PUPPY LOVE. Chances Are, These Words Evoke The Image Of Starry-Eyed
Teenagers High On Romance For The First Time. It Is An Apt Comparison
Since Puppies And Young Lovers Are Notoriously Clingy, Affectionate,
And Slobbery. Both Radiate A Level Of Energy And Exuberance That Gets
Old Pretty Quick.
Thank God Dogs Grow Up And Get Lazier... And Lovers Grow Wiser And
More Self-Controlled.
Well, Some People Do Anyway. The Truth Is, "Puppy Love Syndrome" Is A
Condition That Can Persist Well Into Adulthood. Many People Suffer
Relapse Every Time A New Romance Comes Along. And It Is Frequently
Fatal To Fragile Budding Relationships, Which Suffocate Without A
Chance To Breathe.
How Can You Recognize Telltale Symptoms In Yourself? Here Are Three Common Ones:
TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER:
You Know You Are At Risk If You Read Those Words And Thought, "Is That
Possible? Isn't Togetherness The Whole Point Of Dating?" Well, Yes-
But Like Most Things You Can Definitely Overdo It. The Trick Is
Knowing Where To Draw The Line. As Einstein Proved, Time Is Pretty
Hard To Fathom. Hours In The Company Of A Lover Seem Like Mere
Seconds. So How Can You Know How Much Time With A New Partner Is Too
Much? Fortunately, There Are Some Warning Signs That Things Are Out Of
Balance. Watch Out If:
¤ Your Other Friends And Family Think You've Been Abducted
¤ Your House Or Apartment Looks Like You've Been Abducted Because You
Haven't Cleaned It In Weeks.
¤ You Can't Remember The Last Time You Went Anywhere Alone.
¤ You Haven't Had A Decent Night's Sleep Recently.
At Any Stage Of A Relationship, So Much Togetherness Can Quickly Lose
Its Appeal And Start To Feel Like A Slipknot Tightening Around Both
Your Necks.
TOO MUCH INFORMATION:
Sharing Personal And Even Secret Details About Yourself With A New
Partner Can Seem Intimate- Or Intimidating. It Can Be A Bond Between
You Or A Premature Burden On The Relationship. The Difference Is In
The Timing (Go Slow) And The Volume Of Information You Share (Less Is
More)
Personal Space Is Defined By More Than Physical Proximity. Equally
Important Are Time, Privacy, And Appropriate Levels Of Intimacy. Avoid
Strangling A New RomanCE By Knowing When To Stay On Your Side Of The
Line.
¤ TOO MUCH TECHNOLOGY- TELEPHONE, TEXT, TWITTER, Etc.
In The "Old Days" There Was A Saying "Absence Makes The Heart Grow
Fonder." It Is Likely That Recent Generations Of Young Lovers Will Not
Have A Clue What That Means. Why? Because Now, Even When We Are
Seperated By Physical Distance, Social Networking Technology Has
Enabled Us To Remain "Together" In Virtual Space- All The Time. We
Never Gaze Longingly Out The Window Anymore Wondering Where Our Lover
Is At The Moment, Or What She Is Doing. Thanks To The 400th "Tweet" Of
The Day, We Know That She Is In Line At The Bank And That She Is In
Line At The Bank And That She Likes The Teller's Hair Color.
Obviously, Comunication Is A Good Thing. But Be Careful. Be Staring.
Don't Risk Turning Your Partner's Phone Into An Electronic CHOKE Chain
And Suffocating The Relationship In The Process
Inspiring Informations And Articles That Adds Value And Brings Out The Best In You.
Monday, 21 April 2014
Friday, 18 April 2014
ENCOURAGING WHAT IS GOOD
Have Ya'll Notice How People Do And Put Up Nice Works And Say Nice
Things And Yet Nobody Shows Appreciation Or Interest, Or Gives It Any
Attention?
Yet When Things That Adds No Value Or Substance Are Put Up, You See
Majority Struggling To Make A Statement Be It Good Or Bad, Thereby
Giving It All The Attention And Credit Knowingly Or Unknowingly.
The Time And Energy You Use In Criticizing And Yelling Insults At
Something Somebody Puts Up That You Think Is Bad, Even Though 96.5% Of
The People Criticizing And Expressing Their Disgust For It Publicly,
Secretly Like What They Are Seeing, Why Not Use That Time To Encourage
Someone Who Puts Up Something Beneficial That You Like?
Example: Everyday I Go Through Various Groups And Pages And See Good
Posts And Articles Posted By Reasonable People That Require Special
Attention And Most Likely An Encouraging Comment, Yet Nobody Says
Anything, Not Even A "Like" On It. #Smh! And Surprisingly The So
Called 'Bad And Useless Post' Gets All The Attention And Comments. Now
Tell Me How Would The People Who Post And Share Something Positive And
Meaningful Be Encouraged To Do More On This Platforms? I See These
Things And I Could Sense So Much Pretence Amongst People Who Often
Come Up To Criticize Something Bad, When They Don't Even Appreciate
And Encourage What Is Good Either!
I Believe If The People Who Claim To Be Of Good Character See
Something Good And Start Appreciating It, Good Things Would Prevail.
Lets Start Encouraging What Is Good If You Claim To Be Good, Than
Wasting Energy And Time Criticizing What You Think Is Bad.
ENCOURAGE WHAT IS GOOD.
Things And Yet Nobody Shows Appreciation Or Interest, Or Gives It Any
Attention?
Yet When Things That Adds No Value Or Substance Are Put Up, You See
Majority Struggling To Make A Statement Be It Good Or Bad, Thereby
Giving It All The Attention And Credit Knowingly Or Unknowingly.
The Time And Energy You Use In Criticizing And Yelling Insults At
Something Somebody Puts Up That You Think Is Bad, Even Though 96.5% Of
The People Criticizing And Expressing Their Disgust For It Publicly,
Secretly Like What They Are Seeing, Why Not Use That Time To Encourage
Someone Who Puts Up Something Beneficial That You Like?
Example: Everyday I Go Through Various Groups And Pages And See Good
Posts And Articles Posted By Reasonable People That Require Special
Attention And Most Likely An Encouraging Comment, Yet Nobody Says
Anything, Not Even A "Like" On It. #Smh! And Surprisingly The So
Called 'Bad And Useless Post' Gets All The Attention And Comments. Now
Tell Me How Would The People Who Post And Share Something Positive And
Meaningful Be Encouraged To Do More On This Platforms? I See These
Things And I Could Sense So Much Pretence Amongst People Who Often
Come Up To Criticize Something Bad, When They Don't Even Appreciate
And Encourage What Is Good Either!
I Believe If The People Who Claim To Be Of Good Character See
Something Good And Start Appreciating It, Good Things Would Prevail.
Lets Start Encouraging What Is Good If You Claim To Be Good, Than
Wasting Energy And Time Criticizing What You Think Is Bad.
ENCOURAGE WHAT IS GOOD.
EASY FIXES FOR SNORING
You May Be Among The 45% Review Of Normal Adults Who Snore Atleast
Occasionally Or You Likely Know Someone Who Does. He Or She May Be The
Brunt Of Jokes At Family Gatherings ("Uncle Joe Snores So Loudly He
Rattles The Windows!"), But Snoring Is Serious Business.
For One, A Snoring Spouse Often Keeps The Other Person From A Good
Night's Sleep, Which Can Eventually Lead To Separate Bedrooms.
"Snoring Can Create Real Problems In A Marriage," Says Daniel P.
Slaughter, MD, An Otolaryngologist And Snoring Expert At Capital
Otolaryngology In Autin, Texas.
Not Only Is Snoring A Nuisance, But 75% Of People Who Snore Have
Obstructive Sleep Apnea (When Breathing Is Disrupted During Sleep For
Short Periods), Which Increases The Risk Of Developing Heart Disease,
Slaughter Says.
Use Caution Before You Self-Treat With Over-The-Counter Sprays And
Pills Until You've Checked With Your Doctor. "Manx Stop-Snoring Aids
Are Marketed Without Scientific Studies To Support Their Claims,"
Instead, Try These Natural Solutions And Lifestyle Changes, Which May
Help You Stop Snoring.
1¤ CHANGE YOUR SLEEP POSITION
Lying On Your Back Makes The Base Of Your Tongue And Soft Palate
Collapse To The Back Wall Of Your Throat, Causing A Vibrating Sound
During Sleep. Sleeping On Your Side May Help Prevent This.
"A Body Pillow (A Full-Length Pillow That Supports Your Entire Body)
Provides An Easy Fix," Slaughter Says. "It Enable You To Maintain
Sleeping On Your Side And Can Make A Dramatic Difference."
Taping Tennis Balls To The Back Of Your Pajamas Can Also Stop You From
Sleeping On Your Back, Or You Can Recline The Bed With The Head Up And
Extended, Which Opens Up Nasal AirWay Passages And May Help Snoring.
This May Cause Neck Pain, However." If Snoring Continues Regardless Of
The Sleep Position, Obstructive Sleep Apnea May Be A Cause. " See A
Doctor In This Case."
2¤ LOSE WEIGHT:
Weight Loss Help Some People But Not Everyone. "Thin People Snore, Too,"
If You've Gained Weight And Started Snoring And Did Not Snore Before
You Gained Weight, Weight Loss May Help.
If You Gain Weight Around Your Neck, It Squeezes The Internal Diameter
Of The Throat, Making It More Likely To Collapse During Sleep
Triggering Snoring, "Slaughter Says.
3¤ AVOID ALCOHOL:
Alcohol And Sedatives Reduce The Resting Tone Of The Muscles In The
Back Of Your Throat, Making It More Likely You'll Snore. "Drinking
Alcohol Four To Five Hours Before Sleeping Makes Snoring Worse,"
"People Who Don't Normally Snore Will Snore After Drinking Alcohol."
4¤ PRACTICE GOOD SLEEP HYGIENE:
Poor Sleep Habits (Also Known As Poor Sleep "Hygiene") Can Have An
Effect Similar To That To Drinking Alcohol, Slaughter Says. Working
Long Hours Without Enough Sleep, For Example, Means When You Finally
Hit The Sack You're Overtired. "You Sleep Hard And Deep, And The
Muscles Become Floppier, Which Creates Snoring, " Slaughter Says.
5¤ OPEN NASAL PASSAGES:
If Snoring Starts In Your Nose, Keeping Nasal Passages Open May Help.
It Allows Air To Move Through Slower, Slaughter Says. "Imagine A
Narrow Garden Hose With Water Running Through. The Narrower The Hose,
The Faster The Water Rushes Through."
Your Nasal Passages Work Similarly. If Your Nose Is Clogged Or
Narrowed Due To A Cold Or Other Blockage, The Fast-Moving Air Is More
Likely To Produce Snoring.
A Hot Shower Before You Go To Bed Can Help Open Nasal Passages,
Slaughter Says. Also, Keep A Bottle Of Saltwater Rinse In The Shower.
"Rinse Your Nose Out With It While You're Showering To Help Open Up
Passages."
A Neti Pot Could Also Be Used To Rinse Out The Nasal Passages With A
Salt Water Solution.
Nasal Strip May Also Work To Lift Nasal Passages And Open Them Up- If
The Problem Exists In Your Nose And Not Within The Soft Palate.
6¤ CHANGE YOUR PILLOWS:
Allergens In Your Bedroom And In Your Pillow May Contribute To
Snoring. When Did You Last Dust The Overhead Ceiling Fan? Replace Your
Pillows?
Dust Mites Accumulate In Pillows And Can Cause Allergic Reactions That
Can Lead To Snoring. Allowing Pets To Sleep On The Bed Causes You To
Breathe In Animal Dander, Another Common Irritant.
"If You Feel Fine During The Day But Obstructed At Night, These Things
May Be Contributing To Your Snoring,"
Put Your Pillows In The Air Fluff Cycle Once Every Couple Of Weeks And
Replace Them Every Six Months To Keep Dust Mites And Allergens To A
Minimum. And Keep Pets Out Of The Bedroom.
Beware Before Spending Money On Special Pillows Designed To Prevent
Snoring. They May Work If It Props Up Your Head, Which Fixes Nasal
Issues, But Can Cause Neck Pain.
7¤ STAY WELL HYDRATED:
Drink Plenty Of Fluids. "Secretions In Your Nose And Soft Palate
Become Stickier When You're Dehydrated, This Can Create More Snoring.
According To The Institute Of Medicine, Healthy Women Should Have
About 11 Cups Of Total Water (From All Drinks And Food) A Day; Men
Require About 16 Cups.
Overall, Get Enough Sleep, Sleep On Your Side, Avoid Alcohol Before
Bedtime And Take A Hot Shower If Nasal Passages Are Clogged, These
Simple Practices Can Make A Huge Difference In Reducing Snoring.
Occasionally Or You Likely Know Someone Who Does. He Or She May Be The
Brunt Of Jokes At Family Gatherings ("Uncle Joe Snores So Loudly He
Rattles The Windows!"), But Snoring Is Serious Business.
For One, A Snoring Spouse Often Keeps The Other Person From A Good
Night's Sleep, Which Can Eventually Lead To Separate Bedrooms.
"Snoring Can Create Real Problems In A Marriage," Says Daniel P.
Slaughter, MD, An Otolaryngologist And Snoring Expert At Capital
Otolaryngology In Autin, Texas.
Not Only Is Snoring A Nuisance, But 75% Of People Who Snore Have
Obstructive Sleep Apnea (When Breathing Is Disrupted During Sleep For
Short Periods), Which Increases The Risk Of Developing Heart Disease,
Slaughter Says.
Use Caution Before You Self-Treat With Over-The-Counter Sprays And
Pills Until You've Checked With Your Doctor. "Manx Stop-Snoring Aids
Are Marketed Without Scientific Studies To Support Their Claims,"
Instead, Try These Natural Solutions And Lifestyle Changes, Which May
Help You Stop Snoring.
1¤ CHANGE YOUR SLEEP POSITION
Lying On Your Back Makes The Base Of Your Tongue And Soft Palate
Collapse To The Back Wall Of Your Throat, Causing A Vibrating Sound
During Sleep. Sleeping On Your Side May Help Prevent This.
"A Body Pillow (A Full-Length Pillow That Supports Your Entire Body)
Provides An Easy Fix," Slaughter Says. "It Enable You To Maintain
Sleeping On Your Side And Can Make A Dramatic Difference."
Taping Tennis Balls To The Back Of Your Pajamas Can Also Stop You From
Sleeping On Your Back, Or You Can Recline The Bed With The Head Up And
Extended, Which Opens Up Nasal AirWay Passages And May Help Snoring.
This May Cause Neck Pain, However." If Snoring Continues Regardless Of
The Sleep Position, Obstructive Sleep Apnea May Be A Cause. " See A
Doctor In This Case."
2¤ LOSE WEIGHT:
Weight Loss Help Some People But Not Everyone. "Thin People Snore, Too,"
If You've Gained Weight And Started Snoring And Did Not Snore Before
You Gained Weight, Weight Loss May Help.
If You Gain Weight Around Your Neck, It Squeezes The Internal Diameter
Of The Throat, Making It More Likely To Collapse During Sleep
Triggering Snoring, "Slaughter Says.
3¤ AVOID ALCOHOL:
Alcohol And Sedatives Reduce The Resting Tone Of The Muscles In The
Back Of Your Throat, Making It More Likely You'll Snore. "Drinking
Alcohol Four To Five Hours Before Sleeping Makes Snoring Worse,"
"People Who Don't Normally Snore Will Snore After Drinking Alcohol."
4¤ PRACTICE GOOD SLEEP HYGIENE:
Poor Sleep Habits (Also Known As Poor Sleep "Hygiene") Can Have An
Effect Similar To That To Drinking Alcohol, Slaughter Says. Working
Long Hours Without Enough Sleep, For Example, Means When You Finally
Hit The Sack You're Overtired. "You Sleep Hard And Deep, And The
Muscles Become Floppier, Which Creates Snoring, " Slaughter Says.
5¤ OPEN NASAL PASSAGES:
If Snoring Starts In Your Nose, Keeping Nasal Passages Open May Help.
It Allows Air To Move Through Slower, Slaughter Says. "Imagine A
Narrow Garden Hose With Water Running Through. The Narrower The Hose,
The Faster The Water Rushes Through."
Your Nasal Passages Work Similarly. If Your Nose Is Clogged Or
Narrowed Due To A Cold Or Other Blockage, The Fast-Moving Air Is More
Likely To Produce Snoring.
A Hot Shower Before You Go To Bed Can Help Open Nasal Passages,
Slaughter Says. Also, Keep A Bottle Of Saltwater Rinse In The Shower.
"Rinse Your Nose Out With It While You're Showering To Help Open Up
Passages."
A Neti Pot Could Also Be Used To Rinse Out The Nasal Passages With A
Salt Water Solution.
Nasal Strip May Also Work To Lift Nasal Passages And Open Them Up- If
The Problem Exists In Your Nose And Not Within The Soft Palate.
6¤ CHANGE YOUR PILLOWS:
Allergens In Your Bedroom And In Your Pillow May Contribute To
Snoring. When Did You Last Dust The Overhead Ceiling Fan? Replace Your
Pillows?
Dust Mites Accumulate In Pillows And Can Cause Allergic Reactions That
Can Lead To Snoring. Allowing Pets To Sleep On The Bed Causes You To
Breathe In Animal Dander, Another Common Irritant.
"If You Feel Fine During The Day But Obstructed At Night, These Things
May Be Contributing To Your Snoring,"
Put Your Pillows In The Air Fluff Cycle Once Every Couple Of Weeks And
Replace Them Every Six Months To Keep Dust Mites And Allergens To A
Minimum. And Keep Pets Out Of The Bedroom.
Beware Before Spending Money On Special Pillows Designed To Prevent
Snoring. They May Work If It Props Up Your Head, Which Fixes Nasal
Issues, But Can Cause Neck Pain.
7¤ STAY WELL HYDRATED:
Drink Plenty Of Fluids. "Secretions In Your Nose And Soft Palate
Become Stickier When You're Dehydrated, This Can Create More Snoring.
According To The Institute Of Medicine, Healthy Women Should Have
About 11 Cups Of Total Water (From All Drinks And Food) A Day; Men
Require About 16 Cups.
Overall, Get Enough Sleep, Sleep On Your Side, Avoid Alcohol Before
Bedtime And Take A Hot Shower If Nasal Passages Are Clogged, These
Simple Practices Can Make A Huge Difference In Reducing Snoring.
Tuesday, 15 April 2014
WHY THE NICE GUYS DON'T GET THE LADIES
Do You Feel Flattered When Women Refer To You As A "Nice Guy?" If You
Answered "YES," Shame On You.
Many Times, Friends Of Mine Will Ask Me, "Exzel, What Is The Primary
Target Demographic Of Your Relationship Tips And Series?" My General
Response Is Always "Any And All Single/Married Heterosexual Men And
Women." If Pressed Further, I Will Usually Say Men Who Fall Into The
Category Of The "Frustrated Nice Guy."
In November 2010, I Was A Featured Speaker For A Single's Forum Known
As The Direct Dating Summit For Guys. It Was Designed To Help Single
Men Improve Their Interpersonal Communication Skills With Women, And
Absorb Advice, Knowledge And Wisdom Related To Approaching Women With
A Higher Degree Of Confidence, And Creating A Higher Degree Romantic
And/Or Sexual Chemistry With Women Of Interest.
One Question I Asked All Of The Guys Seated In The Auditorium Was,
"How Many Of You Would Consider Yourself A 'Nice Guy'?" No Less Than
95% Of The Men In Attendance Raised Their Hand. Then, After A Dramatic
Pause, I Simply Asked, "And Just How Is That Working Out For You?"
The Auditorium Was Silent For A Good Two Or Three Minute Stretch.
All Of The Men Collectively Realized That If Being A "Nice Guy" Was
All That It Was Cracked Up To Be None Of Them Would Have Been In
Attendance At ThiS Particular Conference. I Would Argue That
Attempting To Present Yourself To Women As A "Nice Guy" Is The
Absolute Most Overrated Objective You Can Ever Have In Regard To Your
Love Life, Sex Life, And Overall Social Life.
The Latin Root Term For "Nice" Is Nescius, Did You Know That The Term
Nescius Means To Be "Unaware, Ignorant, And Foolish?" When A Woman
Says To You, "James, You Are Such A Nice Guy!" She Is Actually Saying,
"James, You Are Such An Ignorant Fool!"
Real Quick: Think Of A Man You Know Who Is Generally Regarded As A
"Ladies' Man," A Womanizer, A "Hearthrob," Or A Serial Monogamist.
What Percentage Of Those Men Who Came To The Forefront Of Your Mind
Would You Refer To As "Nice?" My Prediction Would Be Very Few, If Any.
When A Woman Meets A Man Who Provokes Strong Romantic Feelings In Her
Or A Strong Sexual Attraction, She Rarely Refers To That Man As
"Nice." Handsome? Yes. Charming? Most Definitely. Sexy? Without
Question. Intriguing? More Than Likely. Irresistible? Probably. Nice?
Hardly.
In Women's "Code Language," The Term "Nice" Is Primary Used To
Describe Men Whose Personalities And Overall Behaviour Is Pleasant And
Entertaining Enough To Make Them Appealing As An Indefinite Platonic
Social Companion, But Not Quite Appealing Enough To Make Them
Boyfriend Material, Husband Material, Or Friends-With-Benefits/ Casual
Sex Lover Material.
When A Man Aspires To Be Perceived As A "Nice Guy," What He Is Really
Doing Is Trying To Avoid Being Harshly Criticized By Women, Insulted
By Women, And Generally Avoid Any Type Of Controversy Or Heated
Confrontations With Women. This Man Excels At Being Overly
Accommodating With Women, Lenient With Women, And Even Financially
Generous With Women. This Man Is A Master At Keeping Women Feeling
Flattered, At Ease, And Entertained.
No Woman Wants To "Jump The Bones" Of A Perpetual Nice Guy. It Just
Doesn't Happen. Now, Some Men Tend To Confuse Being A "Good Guy" With
Being A "Nice Guy." Those Two Terms Are Not Synonymous.
A "Good Guy" Is A Man Is Honest With His Words, Desires, Interests,
And Intentions. A Man Who Says What He Means And Means What He Says. A
Man Whose Moral Character And Integrity Is Beyond Reproach. You Can Be
A "Good Guy" And Be Sexy In The Eyes Of Most Women.
On The Other Hand, To Be "Nice Guy" Has Connotations Of Being
Dishonest, Disingenuous, And Even Cowardly. A Nice Guy Maintains A
Social Façade That He Rarely Wants To Be Identified Or Exposed.
Here Are At Least Five Tips For Single Men Who Want To Prevent
Themselves From Becoming A "Frustrated Nice Guy" (Which Is Simply The
Precursor To Becoming A Misogynist):
1¤ QUIT FAWNING OVER WOMEN AND EXCESSIVELY FLATTERING WOMEN FOR NO VALID REASON:
Women Love Compliments, But When You Express Too Many Of Them In A
Relatively Short Period Of Time, It Makes You Look Like You Want To Be
In That Woman's "Personal Fan Club" Rather Than Be A Potential
Romantic Or Sexual Companion Of Hers. Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Once Makes You Seem Charming; Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Five Or More Times In Less Than Two Hours, And You Begin To
Look Desperate And Creepy.
2¤ QUIT ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BECOME A "PLAY BROTHER" Or "MALE
GIRLFRIEND" TO A NUMBER OF WOMEN:
Many Men Complain About Women Placing Them In The Dreaded "Friend
Zone," But More Often Than Not, It Is The Men Themselves Who Open The
Door For Women To Place Them In This Category. Stop Engaging In
Multiple Episodes Of Trivial, Lighthearted "Small Talk" And Gossip
With Women. The More You Solidly Yourself As A Woman's "Play Brother,"
The Less Likely You Are To Ever End Up In Bed With That Woman Or In A
Long Lasting Romantic Relationship With That Woman.
3¤ QUIT TRYING TO BE VERY WOMAN'S "PERSONAL ENTERTAINER" OR "MR. FUNNY MAN"
I Always Tell My Male Friends That It Is Okay To Have A Sense Of
Humour, And To Be Witty. Let It Stop There Though. Many Men Make The
Mistake Of Trying To Become A Woman's Personal "Stand-Up Comic" Whose
Personal Responsibility Is To Keep That Woman Laughing On A Daily,
Weekly, Or Monthly Basis. Even Movie Star Eddie Murphy Once Said, "It
Is Hard To Be Perceived As Both Extremely Funny And Extremely Sexy In
The Eyes Of A Woman At The Exact Same Moment In Time."
4¤ QUIT BEING AFRAID TO LET WOMEN KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO GET IN THEIR PANTS:
Would You Ever Visit A Restaurant And "Pretend" Like You Are Not
Hungry? Would You Ever Enter Into A Doctor's Office And "Pretend" Like
You Are Not Experiencing Any Sort Of Pain Or Discomfort? Then Why
Would You Share The Company Of A Desirable Woman, And Try To "Pretend"
Like The Thought Of Having Sex With Her Is Nowhere In Your Mind? This
Is The Absolute Dumbest Thing Men Are Guilty Of Doing Very, Very
Frequently. If You Want To Have Sex With A Woman... Let Her Know That.
(Here Is A Little Secret Fellas: Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Already
Assumes That You Want To Have Sex With Her Anyway... So You Might As
Well Go Ahead And Confirm Her Very Valid Assumption).
5¤ QUIT LOOKING AT ALL HARSH CRITICISMS AND INSULTS FROM WOMEN AS A "BAD" THING:
Did A Woman Recently Refer To You As A "Jerk?" Feel Good About That!
(Seriously). There Are Some Criticisms That Are Expressed By Women
That Are Really "Indirect Compliments In Disguise." When You Exhibit
Behaviour That Is Challenging And/Or Frustrating To A Woman's
[Spoiled] Ego, Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Is Going To Start Calling
You Names. So What! Let Her. Just About Every Woman Who I Have Been In
A Relationship With Or Had Sex With Has Criticized Various Aspects Of
My Behaviour From Time To Time. On The Flip Side, The Vast Majority Of
Women Who Had Nothing But Compliments Of My Behaviour Were Typically
The Women Who I Never Engaged In Anything Beyond A Platonic Friendship
With.
Aspire To Be Perceived As Charming, Sexy, Witty, Articulate,
Thoughtful, Honest, And Provocative. But "Nice?" Uhm. . . . No, Only
If You Want To Take Up An Indefinite Residence In A Woman's "Friend
Zone."
Answered "YES," Shame On You.
Many Times, Friends Of Mine Will Ask Me, "Exzel, What Is The Primary
Target Demographic Of Your Relationship Tips And Series?" My General
Response Is Always "Any And All Single/Married Heterosexual Men And
Women." If Pressed Further, I Will Usually Say Men Who Fall Into The
Category Of The "Frustrated Nice Guy."
In November 2010, I Was A Featured Speaker For A Single's Forum Known
As The Direct Dating Summit For Guys. It Was Designed To Help Single
Men Improve Their Interpersonal Communication Skills With Women, And
Absorb Advice, Knowledge And Wisdom Related To Approaching Women With
A Higher Degree Of Confidence, And Creating A Higher Degree Romantic
And/Or Sexual Chemistry With Women Of Interest.
One Question I Asked All Of The Guys Seated In The Auditorium Was,
"How Many Of You Would Consider Yourself A 'Nice Guy'?" No Less Than
95% Of The Men In Attendance Raised Their Hand. Then, After A Dramatic
Pause, I Simply Asked, "And Just How Is That Working Out For You?"
The Auditorium Was Silent For A Good Two Or Three Minute Stretch.
All Of The Men Collectively Realized That If Being A "Nice Guy" Was
All That It Was Cracked Up To Be None Of Them Would Have Been In
Attendance At ThiS Particular Conference. I Would Argue That
Attempting To Present Yourself To Women As A "Nice Guy" Is The
Absolute Most Overrated Objective You Can Ever Have In Regard To Your
Love Life, Sex Life, And Overall Social Life.
The Latin Root Term For "Nice" Is Nescius, Did You Know That The Term
Nescius Means To Be "Unaware, Ignorant, And Foolish?" When A Woman
Says To You, "James, You Are Such A Nice Guy!" She Is Actually Saying,
"James, You Are Such An Ignorant Fool!"
Real Quick: Think Of A Man You Know Who Is Generally Regarded As A
"Ladies' Man," A Womanizer, A "Hearthrob," Or A Serial Monogamist.
What Percentage Of Those Men Who Came To The Forefront Of Your Mind
Would You Refer To As "Nice?" My Prediction Would Be Very Few, If Any.
When A Woman Meets A Man Who Provokes Strong Romantic Feelings In Her
Or A Strong Sexual Attraction, She Rarely Refers To That Man As
"Nice." Handsome? Yes. Charming? Most Definitely. Sexy? Without
Question. Intriguing? More Than Likely. Irresistible? Probably. Nice?
Hardly.
In Women's "Code Language," The Term "Nice" Is Primary Used To
Describe Men Whose Personalities And Overall Behaviour Is Pleasant And
Entertaining Enough To Make Them Appealing As An Indefinite Platonic
Social Companion, But Not Quite Appealing Enough To Make Them
Boyfriend Material, Husband Material, Or Friends-With-Benefits/ Casual
Sex Lover Material.
When A Man Aspires To Be Perceived As A "Nice Guy," What He Is Really
Doing Is Trying To Avoid Being Harshly Criticized By Women, Insulted
By Women, And Generally Avoid Any Type Of Controversy Or Heated
Confrontations With Women. This Man Excels At Being Overly
Accommodating With Women, Lenient With Women, And Even Financially
Generous With Women. This Man Is A Master At Keeping Women Feeling
Flattered, At Ease, And Entertained.
No Woman Wants To "Jump The Bones" Of A Perpetual Nice Guy. It Just
Doesn't Happen. Now, Some Men Tend To Confuse Being A "Good Guy" With
Being A "Nice Guy." Those Two Terms Are Not Synonymous.
A "Good Guy" Is A Man Is Honest With His Words, Desires, Interests,
And Intentions. A Man Who Says What He Means And Means What He Says. A
Man Whose Moral Character And Integrity Is Beyond Reproach. You Can Be
A "Good Guy" And Be Sexy In The Eyes Of Most Women.
On The Other Hand, To Be "Nice Guy" Has Connotations Of Being
Dishonest, Disingenuous, And Even Cowardly. A Nice Guy Maintains A
Social Façade That He Rarely Wants To Be Identified Or Exposed.
Here Are At Least Five Tips For Single Men Who Want To Prevent
Themselves From Becoming A "Frustrated Nice Guy" (Which Is Simply The
Precursor To Becoming A Misogynist):
1¤ QUIT FAWNING OVER WOMEN AND EXCESSIVELY FLATTERING WOMEN FOR NO VALID REASON:
Women Love Compliments, But When You Express Too Many Of Them In A
Relatively Short Period Of Time, It Makes You Look Like You Want To Be
In That Woman's "Personal Fan Club" Rather Than Be A Potential
Romantic Or Sexual Companion Of Hers. Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Once Makes You Seem Charming; Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Five Or More Times In Less Than Two Hours, And You Begin To
Look Desperate And Creepy.
2¤ QUIT ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BECOME A "PLAY BROTHER" Or "MALE
GIRLFRIEND" TO A NUMBER OF WOMEN:
Many Men Complain About Women Placing Them In The Dreaded "Friend
Zone," But More Often Than Not, It Is The Men Themselves Who Open The
Door For Women To Place Them In This Category. Stop Engaging In
Multiple Episodes Of Trivial, Lighthearted "Small Talk" And Gossip
With Women. The More You Solidly Yourself As A Woman's "Play Brother,"
The Less Likely You Are To Ever End Up In Bed With That Woman Or In A
Long Lasting Romantic Relationship With That Woman.
3¤ QUIT TRYING TO BE VERY WOMAN'S "PERSONAL ENTERTAINER" OR "MR. FUNNY MAN"
I Always Tell My Male Friends That It Is Okay To Have A Sense Of
Humour, And To Be Witty. Let It Stop There Though. Many Men Make The
Mistake Of Trying To Become A Woman's Personal "Stand-Up Comic" Whose
Personal Responsibility Is To Keep That Woman Laughing On A Daily,
Weekly, Or Monthly Basis. Even Movie Star Eddie Murphy Once Said, "It
Is Hard To Be Perceived As Both Extremely Funny And Extremely Sexy In
The Eyes Of A Woman At The Exact Same Moment In Time."
4¤ QUIT BEING AFRAID TO LET WOMEN KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO GET IN THEIR PANTS:
Would You Ever Visit A Restaurant And "Pretend" Like You Are Not
Hungry? Would You Ever Enter Into A Doctor's Office And "Pretend" Like
You Are Not Experiencing Any Sort Of Pain Or Discomfort? Then Why
Would You Share The Company Of A Desirable Woman, And Try To "Pretend"
Like The Thought Of Having Sex With Her Is Nowhere In Your Mind? This
Is The Absolute Dumbest Thing Men Are Guilty Of Doing Very, Very
Frequently. If You Want To Have Sex With A Woman... Let Her Know That.
(Here Is A Little Secret Fellas: Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Already
Assumes That You Want To Have Sex With Her Anyway... So You Might As
Well Go Ahead And Confirm Her Very Valid Assumption).
5¤ QUIT LOOKING AT ALL HARSH CRITICISMS AND INSULTS FROM WOMEN AS A "BAD" THING:
Did A Woman Recently Refer To You As A "Jerk?" Feel Good About That!
(Seriously). There Are Some Criticisms That Are Expressed By Women
That Are Really "Indirect Compliments In Disguise." When You Exhibit
Behaviour That Is Challenging And/Or Frustrating To A Woman's
[Spoiled] Ego, Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Is Going To Start Calling
You Names. So What! Let Her. Just About Every Woman Who I Have Been In
A Relationship With Or Had Sex With Has Criticized Various Aspects Of
My Behaviour From Time To Time. On The Flip Side, The Vast Majority Of
Women Who Had Nothing But Compliments Of My Behaviour Were Typically
The Women Who I Never Engaged In Anything Beyond A Platonic Friendship
With.
Aspire To Be Perceived As Charming, Sexy, Witty, Articulate,
Thoughtful, Honest, And Provocative. But "Nice?" Uhm. . . . No, Only
If You Want To Take Up An Indefinite Residence In A Woman's "Friend
Zone."
Sunday, 6 April 2014
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A PLAYER AND A CHEATER
CONFESSION: I Have Been A Womanizer For A Long Time, So I Know
Something About Womanizers In General. With That In Mind, Here Are My
Best Pieces Of Advice For Single Women From My Series "THE MIND OF A
PLAYER," About Identifying And Interacting With Men Like The Former ME
:-D :-D :-D
1¤ THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PLAYERS AND CHEATERS:
There Are Two Types Of Womanizer, Players And Cheaters. One Should Be
Respected And The Other Should Remain Despised. There Is An Old
Saying. "Don't Hate The Player; Hate The Game." There Is A Lot Of
Lighthearted Validity To That Adage.
I Distinguish Players From Cheaters Because Players Have Multiple
Female Sex Partners And They Are Upfront And Honest With Women About
Their Desire To Be Sexually Satisfied By More Than One Woman. This
Type Of Womanizer Does Not Try To Hide, Deny Or Comouflage The Fact
That Monogamy Is Just Not His Thing. Always Appreciate Men Who Are
Honest With Women About Their Promiscuous Desires.
CHEATERS Interact Sexually With Multiple Women Under False Pretenses.
They Present A Facade Of Wanting To Be Involved In A Long-Term,
Monogamous Relationship With One Woman, But Deep-Down They Want
Variety In Their Sex Lives. I Have No Respect For Liars, Manipulative
Game Players, Adulterers And Cheaters. I Simply Do Not Like The Idea
Of Toying With Someone's Emotions.
2¤ MOST MEN ARE ONLY AS FAITHFUL AS THEIR OPTIONS ALLOW:
While I Would Not Say That This Assertion Is 100 Percent Valid, It Is
Valid More Often Than Not. With That, I Have Three Points To Make.
First, If You Are A Woman And You Think A Man Is Handsome, Sexy,
Charming And Worth Dating, There Is A 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
Dozens, If Not Hundreds Of Other Women Feel The Exact Same Way About
Him. Women Will Literally Compete With One Another To Secure This
Man's Companionship.
Second, If A Man Develops A Reputation For Being Very Exciting And
Satisfying In Bed With Women, There Is 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
His "STOCK" Is Going To Rise In The Eyes Of Many Women. No Woman Wants
A "Dud" In Bed. Third, It Is Very Easy For A Man To Be Faithful To One
Woman WheN He Only Has One Woman Offering Him Regular Sexual
Companionship. But When A Man Has Five, Ten, Fifteen Or Twenty-Plus
Women Offering Him Sexual Companionship, It Is Much Harder For A Man
To Remain Motivated To Have Sex With Just One Woman.
3¤ THE SIDE-CHICK RARELY BECOMES THE LONG-TERM GIRLFRIEND:
Once You Allow Yourself To Be Relegated To The Role Of A Man's
"Mistress," "Woman-On-The-Side," "JumpOff" Or "Booty Call," There Is A
99 Percent Change You Will Never Be Upgraded To The Role Of "Wife" Or
"Long-Term Girlfriend." Except You Want To Manipulate Or Use
Diabolical Mean, Which On The Long Run Wouldn't Favour You.
I Just Had This Discussion With A Female Recently. There Are A Number
Of Women Who Naively Think If They Start Out As A Man's "Sexual Play
Toy," Sooner Or Later They Will Earn The Right To Be "Upgraded" To
That Man's Wife, Or Long-Term Romantic Partner. That Is Highly
Doubtful.... Not Impossible, But Extremely Rare.
As A Woman, You Must Familiarize Yourself With What Is Known As The
"Madonna-Whore Complex." I Always Tell Women That Understanding This
Concept First Developed By Legendary Psychologist Dr. Sigmund Freud Is
The Absolutely First Step To Understanding Why Many Men Choose Some
Women As Long-Term Monogamous Sex Partners While Interacting With
Other Women Only As Short-Term Non-Monogamous Sex Partners. Without
Getting Too Lengthy Here, I Will Give You The Very Short-Version: Most
Men Want To Date And Marry Women Who Remind Them Of Their Mothers
(Those With Good Mothers). I Cannot Tell You How Many Men I Know Right
Now Who Are Married Or Involved In A Long-Term Relationship With A
Woman Who Has One Or More Similar Attributes To That Man's Mother.
If You Remind A Man Of His Mother, To One Degree Or Another, That Is
When His Conscious Or Subconscious Mind Places You In The Category Of
"Girlfriend" Or "Wife" Material.
If The Primary Quality That Stands Out About You Is Your Sex Appeal
And Nothing Else, Then Nine Times Out Of Ten, That Man Is Only Going
To Look At You As "Casual Sex" Material. If It Is Truly Your Desire As
A Woman To Be A Man's Future Wife Or Girlfriend, Then The Worst Thing
You Can Do Is Start Off Being That Man's "Mistress" Or
"Woman-On-The-Side" While He Is Currently Involved With Someone Else.
You Automatically Lose Respect In That Man's Eyes. The Chances Of Him
Ever Upgrading You To The Status Of His Number- One Romantic Companion
Are Less Than One Percent.
4¤ YOU CAN'T CHANGE A WOMANIZER:
Do Not Ever Fool Yourself Into Believing That You Can Change A
Womanizer Into A Monogamous "Boyfriend" Or "Husband" Type. You Cannot.
So, From This Point Forward, Stop Telling Your Girlfriends, "I Hate
Men! All Of Them Are Lying Womanizers, Cheaters And Dogs!!" That Is
Not The Truth And You Know It. Just Accept The Fact That If A Man
Possesses A Lot Of Highly Desirable Attributes, His Romantic Sexual
Companionship Is Going To Be In Demand. The Best Thing For You To Do
As A Woman Is To Ask Him What His Long-Term Desires, Interests And
Intentions Are.
REMEMBER; As Long As A Womanizer Is Honest With You About What Type Of
Sexual Relationship He Wants... Don't Hate The PLAYER. Only Hate The
Game-Playing Of Liars And CHEATERS.
JOIN ME NEXT TIME ON MY NEXT ARTICLE On "THE MIND OF A PLAYER" Series.
Something About Womanizers In General. With That In Mind, Here Are My
Best Pieces Of Advice For Single Women From My Series "THE MIND OF A
PLAYER," About Identifying And Interacting With Men Like The Former ME
:-D :-D :-D
1¤ THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PLAYERS AND CHEATERS:
There Are Two Types Of Womanizer, Players And Cheaters. One Should Be
Respected And The Other Should Remain Despised. There Is An Old
Saying. "Don't Hate The Player; Hate The Game." There Is A Lot Of
Lighthearted Validity To That Adage.
I Distinguish Players From Cheaters Because Players Have Multiple
Female Sex Partners And They Are Upfront And Honest With Women About
Their Desire To Be Sexually Satisfied By More Than One Woman. This
Type Of Womanizer Does Not Try To Hide, Deny Or Comouflage The Fact
That Monogamy Is Just Not His Thing. Always Appreciate Men Who Are
Honest With Women About Their Promiscuous Desires.
CHEATERS Interact Sexually With Multiple Women Under False Pretenses.
They Present A Facade Of Wanting To Be Involved In A Long-Term,
Monogamous Relationship With One Woman, But Deep-Down They Want
Variety In Their Sex Lives. I Have No Respect For Liars, Manipulative
Game Players, Adulterers And Cheaters. I Simply Do Not Like The Idea
Of Toying With Someone's Emotions.
2¤ MOST MEN ARE ONLY AS FAITHFUL AS THEIR OPTIONS ALLOW:
While I Would Not Say That This Assertion Is 100 Percent Valid, It Is
Valid More Often Than Not. With That, I Have Three Points To Make.
First, If You Are A Woman And You Think A Man Is Handsome, Sexy,
Charming And Worth Dating, There Is A 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
Dozens, If Not Hundreds Of Other Women Feel The Exact Same Way About
Him. Women Will Literally Compete With One Another To Secure This
Man's Companionship.
Second, If A Man Develops A Reputation For Being Very Exciting And
Satisfying In Bed With Women, There Is 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
His "STOCK" Is Going To Rise In The Eyes Of Many Women. No Woman Wants
A "Dud" In Bed. Third, It Is Very Easy For A Man To Be Faithful To One
Woman WheN He Only Has One Woman Offering Him Regular Sexual
Companionship. But When A Man Has Five, Ten, Fifteen Or Twenty-Plus
Women Offering Him Sexual Companionship, It Is Much Harder For A Man
To Remain Motivated To Have Sex With Just One Woman.
3¤ THE SIDE-CHICK RARELY BECOMES THE LONG-TERM GIRLFRIEND:
Once You Allow Yourself To Be Relegated To The Role Of A Man's
"Mistress," "Woman-On-The-Side," "JumpOff" Or "Booty Call," There Is A
99 Percent Change You Will Never Be Upgraded To The Role Of "Wife" Or
"Long-Term Girlfriend." Except You Want To Manipulate Or Use
Diabolical Mean, Which On The Long Run Wouldn't Favour You.
I Just Had This Discussion With A Female Recently. There Are A Number
Of Women Who Naively Think If They Start Out As A Man's "Sexual Play
Toy," Sooner Or Later They Will Earn The Right To Be "Upgraded" To
That Man's Wife, Or Long-Term Romantic Partner. That Is Highly
Doubtful.... Not Impossible, But Extremely Rare.
As A Woman, You Must Familiarize Yourself With What Is Known As The
"Madonna-Whore Complex." I Always Tell Women That Understanding This
Concept First Developed By Legendary Psychologist Dr. Sigmund Freud Is
The Absolutely First Step To Understanding Why Many Men Choose Some
Women As Long-Term Monogamous Sex Partners While Interacting With
Other Women Only As Short-Term Non-Monogamous Sex Partners. Without
Getting Too Lengthy Here, I Will Give You The Very Short-Version: Most
Men Want To Date And Marry Women Who Remind Them Of Their Mothers
(Those With Good Mothers). I Cannot Tell You How Many Men I Know Right
Now Who Are Married Or Involved In A Long-Term Relationship With A
Woman Who Has One Or More Similar Attributes To That Man's Mother.
If You Remind A Man Of His Mother, To One Degree Or Another, That Is
When His Conscious Or Subconscious Mind Places You In The Category Of
"Girlfriend" Or "Wife" Material.
If The Primary Quality That Stands Out About You Is Your Sex Appeal
And Nothing Else, Then Nine Times Out Of Ten, That Man Is Only Going
To Look At You As "Casual Sex" Material. If It Is Truly Your Desire As
A Woman To Be A Man's Future Wife Or Girlfriend, Then The Worst Thing
You Can Do Is Start Off Being That Man's "Mistress" Or
"Woman-On-The-Side" While He Is Currently Involved With Someone Else.
You Automatically Lose Respect In That Man's Eyes. The Chances Of Him
Ever Upgrading You To The Status Of His Number- One Romantic Companion
Are Less Than One Percent.
4¤ YOU CAN'T CHANGE A WOMANIZER:
Do Not Ever Fool Yourself Into Believing That You Can Change A
Womanizer Into A Monogamous "Boyfriend" Or "Husband" Type. You Cannot.
So, From This Point Forward, Stop Telling Your Girlfriends, "I Hate
Men! All Of Them Are Lying Womanizers, Cheaters And Dogs!!" That Is
Not The Truth And You Know It. Just Accept The Fact That If A Man
Possesses A Lot Of Highly Desirable Attributes, His Romantic Sexual
Companionship Is Going To Be In Demand. The Best Thing For You To Do
As A Woman Is To Ask Him What His Long-Term Desires, Interests And
Intentions Are.
REMEMBER; As Long As A Womanizer Is Honest With You About What Type Of
Sexual Relationship He Wants... Don't Hate The PLAYER. Only Hate The
Game-Playing Of Liars And CHEATERS.
JOIN ME NEXT TIME ON MY NEXT ARTICLE On "THE MIND OF A PLAYER" Series.
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