WHY THE NICE GUYS DON'T GET THE LADIES

Do You Feel Flattered When Women Refer To You As A "Nice Guy?" If You
Answered "YES," Shame On You.
Many Times, Friends Of Mine Will Ask Me, "Exzel, What Is The Primary
Target Demographic Of Your Relationship Tips And Series?" My General
Response Is Always "Any And All Single/Married Heterosexual Men And
Women." If Pressed Further, I Will Usually Say Men Who Fall Into The
Category Of The "Frustrated Nice Guy."
In November 2010, I Was A Featured Speaker For A Single's Forum Known
As The Direct Dating Summit For Guys. It Was Designed To Help Single
Men Improve Their Interpersonal Communication Skills With Women, And
Absorb Advice, Knowledge And Wisdom Related To Approaching Women With
A Higher Degree Of Confidence, And Creating A Higher Degree Romantic
And/Or Sexual Chemistry With Women Of Interest.
One Question I Asked All Of The Guys Seated In The Auditorium Was,
"How Many Of You Would Consider Yourself A 'Nice Guy'?" No Less Than
95% Of The Men In Attendance Raised Their Hand. Then, After A Dramatic
Pause, I Simply Asked, "And Just How Is That Working Out For You?"
The Auditorium Was Silent For A Good Two Or Three Minute Stretch.
All Of The Men Collectively Realized That If Being A "Nice Guy" Was
All That It Was Cracked Up To Be None Of Them Would Have Been In
Attendance At ThiS Particular Conference. I Would Argue That
Attempting To Present Yourself To Women As A "Nice Guy" Is The
Absolute Most Overrated Objective You Can Ever Have In Regard To Your
Love Life, Sex Life, And Overall Social Life.
The Latin Root Term For "Nice" Is Nescius, Did You Know That The Term
Nescius Means To Be "Unaware, Ignorant, And Foolish?" When A Woman
Says To You, "James, You Are Such A Nice Guy!" She Is Actually Saying,
"James, You Are Such An Ignorant Fool!"
Real Quick: Think Of A Man You Know Who Is Generally Regarded As A
"Ladies' Man," A Womanizer, A "Hearthrob," Or A Serial Monogamist.
What Percentage Of Those Men Who Came To The Forefront Of Your Mind
Would You Refer To As "Nice?" My Prediction Would Be Very Few, If Any.
When A Woman Meets A Man Who Provokes Strong Romantic Feelings In Her
Or A Strong Sexual Attraction, She Rarely Refers To That Man As
"Nice." Handsome? Yes. Charming? Most Definitely. Sexy? Without
Question. Intriguing? More Than Likely. Irresistible? Probably. Nice?
Hardly.
In Women's "Code Language," The Term "Nice" Is Primary Used To
Describe Men Whose Personalities And Overall Behaviour Is Pleasant And
Entertaining Enough To Make Them Appealing As An Indefinite Platonic
Social Companion, But Not Quite Appealing Enough To Make Them
Boyfriend Material, Husband Material, Or Friends-With-Benefits/ Casual
Sex Lover Material.
When A Man Aspires To Be Perceived As A "Nice Guy," What He Is Really
Doing Is Trying To Avoid Being Harshly Criticized By Women, Insulted
By Women, And Generally Avoid Any Type Of Controversy Or Heated
Confrontations With Women. This Man Excels At Being Overly
Accommodating With Women, Lenient With Women, And Even Financially
Generous With Women. This Man Is A Master At Keeping Women Feeling
Flattered, At Ease, And Entertained.
No Woman Wants To "Jump The Bones" Of A Perpetual Nice Guy. It Just
Doesn't Happen. Now, Some Men Tend To Confuse Being A "Good Guy" With
Being A "Nice Guy." Those Two Terms Are Not Synonymous.
A "Good Guy" Is A Man Is Honest With His Words, Desires, Interests,
And Intentions. A Man Who Says What He Means And Means What He Says. A
Man Whose Moral Character And Integrity Is Beyond Reproach. You Can Be
A "Good Guy" And Be Sexy In The Eyes Of Most Women.
On The Other Hand, To Be "Nice Guy" Has Connotations Of Being
Dishonest, Disingenuous, And Even Cowardly. A Nice Guy Maintains A
Social Façade That He Rarely Wants To Be Identified Or Exposed.
Here Are At Least Five Tips For Single Men Who Want To Prevent
Themselves From Becoming A "Frustrated Nice Guy" (Which Is Simply The
Precursor To Becoming A Misogynist):
1¤ QUIT FAWNING OVER WOMEN AND EXCESSIVELY FLATTERING WOMEN FOR NO VALID REASON:
Women Love Compliments, But When You Express Too Many Of Them In A
Relatively Short Period Of Time, It Makes You Look Like You Want To Be
In That Woman's "Personal Fan Club" Rather Than Be A Potential
Romantic Or Sexual Companion Of Hers. Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Once Makes You Seem Charming; Tell A Woman She Is Beautiful
And Sexy Five Or More Times In Less Than Two Hours, And You Begin To
Look Desperate And Creepy.
2¤ QUIT ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BECOME A "PLAY BROTHER" Or "MALE
GIRLFRIEND" TO A NUMBER OF WOMEN:
Many Men Complain About Women Placing Them In The Dreaded "Friend
Zone," But More Often Than Not, It Is The Men Themselves Who Open The
Door For Women To Place Them In This Category. Stop Engaging In
Multiple Episodes Of Trivial, Lighthearted "Small Talk" And Gossip
With Women. The More You Solidly Yourself As A Woman's "Play Brother,"
The Less Likely You Are To Ever End Up In Bed With That Woman Or In A
Long Lasting Romantic Relationship With That Woman.
3¤ QUIT TRYING TO BE VERY WOMAN'S "PERSONAL ENTERTAINER" OR "MR. FUNNY MAN"
I Always Tell My Male Friends That It Is Okay To Have A Sense Of
Humour, And To Be Witty. Let It Stop There Though. Many Men Make The
Mistake Of Trying To Become A Woman's Personal "Stand-Up Comic" Whose
Personal Responsibility Is To Keep That Woman Laughing On A Daily,
Weekly, Or Monthly Basis. Even Movie Star Eddie Murphy Once Said, "It
Is Hard To Be Perceived As Both Extremely Funny And Extremely Sexy In
The Eyes Of A Woman At The Exact Same Moment In Time."

4¤ QUIT BEING AFRAID TO LET WOMEN KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO GET IN THEIR PANTS:

Would You Ever Visit A Restaurant And "Pretend" Like You Are Not
Hungry? Would You Ever Enter Into A Doctor's Office And "Pretend" Like
You Are Not Experiencing Any Sort Of Pain Or Discomfort? Then Why
Would You Share The Company Of A Desirable Woman, And Try To "Pretend"
Like The Thought Of Having Sex With Her Is Nowhere In Your Mind? This
Is The Absolute Dumbest Thing Men Are Guilty Of Doing Very, Very
Frequently. If You Want To Have Sex With A Woman... Let Her Know That.
(Here Is A Little Secret Fellas: Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Already
Assumes That You Want To Have Sex With Her Anyway... So You Might As
Well Go Ahead And Confirm Her Very Valid Assumption).

5¤ QUIT LOOKING AT ALL HARSH CRITICISMS AND INSULTS FROM WOMEN AS A "BAD" THING:

Did A Woman Recently Refer To You As A "Jerk?" Feel Good About That!
(Seriously). There Are Some Criticisms That Are Expressed By Women
That Are Really "Indirect Compliments In Disguise." When You Exhibit
Behaviour That Is Challenging And/Or Frustrating To A Woman's
[Spoiled] Ego, Nine Times Out Of Ten, She Is Going To Start Calling
You Names. So What! Let Her. Just About Every Woman Who I Have Been In
A Relationship With Or Had Sex With Has Criticized Various Aspects Of
My Behaviour From Time To Time. On The Flip Side, The Vast Majority Of
Women Who Had Nothing But Compliments Of My Behaviour Were Typically
The Women Who I Never Engaged In Anything Beyond A Platonic Friendship
With.

Aspire To Be Perceived As Charming, Sexy, Witty, Articulate,
Thoughtful, Honest, And Provocative. But "Nice?" Uhm. . . . No, Only
If You Want To Take Up An Indefinite Residence In A Woman's "Friend
Zone."

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A PLAYER AND A CHEATER

CONFESSION: I Have Been A Womanizer For A Long Time, So I Know
Something About Womanizers In General. With That In Mind, Here Are My
Best Pieces Of Advice For Single Women From My Series "THE MIND OF A
PLAYER," About Identifying And Interacting With Men Like The Former ME
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1¤ THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PLAYERS AND CHEATERS:
There Are Two Types Of Womanizer, Players And Cheaters. One Should Be
Respected And The Other Should Remain Despised. There Is An Old
Saying. "Don't Hate The Player; Hate The Game." There Is A Lot Of
Lighthearted Validity To That Adage.
I Distinguish Players From Cheaters Because Players Have Multiple
Female Sex Partners And They Are Upfront And Honest With Women About
Their Desire To Be Sexually Satisfied By More Than One Woman. This
Type Of Womanizer Does Not Try To Hide, Deny Or Comouflage The Fact
That Monogamy Is Just Not His Thing. Always Appreciate Men Who Are
Honest With Women About Their Promiscuous Desires.
CHEATERS Interact Sexually With Multiple Women Under False Pretenses.
They Present A Facade Of Wanting To Be Involved In A Long-Term,
Monogamous Relationship With One Woman, But Deep-Down They Want
Variety In Their Sex Lives. I Have No Respect For Liars, Manipulative
Game Players, Adulterers And Cheaters. I Simply Do Not Like The Idea
Of Toying With Someone's Emotions.
2¤ MOST MEN ARE ONLY AS FAITHFUL AS THEIR OPTIONS ALLOW:
While I Would Not Say That This Assertion Is 100 Percent Valid, It Is
Valid More Often Than Not. With That, I Have Three Points To Make.
First, If You Are A Woman And You Think A Man Is Handsome, Sexy,
Charming And Worth Dating, There Is A 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
Dozens, If Not Hundreds Of Other Women Feel The Exact Same Way About
Him. Women Will Literally Compete With One Another To Secure This
Man's Companionship.
Second, If A Man Develops A Reputation For Being Very Exciting And
Satisfying In Bed With Women, There Is 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
His "STOCK" Is Going To Rise In The Eyes Of Many Women. No Woman Wants
A "Dud" In Bed. Third, It Is Very Easy For A Man To Be Faithful To One
Woman WheN He Only Has One Woman Offering Him Regular Sexual
Companionship. But When A Man Has Five, Ten, Fifteen Or Twenty-Plus
Women Offering Him Sexual Companionship, It Is Much Harder For A Man
To Remain Motivated To Have Sex With Just One Woman.
3¤ THE SIDE-CHICK RARELY BECOMES THE LONG-TERM GIRLFRIEND:
Once You Allow Yourself To Be Relegated To The Role Of A Man's
"Mistress," "Woman-On-The-Side," "JumpOff" Or "Booty Call," There Is A
99 Percent Change You Will Never Be Upgraded To The Role Of "Wife" Or
"Long-Term Girlfriend." Except You Want To Manipulate Or Use
Diabolical Mean, Which On The Long Run Wouldn't Favour You.
I Just Had This Discussion With A Female Recently. There Are A Number
Of Women Who Naively Think If They Start Out As A Man's "Sexual Play
Toy," Sooner Or Later They Will Earn The Right To Be "Upgraded" To
That Man's Wife, Or Long-Term Romantic Partner. That Is Highly
Doubtful.... Not Impossible, But Extremely Rare.
As A Woman, You Must Familiarize Yourself With What Is Known As The
"Madonna-Whore Complex." I Always Tell Women That Understanding This
Concept First Developed By Legendary Psychologist Dr. Sigmund Freud Is
The Absolutely First Step To Understanding Why Many Men Choose Some
Women As Long-Term Monogamous Sex Partners While Interacting With
Other Women Only As Short-Term Non-Monogamous Sex Partners. Without
Getting Too Lengthy Here, I Will Give You The Very Short-Version: Most
Men Want To Date And Marry Women Who Remind Them Of Their Mothers
(Those With Good Mothers). I Cannot Tell You How Many Men I Know Right
Now Who Are Married Or Involved In A Long-Term Relationship With A
Woman Who Has One Or More Similar Attributes To That Man's Mother.
If You Remind A Man Of His Mother, To One Degree Or Another, That Is
When His Conscious Or Subconscious Mind Places You In The Category Of
"Girlfriend" Or "Wife" Material.

If The Primary Quality That Stands Out About You Is Your Sex Appeal
And Nothing Else, Then Nine Times Out Of Ten, That Man Is Only Going
To Look At You As "Casual Sex" Material. If It Is Truly Your Desire As
A Woman To Be A Man's Future Wife Or Girlfriend, Then The Worst Thing
You Can Do Is Start Off Being That Man's "Mistress" Or
"Woman-On-The-Side" While He Is Currently Involved With Someone Else.
You Automatically Lose Respect In That Man's Eyes. The Chances Of Him
Ever Upgrading You To The Status Of His Number- One Romantic Companion
Are Less Than One Percent.

4¤ YOU CAN'T CHANGE A WOMANIZER:

Do Not Ever Fool Yourself Into Believing That You Can Change A
Womanizer Into A Monogamous "Boyfriend" Or "Husband" Type. You Cannot.

So, From This Point Forward, Stop Telling Your Girlfriends, "I Hate
Men! All Of Them Are Lying Womanizers, Cheaters And Dogs!!" That Is
Not The Truth And You Know It. Just Accept The Fact That If A Man
Possesses A Lot Of Highly Desirable Attributes, His Romantic Sexual
Companionship Is Going To Be In Demand. The Best Thing For You To Do
As A Woman Is To Ask Him What His Long-Term Desires, Interests And
Intentions Are.

REMEMBER; As Long As A Womanizer Is Honest With You About What Type Of
Sexual Relationship He Wants... Don't Hate The PLAYER. Only Hate The
Game-Playing Of Liars And CHEATERS.

JOIN ME NEXT TIME ON MY NEXT ARTICLE On "THE MIND OF A PLAYER" Series.

HOW TO KNOW IF HE/SHE IS YOUR SOULMATE

There Must Have Been A Time You Came Across Somebody You Felt An
Immediate Connection With. Being With This Person Felt Natural And You
Had No Problem Sharing Secrets. You Probably Will Have The Feeling
That You And That Person Had Met Some Time In The Past. If You Have
Had An Experience Like This, Then That Someone Might Have Been Your
Soul Mate. Some Individuals Spend Their Whole Lives Searching For
Their Soul Mate. The Lucky Ones Discover Theirs And They Live Together
For The Remainder Of Their Lives. It Can Be Really Exciting To Find
Your Soul Mate While Losing One Can Get You Demoralized. But How Can
You Decipher If An Individual Is Your Soul Mate? As You Go Through
Life, You Will Most Likely Come Across Many People Who You Feel
Attracted To. Is That An Indication That All These People Are Your
Soul Mates Or Can That Be Described As Mere Infatuation? Before
Answering These Questions, It Is Important That You Understand The
Meaning Of Soul Mate.
WHO IS A SOUL MATE?
Someone Who Is Your Soul Mate Can Be Described As Your Ideal Partner.
He Or She Is Someone You Deeply Connect With. When You Are With This
Person, You Feel Like You Have Found True Love. Different Individuals
Have Different Beliefs Regarding A Soul Mate. While Some Believe A
Soul Mate Is Someone They Spent Their Time With In Another Life,
Others Are Of The Opinion That One's Soul Mate Is A Part Of Their Soul
That Resides In Another Individual. This Is Why You May Spend Your
Entire Life Searching For That Other Half.
Irrespective Of What You Believe, You Should Be Aware That A Soul Mate
Is Not Merely About Physical Attraction. It Runs Deep And Has The
Effect Of Making You Feel More Complete.
IS THERE A SOUL MATE FOR YOU?
You Probably Have More Than One SOUL MATE In This World. You Feel
Attracted To Different Individuals For Different Reasons. Also, There
Is A Good Chance That Many People Have Similar Traits As Yours. You
Will Be Drawn To People Like These. So There Is Really No Need To Be
Anxious If You Are Yet To Find Your Soul Mate.
HOW CAN YOU IDENTIFY YOUR SOUL MATE?
You Might Have Met Somebody Last Night And You Are Probably Wondering
If He Or She Is Your Soul Mate? You And The Person Had A Good
Connection And You Were Comfortable In Each Other's Company. But Is He
Or She Really Your Soul Mate? Well, It Can Be Quite Tricky. It Can
Take A Lot Of Time, Possibly Years For You To Find Out If An
Individual Is Really Your Soul Mate Or Not.
Therefore There Is No Need To Be Obsessed With Finding Your Soul Mate
Because, You Might Miss Out On Several Opportunities. You Should Not
Expect A Lightening Bolt From The Sky To Come And Point Out Your True
Love. The Instant Love That Happens In Romance Novels And In Movies Is
Not Real. If You Have That Kind Of Attitude, You May Miss Your Chance
To Enjoy A Meaningful Relationship.
DO THE TWO OF YOU HAVE SIMILAR INTERESTS?
Although There Is No Magical Way Of Telling If An Individual Is Your
Soul Mate, There Are Certain Indicators And Clues That Can Help You
Determine If The Person You Have Interest In Is That Ideal Someone. If
The Two Of You Have Similar Interests, Then You Have A Good Clue. One
Good Way To Tell If An Individual Is Your Soul Mate Is If The Two Of
You Enjoy Doing The Same Things. One Is Not Saying That If The Two Of
You Enjoy Playing Scrabble, Then You Are Definitely Soul Mates. Many
People Like Playing Scrabble.
However, If The Two Of You Like Doing Certain Peculiar Things, Like
Playing Video Games (Only An Example), There Is A Big Possibility That
You Two Are Meant For Each Other.

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE IN EACH OTHER'S COMPANY?

The First Time You Come Across Someone Who You Really Like, You Will
Probably Feel A Bit Edgy And You May Find It Difficult Being Yourself
When That Person Is Around You. If The Person Is Really Your Soul
Mate, You Will Probably Not Feel Tense At All. The Two Of You Will
Feel Totally Comfortable In Each Other's Company. You Might Discover
That There Is No Need To Behave In A Particular Way To Make An
Impression. Most People Who Have Actually Found Their Soul Mates State
That There Was Never A Time They Felt Uneasy Or Clumsy In The Presence
Of That Person. It Felt As If They Have Been Acquaintances For A Long
Time.

CAN YOU SHARE YOUR SECRETS WITH HIM OR HER?

In Any Relationship There Is Always The Issue Of Trust. You Might Have
Affection For Someone However You May Find It Difficult Trusting That
Person Completely. You Likely Feel That Telling Him Or Her All Your
Secrets Is Out Of The Question. If You Have Actually Come Across Your
Soul Mate, You Will Have No Trouble Telling Him Or Her Everything
About Yourself. You Should Be Able To Share Your Aspirations, Hopes
Plus Your Deepest Secrets With Your Soul Mate. If You Completely Trust
That Special Someone, Then You Can Make Good Companions.

HOW TO FIND YOUR SOUL MATE

Finding Your Soul Mate Can Turn Out To Be A Difficult Endeavour. You
Can Carry On Searching And Never Meet Him Or Her. Some People Hold The
Belief That If You Actively Search For Love, Your Efforts May Never
Prove Successful, But When You Relax And Just Be Yourself, Then Love
Will Come To You On Its Own. At Times. That Is The Way It Is With
Finding Your Soul Mate. Nothing Stops You From Searching For Love At
Social Events, Clubs And Other Places. However It Is Not Something
That Can Be Forced. If You Want To Find Your True Love, You Have To Go
Out There And Mix With People. Your True Love Will Not Come To You If
You Sit Around By Yourself All Day. You Can Easily Mistake Infatuation
For Genuine Love, If You Become Desperate. You Just Have To Go Out And
Socialize But There Is No Need To Analyze Every Person You Come Across
To See If He Or She Is Your Ideal Match. All You Have To Do Is Relax,
Enjoy Yourself And Enjoy The Company Of Those You Come Across. Sooner
Than Later, Your Soul Mate Will Come Your Way.

REASONS WHY GOOD RELATIONSHIPS GO BAD

"I Don't Know What Went Wrong. Our Relationship Was Headed In A
Positive Direction And Then- Wham! - It All Fell Apart." Sound
Familiar? In The Quest To Find The Love Of Their Life, Lots Of Singles
Have Something Like That. However, Most Of The Triggers That Cause A
Budding Relationship To Detonate Are Not All That Mysterious.
Here Are Some Of The Most Common:
1¤ EMOTIONAL CLING WRAP:
Few Relationships Are Able To Survive Extreme Jealousy,
Possessiveness, Overdependence, Or Manipulative And Controlling
Behaviour. Such Actions And Attitudes Are A Sure Sign That One Or Both
People Lack A Solid Emotional Foundation. Placing Excessive Demands On
Your Partner's Time And Attention May Seem Like A Normal Expression Of
Romantic Love. In Reality, It Is A Destructive Form Of Domination.
Freedom To Be Yourself- Without Someone Else Constantly Telling You
What You Should Or Should Not Do- Is Critical If Your Relationship Is
Going To Thrive And Flourish.
2¤ TOO PHYSICAL, TOO FAST:
It Takes Time To Form The Healthy Emotional Circuits Needed To Sustain
A Lasting Relationship. Trust And The Willingness To Commit Can't Be
Rushed. But Surging Sexual Energy Can Short Out A Potential
Partnership, If It Is Switched On Too Early. Becoming Physically
Intimate Can Open Up A Large Number Of Issues That Put Pressure On A
Fledgling Relationship- And Destroy It Before It Has A Fighting
Chance.

3¤ UNCHECKED EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE:

As Often As We Describe A New Relationship As A "Fresh Start," That
Usually Not Entirely True. All Of Us Carry Wounds We've Received In
Life- As Children, In Previous Relationships, Or In The Trenches Of
Modern Society. Making Room For A New Partner May Cause You To Trip
Over Things You'd Forgotten Were There. And, Of Course, He Or She
Certainly Has Hidden Hurts, Too. The Issue Is Not The Wounds We Carry
Or The Scars We Bear, Since Everyone Has Some Of Those. The Issue Is
The Willingness To Examine And Work Through Emotional Difficulties. To
Succeed In A New Love Relationship, Both Partners Must Be Willing To
Sift Through The Baggage And Do The Work Required To Get Over A
Painful Past.

4¤ DISHONESTY AND DECEPTION:

Lies Destroy A Crucial Component Of Any Relationship: Trust. Once You
Catch A Whiff Of Duplicity In The Air Look Out! Sure, It Could Be An
Isolated Incident Or A Half-Truth That Might Be Forgiven And
Forgotten, But Often It's A Sign Of Trouble. A Person's Need To Lie Is
A Telling Clue About His Character And Emotional Health. It May
Indicate Serious Insecurity, Lack Of Integrity, Or Flimsy Moral
Standards. And If Dishonesty Shows Up While Dating, It's Likely To
Only Get Worse During Marriage. Here's A Sobering Fact Of Life: If
Your Partner Is Willing To Lie To You Once, He Or She Is Likely To Do
It Again.

5¤ FAIRY TALE FANTASIES:

Unrealistic Expectations Serve As Treacherous Sinkholes On The Road To
Lasting Love. When A Woman Describes Her Man As "My Perfect Prince
Charming" And A Man Thinks She Is"A goddess Who Can Do No Wrong," They
Are Destined To Fall Back Down To Earth With A Nasty Crash. There's
Nothing Wrong With Believing The Best About Each Other, Admiring Your
Partner's Positive Qualities, And Nurturing Dreams Of A Bright Future
Together. But In A Healthy Dating Relationship, The Individuals
Acknowledge That Nobody Is Perfect And There Will Surely Be Problems
To Address. Every Relationship Will Require Hard Work And
Perseverance.

In The Early Days Of An Exciting New Romance, It Is Tempting To See
The World Through Rose-Coloured Glasses. But To Make The Partnership
Last, Take Them Off, And Be Alert To Warnings Of Trouble While It May
Still Be Avoided.

HOW SEX CAN CURE MIGRAINE HEADACHES

When You're Crippled With A Splitting Headache, The Last Thing You're
Probably In The Mood For Is Sex.

But German Researchers Believe It Could Be A Simple Painkiller For A
Lot Of Migraine Sufferers.

More Than 50 Percent Of Migraine Sufferers In A Study Who Had Had Sex
During A Migraine Reported An Improvement In Symptoms, And As Many As
One In Five Said It Stopped The Pain Completely.

The Researchers Believe That The Solution Could Be Thanks To The
Release Of Endorphins From Sex, Which Work As Natural Painkillers In
The Body.

"SEX Can Abort Migraine And Cluster Headache Attacks, And Sexual
Activity Is Used By Some Patients As Acute Headache Treatment," The
University Of Munster Researchers Said.

"Our Results Shows That Sexual Activity During A Migraine Attack Might
Relieve Or Even Stop An Attack In Some Cases, And That Sexual Activity
In The Presence Of Headache Is Not An Unusual Behaviour."

The Team Of Neurologists Studied The Survey Responses Of More Than 300
Migraine Sufferers And 96 People Who Suffered Cluster- Or
One-Sided-Headaches.

They Questioned Them About Their Sexual Experiences During Headaches
And How It Affected Their Pain.

More Than A Third Of The Migraine Patients Had Had Sex During An
Attack, And Of Those, Almost Two Thirds Reported An Improvement In
Their Condition. The Other Third Reported Their Migraine Had Worsened.

Of Those Suffering Cluster Headaches, A Third Had Experimented With
SEX During An Attack, And 37 Percent Of That Group Reported Their
Condition Had Improved, While 50 Percent Said Their Condition Had
Worsened.

"In Total, 42.7 Percent Of All Migraine Patients Experienced At Least
50 Percent Relief- A Response Rate As High As In Studies On Acute
Medication," The Researchers Wrote.

"Some Patients, In Particular Male Migraine Patients, Even Used Sexual
Activity As A Therapeutic Tool."

Dean Watson, A Muscular Skeletal Physiotherapist And Director Of The
Watson Headache Clinic, Told GREATMINDZ That Insufficient Serotonin
Levels Can Cause Sensitivity In The Brain Stem, Which Leads To
Migraines.

"We Know That Pleasure Is Going To Increase The Levels Of Serotonin
And Therefore It's Going To Desensitise The Brain Stem," He Said.

"Triptans- The Migraine Medication- Work By Desensitising The Brain Stem.

Serotonin Does The Same Thing, So I'm Not Surprised By The Results Of
This Study."

Watson Said Exercise And Getting Plenty Of Sunlight Can Also Boost
Serotonin Levels.

"This Deals With The Symptoms, But The Reason For The Sensitisation In
The First Place Is Going To Be Typically Disorders Of The Neck," He
Said.