THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A PLAYER AND A CHEATER

CONFESSION: I Have Been A Womanizer For A Long Time, So I Know
Something About Womanizers In General. With That In Mind, Here Are My
Best Pieces Of Advice For Single Women From My Series "THE MIND OF A
PLAYER," About Identifying And Interacting With Men Like The Former ME
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1¤ THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PLAYERS AND CHEATERS:
There Are Two Types Of Womanizer, Players And Cheaters. One Should Be
Respected And The Other Should Remain Despised. There Is An Old
Saying. "Don't Hate The Player; Hate The Game." There Is A Lot Of
Lighthearted Validity To That Adage.
I Distinguish Players From Cheaters Because Players Have Multiple
Female Sex Partners And They Are Upfront And Honest With Women About
Their Desire To Be Sexually Satisfied By More Than One Woman. This
Type Of Womanizer Does Not Try To Hide, Deny Or Comouflage The Fact
That Monogamy Is Just Not His Thing. Always Appreciate Men Who Are
Honest With Women About Their Promiscuous Desires.
CHEATERS Interact Sexually With Multiple Women Under False Pretenses.
They Present A Facade Of Wanting To Be Involved In A Long-Term,
Monogamous Relationship With One Woman, But Deep-Down They Want
Variety In Their Sex Lives. I Have No Respect For Liars, Manipulative
Game Players, Adulterers And Cheaters. I Simply Do Not Like The Idea
Of Toying With Someone's Emotions.
2¤ MOST MEN ARE ONLY AS FAITHFUL AS THEIR OPTIONS ALLOW:
While I Would Not Say That This Assertion Is 100 Percent Valid, It Is
Valid More Often Than Not. With That, I Have Three Points To Make.
First, If You Are A Woman And You Think A Man Is Handsome, Sexy,
Charming And Worth Dating, There Is A 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
Dozens, If Not Hundreds Of Other Women Feel The Exact Same Way About
Him. Women Will Literally Compete With One Another To Secure This
Man's Companionship.
Second, If A Man Develops A Reputation For Being Very Exciting And
Satisfying In Bed With Women, There Is 90 To 99 Percent Chance That
His "STOCK" Is Going To Rise In The Eyes Of Many Women. No Woman Wants
A "Dud" In Bed. Third, It Is Very Easy For A Man To Be Faithful To One
Woman WheN He Only Has One Woman Offering Him Regular Sexual
Companionship. But When A Man Has Five, Ten, Fifteen Or Twenty-Plus
Women Offering Him Sexual Companionship, It Is Much Harder For A Man
To Remain Motivated To Have Sex With Just One Woman.
3¤ THE SIDE-CHICK RARELY BECOMES THE LONG-TERM GIRLFRIEND:
Once You Allow Yourself To Be Relegated To The Role Of A Man's
"Mistress," "Woman-On-The-Side," "JumpOff" Or "Booty Call," There Is A
99 Percent Change You Will Never Be Upgraded To The Role Of "Wife" Or
"Long-Term Girlfriend." Except You Want To Manipulate Or Use
Diabolical Mean, Which On The Long Run Wouldn't Favour You.
I Just Had This Discussion With A Female Recently. There Are A Number
Of Women Who Naively Think If They Start Out As A Man's "Sexual Play
Toy," Sooner Or Later They Will Earn The Right To Be "Upgraded" To
That Man's Wife, Or Long-Term Romantic Partner. That Is Highly
Doubtful.... Not Impossible, But Extremely Rare.
As A Woman, You Must Familiarize Yourself With What Is Known As The
"Madonna-Whore Complex." I Always Tell Women That Understanding This
Concept First Developed By Legendary Psychologist Dr. Sigmund Freud Is
The Absolutely First Step To Understanding Why Many Men Choose Some
Women As Long-Term Monogamous Sex Partners While Interacting With
Other Women Only As Short-Term Non-Monogamous Sex Partners. Without
Getting Too Lengthy Here, I Will Give You The Very Short-Version: Most
Men Want To Date And Marry Women Who Remind Them Of Their Mothers
(Those With Good Mothers). I Cannot Tell You How Many Men I Know Right
Now Who Are Married Or Involved In A Long-Term Relationship With A
Woman Who Has One Or More Similar Attributes To That Man's Mother.
If You Remind A Man Of His Mother, To One Degree Or Another, That Is
When His Conscious Or Subconscious Mind Places You In The Category Of
"Girlfriend" Or "Wife" Material.

If The Primary Quality That Stands Out About You Is Your Sex Appeal
And Nothing Else, Then Nine Times Out Of Ten, That Man Is Only Going
To Look At You As "Casual Sex" Material. If It Is Truly Your Desire As
A Woman To Be A Man's Future Wife Or Girlfriend, Then The Worst Thing
You Can Do Is Start Off Being That Man's "Mistress" Or
"Woman-On-The-Side" While He Is Currently Involved With Someone Else.
You Automatically Lose Respect In That Man's Eyes. The Chances Of Him
Ever Upgrading You To The Status Of His Number- One Romantic Companion
Are Less Than One Percent.

4¤ YOU CAN'T CHANGE A WOMANIZER:

Do Not Ever Fool Yourself Into Believing That You Can Change A
Womanizer Into A Monogamous "Boyfriend" Or "Husband" Type. You Cannot.

So, From This Point Forward, Stop Telling Your Girlfriends, "I Hate
Men! All Of Them Are Lying Womanizers, Cheaters And Dogs!!" That Is
Not The Truth And You Know It. Just Accept The Fact That If A Man
Possesses A Lot Of Highly Desirable Attributes, His Romantic Sexual
Companionship Is Going To Be In Demand. The Best Thing For You To Do
As A Woman Is To Ask Him What His Long-Term Desires, Interests And
Intentions Are.

REMEMBER; As Long As A Womanizer Is Honest With You About What Type Of
Sexual Relationship He Wants... Don't Hate The PLAYER. Only Hate The
Game-Playing Of Liars And CHEATERS.

JOIN ME NEXT TIME ON MY NEXT ARTICLE On "THE MIND OF A PLAYER" Series.

HOW TO KNOW IF HE/SHE IS YOUR SOULMATE

There Must Have Been A Time You Came Across Somebody You Felt An
Immediate Connection With. Being With This Person Felt Natural And You
Had No Problem Sharing Secrets. You Probably Will Have The Feeling
That You And That Person Had Met Some Time In The Past. If You Have
Had An Experience Like This, Then That Someone Might Have Been Your
Soul Mate. Some Individuals Spend Their Whole Lives Searching For
Their Soul Mate. The Lucky Ones Discover Theirs And They Live Together
For The Remainder Of Their Lives. It Can Be Really Exciting To Find
Your Soul Mate While Losing One Can Get You Demoralized. But How Can
You Decipher If An Individual Is Your Soul Mate? As You Go Through
Life, You Will Most Likely Come Across Many People Who You Feel
Attracted To. Is That An Indication That All These People Are Your
Soul Mates Or Can That Be Described As Mere Infatuation? Before
Answering These Questions, It Is Important That You Understand The
Meaning Of Soul Mate.
WHO IS A SOUL MATE?
Someone Who Is Your Soul Mate Can Be Described As Your Ideal Partner.
He Or She Is Someone You Deeply Connect With. When You Are With This
Person, You Feel Like You Have Found True Love. Different Individuals
Have Different Beliefs Regarding A Soul Mate. While Some Believe A
Soul Mate Is Someone They Spent Their Time With In Another Life,
Others Are Of The Opinion That One's Soul Mate Is A Part Of Their Soul
That Resides In Another Individual. This Is Why You May Spend Your
Entire Life Searching For That Other Half.
Irrespective Of What You Believe, You Should Be Aware That A Soul Mate
Is Not Merely About Physical Attraction. It Runs Deep And Has The
Effect Of Making You Feel More Complete.
IS THERE A SOUL MATE FOR YOU?
You Probably Have More Than One SOUL MATE In This World. You Feel
Attracted To Different Individuals For Different Reasons. Also, There
Is A Good Chance That Many People Have Similar Traits As Yours. You
Will Be Drawn To People Like These. So There Is Really No Need To Be
Anxious If You Are Yet To Find Your Soul Mate.
HOW CAN YOU IDENTIFY YOUR SOUL MATE?
You Might Have Met Somebody Last Night And You Are Probably Wondering
If He Or She Is Your Soul Mate? You And The Person Had A Good
Connection And You Were Comfortable In Each Other's Company. But Is He
Or She Really Your Soul Mate? Well, It Can Be Quite Tricky. It Can
Take A Lot Of Time, Possibly Years For You To Find Out If An
Individual Is Really Your Soul Mate Or Not.
Therefore There Is No Need To Be Obsessed With Finding Your Soul Mate
Because, You Might Miss Out On Several Opportunities. You Should Not
Expect A Lightening Bolt From The Sky To Come And Point Out Your True
Love. The Instant Love That Happens In Romance Novels And In Movies Is
Not Real. If You Have That Kind Of Attitude, You May Miss Your Chance
To Enjoy A Meaningful Relationship.
DO THE TWO OF YOU HAVE SIMILAR INTERESTS?
Although There Is No Magical Way Of Telling If An Individual Is Your
Soul Mate, There Are Certain Indicators And Clues That Can Help You
Determine If The Person You Have Interest In Is That Ideal Someone. If
The Two Of You Have Similar Interests, Then You Have A Good Clue. One
Good Way To Tell If An Individual Is Your Soul Mate Is If The Two Of
You Enjoy Doing The Same Things. One Is Not Saying That If The Two Of
You Enjoy Playing Scrabble, Then You Are Definitely Soul Mates. Many
People Like Playing Scrabble.
However, If The Two Of You Like Doing Certain Peculiar Things, Like
Playing Video Games (Only An Example), There Is A Big Possibility That
You Two Are Meant For Each Other.

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE IN EACH OTHER'S COMPANY?

The First Time You Come Across Someone Who You Really Like, You Will
Probably Feel A Bit Edgy And You May Find It Difficult Being Yourself
When That Person Is Around You. If The Person Is Really Your Soul
Mate, You Will Probably Not Feel Tense At All. The Two Of You Will
Feel Totally Comfortable In Each Other's Company. You Might Discover
That There Is No Need To Behave In A Particular Way To Make An
Impression. Most People Who Have Actually Found Their Soul Mates State
That There Was Never A Time They Felt Uneasy Or Clumsy In The Presence
Of That Person. It Felt As If They Have Been Acquaintances For A Long
Time.

CAN YOU SHARE YOUR SECRETS WITH HIM OR HER?

In Any Relationship There Is Always The Issue Of Trust. You Might Have
Affection For Someone However You May Find It Difficult Trusting That
Person Completely. You Likely Feel That Telling Him Or Her All Your
Secrets Is Out Of The Question. If You Have Actually Come Across Your
Soul Mate, You Will Have No Trouble Telling Him Or Her Everything
About Yourself. You Should Be Able To Share Your Aspirations, Hopes
Plus Your Deepest Secrets With Your Soul Mate. If You Completely Trust
That Special Someone, Then You Can Make Good Companions.

HOW TO FIND YOUR SOUL MATE

Finding Your Soul Mate Can Turn Out To Be A Difficult Endeavour. You
Can Carry On Searching And Never Meet Him Or Her. Some People Hold The
Belief That If You Actively Search For Love, Your Efforts May Never
Prove Successful, But When You Relax And Just Be Yourself, Then Love
Will Come To You On Its Own. At Times. That Is The Way It Is With
Finding Your Soul Mate. Nothing Stops You From Searching For Love At
Social Events, Clubs And Other Places. However It Is Not Something
That Can Be Forced. If You Want To Find Your True Love, You Have To Go
Out There And Mix With People. Your True Love Will Not Come To You If
You Sit Around By Yourself All Day. You Can Easily Mistake Infatuation
For Genuine Love, If You Become Desperate. You Just Have To Go Out And
Socialize But There Is No Need To Analyze Every Person You Come Across
To See If He Or She Is Your Ideal Match. All You Have To Do Is Relax,
Enjoy Yourself And Enjoy The Company Of Those You Come Across. Sooner
Than Later, Your Soul Mate Will Come Your Way.

REASONS WHY GOOD RELATIONSHIPS GO BAD

"I Don't Know What Went Wrong. Our Relationship Was Headed In A
Positive Direction And Then- Wham! - It All Fell Apart." Sound
Familiar? In The Quest To Find The Love Of Their Life, Lots Of Singles
Have Something Like That. However, Most Of The Triggers That Cause A
Budding Relationship To Detonate Are Not All That Mysterious.
Here Are Some Of The Most Common:
1¤ EMOTIONAL CLING WRAP:
Few Relationships Are Able To Survive Extreme Jealousy,
Possessiveness, Overdependence, Or Manipulative And Controlling
Behaviour. Such Actions And Attitudes Are A Sure Sign That One Or Both
People Lack A Solid Emotional Foundation. Placing Excessive Demands On
Your Partner's Time And Attention May Seem Like A Normal Expression Of
Romantic Love. In Reality, It Is A Destructive Form Of Domination.
Freedom To Be Yourself- Without Someone Else Constantly Telling You
What You Should Or Should Not Do- Is Critical If Your Relationship Is
Going To Thrive And Flourish.
2¤ TOO PHYSICAL, TOO FAST:
It Takes Time To Form The Healthy Emotional Circuits Needed To Sustain
A Lasting Relationship. Trust And The Willingness To Commit Can't Be
Rushed. But Surging Sexual Energy Can Short Out A Potential
Partnership, If It Is Switched On Too Early. Becoming Physically
Intimate Can Open Up A Large Number Of Issues That Put Pressure On A
Fledgling Relationship- And Destroy It Before It Has A Fighting
Chance.

3¤ UNCHECKED EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE:

As Often As We Describe A New Relationship As A "Fresh Start," That
Usually Not Entirely True. All Of Us Carry Wounds We've Received In
Life- As Children, In Previous Relationships, Or In The Trenches Of
Modern Society. Making Room For A New Partner May Cause You To Trip
Over Things You'd Forgotten Were There. And, Of Course, He Or She
Certainly Has Hidden Hurts, Too. The Issue Is Not The Wounds We Carry
Or The Scars We Bear, Since Everyone Has Some Of Those. The Issue Is
The Willingness To Examine And Work Through Emotional Difficulties. To
Succeed In A New Love Relationship, Both Partners Must Be Willing To
Sift Through The Baggage And Do The Work Required To Get Over A
Painful Past.

4¤ DISHONESTY AND DECEPTION:

Lies Destroy A Crucial Component Of Any Relationship: Trust. Once You
Catch A Whiff Of Duplicity In The Air Look Out! Sure, It Could Be An
Isolated Incident Or A Half-Truth That Might Be Forgiven And
Forgotten, But Often It's A Sign Of Trouble. A Person's Need To Lie Is
A Telling Clue About His Character And Emotional Health. It May
Indicate Serious Insecurity, Lack Of Integrity, Or Flimsy Moral
Standards. And If Dishonesty Shows Up While Dating, It's Likely To
Only Get Worse During Marriage. Here's A Sobering Fact Of Life: If
Your Partner Is Willing To Lie To You Once, He Or She Is Likely To Do
It Again.

5¤ FAIRY TALE FANTASIES:

Unrealistic Expectations Serve As Treacherous Sinkholes On The Road To
Lasting Love. When A Woman Describes Her Man As "My Perfect Prince
Charming" And A Man Thinks She Is"A goddess Who Can Do No Wrong," They
Are Destined To Fall Back Down To Earth With A Nasty Crash. There's
Nothing Wrong With Believing The Best About Each Other, Admiring Your
Partner's Positive Qualities, And Nurturing Dreams Of A Bright Future
Together. But In A Healthy Dating Relationship, The Individuals
Acknowledge That Nobody Is Perfect And There Will Surely Be Problems
To Address. Every Relationship Will Require Hard Work And
Perseverance.

In The Early Days Of An Exciting New Romance, It Is Tempting To See
The World Through Rose-Coloured Glasses. But To Make The Partnership
Last, Take Them Off, And Be Alert To Warnings Of Trouble While It May
Still Be Avoided.

HOW SEX CAN CURE MIGRAINE HEADACHES

When You're Crippled With A Splitting Headache, The Last Thing You're
Probably In The Mood For Is Sex.

But German Researchers Believe It Could Be A Simple Painkiller For A
Lot Of Migraine Sufferers.

More Than 50 Percent Of Migraine Sufferers In A Study Who Had Had Sex
During A Migraine Reported An Improvement In Symptoms, And As Many As
One In Five Said It Stopped The Pain Completely.

The Researchers Believe That The Solution Could Be Thanks To The
Release Of Endorphins From Sex, Which Work As Natural Painkillers In
The Body.

"SEX Can Abort Migraine And Cluster Headache Attacks, And Sexual
Activity Is Used By Some Patients As Acute Headache Treatment," The
University Of Munster Researchers Said.

"Our Results Shows That Sexual Activity During A Migraine Attack Might
Relieve Or Even Stop An Attack In Some Cases, And That Sexual Activity
In The Presence Of Headache Is Not An Unusual Behaviour."

The Team Of Neurologists Studied The Survey Responses Of More Than 300
Migraine Sufferers And 96 People Who Suffered Cluster- Or
One-Sided-Headaches.

They Questioned Them About Their Sexual Experiences During Headaches
And How It Affected Their Pain.

More Than A Third Of The Migraine Patients Had Had Sex During An
Attack, And Of Those, Almost Two Thirds Reported An Improvement In
Their Condition. The Other Third Reported Their Migraine Had Worsened.

Of Those Suffering Cluster Headaches, A Third Had Experimented With
SEX During An Attack, And 37 Percent Of That Group Reported Their
Condition Had Improved, While 50 Percent Said Their Condition Had
Worsened.

"In Total, 42.7 Percent Of All Migraine Patients Experienced At Least
50 Percent Relief- A Response Rate As High As In Studies On Acute
Medication," The Researchers Wrote.

"Some Patients, In Particular Male Migraine Patients, Even Used Sexual
Activity As A Therapeutic Tool."

Dean Watson, A Muscular Skeletal Physiotherapist And Director Of The
Watson Headache Clinic, Told GREATMINDZ That Insufficient Serotonin
Levels Can Cause Sensitivity In The Brain Stem, Which Leads To
Migraines.

"We Know That Pleasure Is Going To Increase The Levels Of Serotonin
And Therefore It's Going To Desensitise The Brain Stem," He Said.

"Triptans- The Migraine Medication- Work By Desensitising The Brain Stem.

Serotonin Does The Same Thing, So I'm Not Surprised By The Results Of
This Study."

Watson Said Exercise And Getting Plenty Of Sunlight Can Also Boost
Serotonin Levels.

"This Deals With The Symptoms, But The Reason For The Sensitisation In
The First Place Is Going To Be Typically Disorders Of The Neck," He
Said.

WHAT MAKES A REAL MAN

There Have Been Many Changes In The Roles Of The Sexes Over The Past
Years. As A Result, The Expectation Of Men And The Standard We Are
Held To Has Morphed A Little. But One Thing Is For Sure: There Are
Certain Traits That Define Masculinity That Most Men And Women Agree
Upon.

1¤ A REAL MAN STRIVES TO BE A ROLE MODEL

A Real Man Respects Himself And Others At All Times. If You Begin To
Build A Family, Part Of A Man's Greatest Responsibility Is To Set A
Solid Example For His Children. If You Choose To Let Your Family See
You In A Poor Light (Irresponsible Or Reckless, For Example), You Are
Not Building Yourself Into The Type Of Man They Can Be Proud To Call A
Father And Husband. The Same Applies To The Mum, But The Man Still
Finds Himself Under A Different Level Of Scrutiny Based On Society's
Expectations Of Men. SET The Right Tone And Example.

2¤ A REAL MAN MAKES HIS OWN FORTUNE

A Real Man Doesn't Settle For Handouts Or Charity When It Comes To His
Personal Fortune. A Real Man Isn't Satisfied With Family Money. He
Thanks Lady Luck And Moves On To Decide His Own Destiny. Any Man Who
Inherits Goods From His Late Aunt Or Parents Takes His Inheritance And
Turns It Into 10 Times What It Was.

The Character That You Build From Doing This Is Essential To Growing
As A Man In The Most Traditional Sense. It Doesn't Mean Your Wife Or
Girlfriend Isn't Contributing, And It Doesn't Mean That You Can't Be A
Stay-At-Home Father. It Simply Means That You Are Carving Out Your Own
Space. You Are Truly Independent When You Do This.

3¤ A REAL MAN TAKES CARE OF HIS APPEARANCE

This Is A No- Brainer. One Of The First Things That Anyone Is Going
To Notice About You Is Your Look And Attention To Hygiene. Gone Are
The Days When The I-Am-So-Manly-I-Don't-Care Style Worked. These Days,
Men Are Measured On Their Style. It Doesn't Have To Mean A Suit And
Tie; There's Plenty Of Different Ways A Man Can Dress Well. But It
Needs To Be Clean, Organized And Demonstrative Of Effort. A Man Takes
Pride In His Appearance.

You Are Not Getting Into The Club, Getting The Best Table At The
Restaurant Or Getting Second Glances From Women You're Gawking At If
You Aren't Putting Out There The Fact That You Invest In Yourself.

4¤ A REAL MAN KEEPS HIS HOUSE IN ORDER

Have You Ever Been Inside The Boss's House? There Are No Pizza Boxes
Sitting Around, There Are No Undershirts On The Floor, And There Sure
As Hell Won't Be Any Unpaid Bills Being Used As Beer Coasters. No One
Can Master His Professional Or Personal LifE If He Isn't Already The
Master Of His Own Home.

This Means That Laziness Or "Machismo" Is Not An Excuse To Live Like A
Bottom-Feeder. Keep Your Sty Spotless, Keep Your Documents In Order
And- This Is Key- Take Pride In Where You Live.

5¤ A REAL MAN CAN DEFEND HIMSELF

You Know What's Missing In The World Today? Leaders Who Have Had To
Fight Their Way To The Top. Seriously. Look At The Head Of Any
Business That's Circling The Toilet Bowl, And I'll Show You A BOSS
Whose Parent's Power And Money Kept Him From Ever Learning Things The
Hard Way.

Every Successful Leader Has Been On The Wrong End Of Attack- Be It
With Words Or Be It Whth A Full Assault. But Those Future Captains Got
Up Again And Again, Until They Knew How To Stand Their Ground- And
That Is When You Can Start To Climb The Ladder.

6¤ A REAL MAN'S WORD IS HIS BOND

When A Real Man Makes A Promise, He Keeps It. If He Can't Keep A
Promise, He Doesn't Give His Word. A Man Would Rather Face Severe
Consequences Than Break His Word. Every Man Knows That His Words Are
As Powerful As His Actions, And That They Must Be Taken At Face Value.

7¤ A REAL MAN DOESN'T GOSSIP

Nobody Should Gossip. But A Real Man Trying To Win Respect At Work Or
Among Friends In His Circle Will Not Be Respected If He Develops A
Reputation For Being The Group's Hotline Of Nonsense. The Images Of
The Strong, Silent Type- A La Clint Eastwood- Still Resonate Today...
Because Gossip Is For People With Nothing Better To Do.

8¤ A REAL MAN KNOWS THE IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY

If You Made The Decision To Build A Family, Then You Need To Equip
Yourself To Take Care Of Them. Nobody Respects The DeadbeatDad Or The
Absentee Father Who Pops In For Birthday Parties And Makes Casual
Appearances At Big Events. These Days, Men Need To Participate In
Family Life. There Are So Many Things Waiting Out There To Undo ThE
Work You Have Done To Raise Your Children Properly, And Part Of Being
A Father Or Man Is Stepping Up And Keeping The Monsters At Bay.

9¤ A REAL MAN IS FOCUSED

We're All Distracted, And The Distractions Keep Piling Up. It Is Easy
To Lose Focus And Find Ourselves Investing In Things That Are Not
Really Helping Us Build Our Futures Or Take Care Of Our Own. We All
Love To Watch As Much Breaking Bad As Possible, And We All Love
Sticking Around For An Extra Cocktail Or Two. But The Important Thing
Is Always To Have A Clear Direction And Make Sure Nothing Gets In The
Way Of Our Plans. Have That Extra Drink, But Make Sure You Are At Your
Desk Killing It The Next Morning, Or Tending To Whatever Else Needs
Tending.

10¤ A REAL MAN IS STRONG

Don't Complain. We All Have Challenges. Complaining For Complaining's
Sake Is Never Helpful. Challenges Are A Part Of Life. Step In And Step
Up. Strength Means Not Running From Things. Ride Into Them And Own
Them. It's A Quality That Will Get You Further Than You May Have Ever
Imagined.