Most People Hate To Admit That Their Childhood Affected How They
Behave In Relationships Today. They Will Admit That The Time They Were
Cheated On Affected Them. Or That Their First Heart Break Affected
Them. They Can Probably Tell You Something They Learned From Every
Past Breakup, And How It Has Shaped The Way They Behave In
Relationships Today, And Even The Partners They Seek Out. Why Is That?
Because It's The Past. And, Whether You Like It Or Not, You Don't Go
Through Life Unscathed By Your Past Experiences. Your Childhood Is A
Part Of Your Past Too. And, Altough It May Not Be As Apparent How It
Affects Your Love Life As An Adult, It Has A Huge Impact•
1• IF YOU HAD DIVORCED PARENTS:
You Were Very Closely Linked To A Relationship That Was Meant To Last
Forever, But Ended. It Was Supposed To Be The Whole Book, And Turned
Out To Be Just A Chapter In Each Of Your Parent'S Lives. You Become
uLTRA Aware At A Young Age That Some People Just Don't Stick. Even
People Who Felt So Certain At One Point That They Would Stick Forever•
YOU MIGHT-
With Every Guy You Date, Already Be Able To See The End. You Think Of
Him As Just A Chapter In Your Life, And You Can Already See The Other
Men You'll Date After Him. You Don't Necessarily Fear Commitment, But
You Fear Meldling Your Life With Someone Else's. The Only Couple Who
You Were Supposed To See As A Unit, Rather Than Two Seperate Entities,
Split Up Into Separate Enities. And So, You Struggle To See Yourself
As Part Of A Unit. Especially Since You Saw How Much Your Parents
Struggled To Find Themselves As Individuals Again After Their Divorce,
You Do Fear Ever Giving Up That Sense Of Independence, Because You
Don't Feel Certain That Whoever You Give It Up For Will Be Around
Forever•
2• IF YOU HAD PARENTS WHO WERE UNHAPPILY MARRIED:
You Rarely Saw Them Look Each Other In The Eye And Say A Warm,
Complementing Word. They Bickered Constantly. They Were Passive
Aggressive And Sarcastic With Each Other. Their Relationship Was More
Of A Battle Of Who Could Make The Other One Look And Feel More Like A
DUMB ASS, Than A Loving, Supportive Partnership. But, They Stayed
Together•
YOU MIGHT-
Accept Arguing As A Natural Part Of A Relationship. Not Just The
Occasional Disagreement-But A Constant State Of Tension. Making
Yourself Vulnerable To Your Partner By Giving Them A Genuine,
Self-Less Compliment Might Seem Awkward To You. Some People Simply
Don't Tolerate Yelling Or Cursing In Their Relationship. The Second It
Happens, They End That Relationship. But You Might Believe That No
Relationship Exists Without It. If It Did, Then Your Parents Wouldn't
Have Stuck Together...Right?
3• IF YOUR PARENTS WERE SEEMINGLY HAPPY:
You Didn't Hear Them Argue. They Had Cheery Dispositions. They Both
Had Their Own Activities That Made Them Happy-But Separately. Your Mum
Was The Head Of Every Charity Organization In Town, Was Married To Her
Work, Or Had An Overly Active Social Life. Your Dad Did Any And All Of
The Above, As Well. And This Made Them Happy Enough To Not Totally
Realize That There Wasn't Much Closeness Between Them. That They
Didn't Communicate Very Deeply Or Connect Entirely•
YOU MIGHT-
Accept The Concept That Not Everything Is Appropriate To Talk About
With Your Partner. That Your Feelings And Fears Should Be Reserved For
Your Friends And Family, And That Your Partner's Should Be Reserved
For His Friends And Family, But When The Two Of You Meet In The Same
Room, You Are Meant To Bring Your Cheeriest Disposition. This Is A
Partnership In The Sense That You Help One Another Function. You Take
Comfort In A Stable Relationship. The Routine You Have With Your
Partner Makes You Feel Safe To Take On Other Things In Life, Like
Promotions At Work Or Long Backpacking Trips With Your Friends. But,
You Don't Feel That Invigorating Sense Of Being In Sync And In LOVE•
4• YOUR PARENTS WERE MADLY IN LOVE:
They Did Everything Together. They Were Extremely Communicative. They
Complimented Each Other All Of The Time. They Couldn't Keep Their
Hands Of Each Other. They Were Best Friends And Obviously Still Very
Interested Lovers Throughout Their Marriage. No Fight Lasted More Than
A Day, And Was Handled With An Open Conversation And Compromise On
Both Parts•
YOU MIGHT-
Think Marriage Is The Ultimate Goal. That Life Will Be Infinitely
Better With It-That You Will Be A Better Person If You Are Married And
Will Be Capable Of Bigger And Better Things. You Might Feel Incomplete
If You Don't Have A Partner And You Might Prioritize Finding A Partner
Over Everything Else, Like Social Life Or A Career. You Might Be The
Type Who Never Wants To Leave Your Boyfriend's Side, Even From A Young
Age, Because You Think That The Male And Female Partnership Is The
Most Important Relationship. You Might Make A Wonderful, Committed
Girlfriend And Wife. But You Might Sacrifice Having A Life And
Adventures Of Your Own•
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