YOUR ENEMIES ARE NOT A FACTOR.

"Your Enemies Are Not A Factor, You Are The Factor God Needs"
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Stop Fretting Over Your Enemies, Because Your Greatest Enemy Is Yourself. So Next Time You Are Praying For The Death Of Your Enemies, Remember You Are The Number One Enemy.
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Besides, How Do You Expect God To Answer Such A Prayer, When He  Sees You As The Gang Leader Of Your Own Enemies? This Is The Reason Majority Who Have Been Praying Such Prayers Over Time Haven't Gotten The Answers Or Breakthrough They Seek.
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Come To Think Of It, If Your Enemies Should All Die, In Whose Presence Would God Prepare Your Table? Wouldn't It Be A Case Of No Enemy No Table?
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You See, There Is A Good Reason Why Your Enemies Should Be There When God Prepares Your Table. Because Then, They Would Realise What A Fool They Have Been... And May Possibly Turn A New Leaf, Or Continue To Their Own Detriment.
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You Should Know That If God Wants To Bless You, Your Enemies Are Not A Factor. You Are The Factor God Needs To Bless You. And If You Are Your Own Enemy, It Obviously Means You Are The One Stopping Your Own Blessings.
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ARE YOU FORCING YOUR FEELING FOR SOMEONE

Sometimes It Just Happens: There Is Someone You Think Is A Great Person, But That "It" Factor Just Isn't There For You. They Are Nice, They're Funny; They're Smart, They're Not Needy 0r Bossy. Maybe Your Friends And Family Even Like Them And Are Repeatedly Warning You Not To "Let This One Get Away." But Still, You Just Don't Feel It For Them.

Here Are Some Suggestion If You Find Yourself Feeling Like You Should Want To Be With This Person More Than You Actually Want To Be With Them.

☆. Don't Beat Yourself Up About It:

If You're Not Feeling Something You Think You Should Feel (Or Even Want To Feel), Don't Be Hard On Yourself. We Feel The Way We Do, And No One Should Ever Be Criticised For The Desires They Do Or Do Not Experience. So Our First Recommendation Is That You Give Yourself A Break. Look At Your Feelings And Accept Them For What They Are. Then You Can Begin To Approach The Situation From A Much More Clearheaded Position.

☆. Get Clear On Why The Feelings Aren't Happening:

One Of The Best Ways To Gain More Awareness As To What's Going On Here Is To Do A Bit Of Soul-Searching. When You're Being Completely Honest With Yourself, Are There Reasons You Can Pinpoint As To Why You're Not Experiencing Stronger Emotions In This Relationship? Maybe You've Been Hurt And Are Still Reticent About Moving On. Or Maybe There Are Some Sort Of Other Unresolved Issues From Past Relationships, Even Non-Romantic Ones. And, Of Course, It Could Be That There's Simply Not The Physical Chemistry That You Want In A Relationship. That Happens. The Point Is That The More Honest You Can Be With Yourself On This Question, The Better You'll Be Able To Get Clear On How Best To Respond.

☆. Explore Why You Think You Should Force Your Feelings:

Like The Previous Suggestion, This Is One Demands Honesty On Your Part. Why Is It That You Feel That You Should Force Your Feelings For This Person? Is It Because You Are Afraid To Be Alone? Or That You're Afraid Of Hurting The Other Person? Are You Feeling Pressure From Others, Or Working Out Of A Fear That You Won't Find Someone Better? Or Maybe There's Something That This Person Offers- A Better Lifestyle Or Some Sort Of Security- That You Really Like Having In Your Life. Do Your Best To Figure Out What It Is That Makes You Feel That You Simply Ought To Make Things Work Out. That Will Help You Respond To The Situation In A Way That You Feel Good About.

☆. Communicate With The Other Person:

Clear And Honest Dialogue About How You Are Feeling Is Absolutely Crucial, Especially When You Already Respect And Care For The Other Person. There's Nothing At All Wrong With Saying Something Like, "Its Not Fair To Either One Of Us For Me To Try To Make Something Happen That Just Isn't There." Be Delicate And Be Kind If You Really Know, And You're Certain That There's No Way That It'll Ever Happen Between You, Then Be Honest And Communicate That To Them. Yes, It Will Probably Be A Painful Message For Them To Hear. But They'll Respect You For Your Honesty, And You'll Avoid Hurting Them Even More Down The Road.

☆. Be Willing To Request Some Patience:

You Might Be At A Point Where You're Still Open To A Relationship, But Maybe You're Not Moving As Quickly As The Other Person. If This Is The Case, Then Speak Up. Let Them Know How You Feel, That You Care About Them And Possibly See Potential For You Two Together, But That You Need Time To Allow A Relationship To Develop. Even If You're Getting Pressure From Numerous People, Keep In Mind That You Have Every Right And Even A Responsibility To Figure This Out For Yourself And To Do So In A Way That Let's You Make A Good And Healthy Decision.

☆. Be Open To Surprising Possibilities:

Consider The Possibility That The Other Person May Grow On You. And You Might Feel Differently In Time. Many A Relationship Began With One Person Wanting To Simply Be Friends And The Other Person Desiring More Than That. We're Not Saying That You Should Ignore Or Deny Reality Or Simply Keep At It And Expect That The Chemistry Will Eventually Appear. It Often Doesn't. And As We Said, If You Know For Sure That You'll Never Feel Anything Stronger Or More Serious For The Person, Then You Owe It To Them To Let Them Know. But If You're Not 100 Percent Sure, Then Is There Any Reason You Can't Give Yourself A Bit More Time, Just To See What Might Happen?

☆. If Possible, Maintain Friendship:

If You Two Are Really Compatible, And The Other Person's Feelings Aren't Too Advanced, Then Explore Together The Idea Of Simply Enjoying A Friendship For The Time Being. It May Be That The Relationship Has Progressed Too Far For This To Happen. If The Other Person Wants More Than Friendship, They May Not Be Willing To Settle For Less. Likewise, You May Decide That You're Unwilling To Live With Whatever Pressure Comes With Being The Person Who Is Being Waited For. But If You Can, Then Maintain Your Friendship And Enjoy All The Things You Can Offer Each Other. Then, Once A Strong Friendship Has Developed, Who Knows What Might Happen?

DATING MISTAKES THAT MAkE YOU LOOK DESPERATE

Have You Ever Wondered Why You Have Great First And Second Dates, But Can't Seem To Find A Fulfilling Long-Term Relationship With Anyone?

Last Week I Spoke With A Lady, A Single Mother In Her Early Thirties, She Has Been Dating The Same Guy Off And On For Over 2 Years. Despite The Fact That She's In Love With Him, He's Not Ready To Commit.

She's Confused About Why Her Boyfriend That She Is Willing To Drop Anything And Everything Immediately To Spend Time With Him, Including Her Parental Responsibilities (Which Is Probably Playing A Big Role In Why He's Not Sure About Their Relationship). It Turns Out She's Been Making Several Mistakes, Since The Beginning Of Their Relationship.

Here Are A Few Tips On What Not To Do During The Courtship Phase Of Dating (Usually The First Couple Of Months), Because They Can Set Up Bad Habits. Avoid These Mistakes At All Cost:

☆. Being Available All Of The Time:

When You First Start Dating Someone It Can Be Tempting To Want To Spend All Of Your Time With Him/Her, Persuading You To Keep Calendar Clear. Having Nothing Else To Do But Spend Your Time With That Person Makes You Come Off As Boring, Having No Life And Few Friends. This Is Not The Impression You Want To Make.

☆. Initiating Phone Calls Or Texting All Day Long:

It Is Important To Stay In Touch With Your New Love Interest, But Don't Go Overboard. Calling Or Texting Once Or Twice A Day Says "I'm Interested In You", Calling Or Texting Several Times Each Hour Of The Day Says "I'm A Borderline Stalker."

☆. Needing To Know Every Detail Of His/Her Day:

As Relationships Grow You Learn More And More About The Other Person; What They Like, Who They Hang Out With, Where They Go Regularly. This Should Be A Natural Process That Develops Over Time. When You Demand To Know All Of These Details Up Front It Can Make You Appear Insecure And Controlling.

☆. Talking About The Distant Future Within First Few Weeks Of Dating:

Dating Is An Opportunity To Get To Know Someone Gradually Over Time. Talking About The Long-Term Future Together Is Something That Couples Should Do Once They Are Exclusive And Have Some History Together. It Often Scares People Away If You Start Planning The Wedding (Aloud) On Your Second Or Third Date.

☆. Going Along With Anything And Everything:

There Is Tremendous Value In Being Flexible, And Tremendous Weakness In Having No Boundaries (a.k.a Not Being Able To Say "No"), People Naturally Push Other's Boundaries As They Become Emotionally Closer. This Is A Necessary And Critical Part Of Intimate Relationships. When You Accept Everything, (Your Date Showing-Up An Hour Late With No Phone Call, Him/Her Being Too Busy To Help Out In A Genuine Emergency, Or Cancelling Plans Last Minute Because There Is Something Else He/She Would Rather Do) Regardless Of How You Feel About It-You Come Off As Needy.

☆. Giving It All Away On First Date:

There Are Few Things That Kill Emotional Bonding And Interest Faster Than Getting Sexual Too Soon. True Intimacy Is Developed Over Time And Through Series Of Interactions Where You Learn More And More About The Other Person. This Increases Your Attraction To Him/Her Of Them Beyond Physical Appearance. When You Have Sex Right Off The Bat, It Sabotages This Process, You've Already Gotten Physical And That Can Muddle Your Chance Of Building True Intimacy. It Can Also Look Like That Is All You Have To Offer-Sex. Which Is Simply Not True. Not Forgetting To Mention That Having Sex On The First Date Isn't Always A Loser's Choice, But There Are Relationships That Have Also Thrived And Made Progress Afterwards... But Its Rare To Find Such These Days. So Its Best To Stay Out Of It If You Ain't Sure About Who You Are With.

☆. Including Your New Partner In Family And Personal Events Too Soon:

If You Invite The Girl/Guy You've Been Dating To A Family Function Too Soon, It May Scare Them Away. You May Think Your Family Is Wonderful And Perfect, But That Might Not Be How They Appear To Your New Mate. Having A Solid Foundation And Connection Together, Before Introducing Them To The Fam Can Go A Long Way. And Bring Your New Flame Into Your Family Dynamics Too Quickly Might Freak Him/Her Out.

These Are Few Behaviours That May Seem Harmless In The Moment, But Can Ultimately Represent Wanting Commitment Before You Really Know Each Other. For The Best Chance Of Developing A Long-Term Relationship Avoid These Impulses, At Least At First. You Can Always Decide To Move Things Forward In The Future, But You Can Never Take Back Things From The Past.

GIVING OUT TRASH

WHAT Some Folks Call "GIVING" Is Simply Appalling.

You Want To Give A Beggar Money, And Then You Toss Him A Dirty And Torn Note. Of What Use Is That To Him? Oh! Or Is It A Way Of Telling Him/Her To Go And Work? Why Bother!

Some Folks Want To Give Out Clothes, Shoes, And Bags. And The Ones They Think Is Best To Give Are The Ones That Are Over Used, Torn And Outdated. The Shoes Are Like Something That Have Walked The Entire City In The World. C'mon, Why GIVE Out Such To A Human Being Like You? Oh! Because You Think They Are Poor And Needy? Yes, They May Look Poor And Needy, But Don't Disrespect And Insult Them Any Further By Giving Them Damaged Goods. There Is No Blessing In That. In Fact, Some GIVING Can Become A CURSE In Return.


The Worst Is Those Who Go To Places Of Worship Like The Church, And As If Putting Peanut Out Of Their Abundance In The Offering Box/Bag Is Not Enough, The Peanut Money Itself Is Something That Has Been Rejected By An Aboki Or Pepper Seller. C'mon! Why Do That? Is Better You Don't GIVE Than Incur Damnation Upon Yourself!

In Fact, Personally I Don't Give Out Things That I Believe Are Bad For Me, Except Somebody Shows Interest In It. Atleast That Is Better, Than Just Carrying Or Dumping My Damaged Goods On Somebody Or A Family Just Because You Think They Are Needy. If You Have Stuffs That You Think Are Bad, And Could Be Useful To Someone Else... Put It Out, And Let Whoever Wants It Pick It Up, Than Just Singling Out A Person/People And Embarrassing Them With Things That Should Be In The Trash Bin.

NOTE: I'm Not Saying You Shouldn't GIVE Out The GOOD Things You Don't Like. But I'm Talking About Those Who GIVE Out Things They Know Are BAD/DAMAGED. If You Must GIVE Out Such, Then Make Sure You Repair And Put It In GOOD And Perfect Shape To Be Used By Another Person.

GIVE YOUR BEST OR DON'T GIVE AT ALL
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DATING A CO-WORKER

You Know The Drill. Furtive Glances Across The Lunch Room. Lingering For Small Talk At The Water Cooler. Hallway Smiles And Joke-Swapping. Office Crushes Sure Make The Workday More Interesting And Give You The Inspiration To Dress A Little Sharper For That Monday Morning Meeting, Too.

But Is Dating Someone At Work A Fortunate Turn Of Events Or A Disaster Waiting To Happen? Your Best Chance At Fanning Your Workday Crush Into A Hot Relationship- Or Dousing Those Sparks In Time To Avoid Any Unwanted Drama- Is To Carefully Consider The Pros And Cons.

Factors In Your Favour Include The Fact That Working Together May Allow You To Observe This Person's Strengths And Weaknesses In A Non-Dating Environment. YOU May Have Already Seen How He Or She Handles Stress And Treats Peers. There's Also A Good Chance That, Working For The Same Employer, The Two Of You Enjoy Similar Work Hours And Holidays. You Also Brings To A New Relationship A Shared "World" Complete With Friends, Colleagues, Goals, And Even Values.

But That Shared World Is Not Without Risks. Will Your Relationship Become Topic Of Office Gossip? Will Co-Workers Become Jealous Or Resentful? Will Office Politics Pose A Problem? Will Dating Someone At Work Change The Way Co-Workers Or Supervisors Regard You?

There's Also The Matter Of How Your Dating Relationship Might Impact Job Performance. If You Become Distracted By The Excitement Of Your New Romance- Or Distraught If That Relationship Goes Awry- Will You Be Less Effective?
Ultimately, You Have Been Hired To Accomplish Certain Tasks For Your Company Or Organisation. If Working In Close Proximity To Your Love Interest Makes It Tough To Keep Your Personal Life From Affecting Your Professional Productivity, Then Dating A Co-Worker Might Not Be The Best Choice.

You'll Also Want To Consider The Financial Impact Of A Potential Breakup. Would Working Together Post-Relationship Be Comfortable Or Even Possible? IF Not, Could You Transfer To Another Department Or Location? Would You Feel The Need To Find A New Job Elsewhere? IN A Down Economy, Would That Even Be Feasible?

Even With The Risks, It's Not Uncommon For Singles To Form Happy, Lasting Romantic Relationships With A Co-Worker. After All, It's Where Most People Spend More Than Half Of Our Waking Hours.

If You're Considering Dating Someone At Work, The Following Guidelines Can Increase The Odds Of The Experience Being One You'll Enjoy Rather Than Regret:

★Understand The Policies Of Your Company Or Organisation:

Some Companies Strictly Forbid Employees Dating. Others Permit It With Full Disclosure To Supervisors. Still Others Require A Signed Contract Or Agreement, Which Stipulates Workplace Protocol To Avoid Conflicts Of Interest. Make Sure That By Dating Someone At Work, You're Not Breaking Rules And Putting Both Of Your Jobs In Jeopardy.

★Avoid Relationships With Direct Superiors Or People Who Answer Directly To You:

Dating Someone Near To You On The Chain Of Command Is Fraught With Complications. There Is The Potential For Favouritism, Abuse Of Power, Or Conflicts Of Interest, Not To Mention Gossip Among Colleagues. Even If You Make Sure Everything Is Above-Board, You Don't Need Your Workplace Peers Thinking The Worst.

★ Keep The Boundaries Clear Between Your Personal And Professional Lives:

Dating Someone FROM Work Doesn't Mean Dating Someone AT Work. While On The Job, Your Focus Should Be 100 Percent On Your Responsibilities, Not Your Romance. What You Do Outside Of Work Is Your Business; What You Do At Work Is Your Employer's Business.

★Maintain Discretion:

Keeping Clear Boundaries Also Means Ensuring Discreet Behaviour. Don't Make Co-Workers Uncomfortable By Displaying Your Affection When Things Are Going Well, Or Airing Your Grievances If Things Go Awry. And Don't Use Office Email For Personal Communication- It Not Only Interferes With Whatever You're Supposed To Be Doing, Your Gushing Expressions Of Love May Not Be As Private As You Think.

The Exciting Thing About Love Is That You Never Know Where It Will Find You. If It Finds You At Work, Losing Your Heart Can Be A Wonderful Experience- As Long As You Keep A Clear Head In The Process.

Have You Dated A Co-Worker? Was It A Good Experience? What Advice Would You Give To Others Contemplating This

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