't Make Any Lifelong Decisions (Like Marriage!) Until You
Get To Stage Two. We Have All Been Exposed Over And OverTo Romantic
Stories From Movies And Television, And The Story Ends When The
Romantic Partners Finally Get Together And Live Happily Ever After. In
Actuality, This Is When The Real Relationship Story Begins. There Are
Several Stages That Relationships Go Through Over Time, But Most Of Us
Want The Happily Ever After- And Believe Our Relationship Should Be
Easy. This Is A Myth. Satisfying, Mature, Relationships Happen When
Both People Work Hard To Maintain A Sense Of Safety With Each Other•
There Are Few Stages In Love Relationships. These Stages Will Help You
Identify Where You Are In The Development Of Your Own Relationship.
All Three Involve Very Different Emotional States, So They Require An
Adjustment With Each Transition•
THE 3 LOVE RELATIONSHIP STAGES:
1• ROMANTIC LOVE:
You Are Driven In This Stage To Idealize Your Potential Partner. You
Experience The Emotions Of Joy And Excitement. The Novelty Of A New
Love Leads You To Think About Your Partner Day And Night, Imagining
All The Possibilities Of How This Person Can Fulfill Your Deepest
Desires. You Want To Spend Every Moment Of Every Day With Your Partner
In The Bliss Of Newly Discovered LOVE•
Here, You Should Remember The Saying, "if It's Too Good To Be True It
Usually Is." There's A Reason For This Adage. In This Stage Of
Romance, Your Brain Is Not Able To Access And Incorporate Red FlagS,
Or Flaws In Your Potential Partner. You Only See Their Potential And
How You Feel When You Are With Them. Your Brain Is Literally Addicted
To The Feeling Of Being In LOVE. In This Stage, You Biologically Lose
Your Brain's Prefrontal Lobes' (The Thinking And Logical Part Of The
Brain) Ability To Reason.
Romantic LOVE Is The Fodder Of Hollywood Movies And Stories. Romantic
Love Sells, And We Can't Get Enough Of It. But Media Representations
Of These Stories Give A False Sense Of What A Relationship Should Look
Like, And Set Us Up For Disappointment In Real Relationships•
2• REALISTIC LOVE:
As A Counselor, I Hear The Same Story Over And Over, "Our Relationship
Is Not Easy Or Fun Anymore." This Is The Beginning Of The Second Stage
Of LOVE Relationships, Which Is Realistic LOVE. It Is Most Often In
This Stage That People Get Stuck. Idealization Of Your Partner
Diminishes And You Begin To See Who Your Partner Really Is- And They
Begin To See You. All Your Flaws Are Exposed To Each Other And It Is
Here When Couples Start Really Being Challenged In The Relationship•
It Is In This Stage Where Couples Either Make It Or Break It. The Time
Frame For This Stage Varies Wildly. Some Relationships Are Ditched
Immediately, Others Endure Bickering And Unmet Needs For Many Years.
If You Only Believe In Romantic Love, Your Bubble Will Undoubtedly Be
Burst In This Stage. You Will Begin To Feel Cheated, Or That You
"Settled" For A Partner Who Is Not The Person You Fell In Love With.
You Will Begin To Feel Resentful, And Resort To Blaming Your Partner
For Your Unmet Needs. Thus Starts A Cycle Of Blaming, Hurt And
Despair. If You Feel This Is You, Contact A Marriage Counselor Sooner
Rather Than Later•
In My Experience, Couples Wait Too Long To Seek Counseling. They Live
For Years With Blame, Resentment And Hurt Before They Seek Help.
Sometimes One Partner Is Doing All The Work To Keep The Relationship
Together And Ultimately This Strategy Results In Feeling Depleted And
Frustrated. Eventually The Depleted Partner Will Decide They Are
Totally Done, And Their Partner Will Be Surprised When The
Relationship Ends. Some Partners Will Step Up To The Plate And Begin
Giving To The Relationship When They Realize They Can No Longer Just
Take From It•
There Is A Healthy Way To Transition Through This Stage Of Realistic
Love Relationship And Move To A More Mutually Safe And Secure
Functioning. I Encourage Any Couple That Recognizes They Are Living
With Negative Patterns Of Behaviour To Get Help With Their
Relationship. This Help Will Involve Learning About Yourself And Your
Partner At A Fundamentally Deeper Level. Find Out What Your Unmet
Needs Are, And Work To Feed Your Partner's Unmet Needs Too•

3• MATURE LOVE:

This Stage Is Marked By Safety And Security In The Relationship. Both
People Feel Fulfilled And Cared For By The Other Person. Isn't That
What You Want And Desire? The Only Way To Obtain Mature Love Is To
Work Through The Previous Stages: There Are No Shortcuts. In This
Stage You And Your Partner Know Each Other At A Deep And Intrinsic
Level. You Know Your Own Desires And Wounds, And You Choose To Accept
Your Partner's Desires And Wounds In Turn. In Other Words, You Have
Each Other's Backs- For Better Or Worse•

Every One Is Human And Makes Mistakes. Each Stage Of Love Is Wrought
With Mistakes; The Important Thing Is That The Two Of You Commit To
Working Through The Mistakes And Build Safety Together. In This Stage
Love Is An Action And A Feeling Word. No Longer Worried About Losing
The Relationship, You Can Experience This Type Of Love As Safe,
Satisfying And Passionate•