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If You Have Close, Communicative, Tell-Each-Other-Everything
Relationship With Your Mum, That's Great (And Rare). But, Like It Or
Not, Your Mum Does Come From A Different Generation. She May Have Been
A Teenager When The Condom Was Just Being Popularized. She May Have
Come From A Generation In Which Women Never Asked The Man Out. She May
Have Been A Virgin Until She Was Married. Even If She Was None Of
These Extremes, There Are Certain Things That Always Worry A Mum When
She Hears Them About Her Daughter. So Don't Tell Her About Any Of
These•••
#1• FIGHTS THAT JUST HAPPENED
You Know You're Always More Upset When A Fight Has Just Happened. This
Applies To All Types Of Relationships. You Might Say Things Like "That
Is It. I Am Leaving Him" When In Reality, You're Over It Within A Day.
Don't Call Up Your Mum Right After Fighting With Your Guy. You Will
Most Likely Blow Things Out Of Proportion Simply Because You Want Some
Sympathy At That Moment, But Your Mum Is Going To Think Your
Relationship Has More Problems Than It Really Does•
#2• CURABLE STD'S
You Try To Be Safe. You Use Condoms 98% Of The Time. And, In A Day And
Age When Many Women Have Multiple Sexual Partners In A Month, You
Deserve A Gold Star! But...uh... You Contracted A Curable STD From One
Of Those 2% Moments. Your Mum Probably Didn't Have Sex Nearly As Much
As You Are, So If You Tell Her About Sex!" When In Reality, You're
Pretty Responsible. Not To Mention There Are Plenty Of STD'S That Can
Be Contracted Even If You Do Use A Condom. Instead Of Trying To Use
The Awkward Save Of "But Mum, I Used A Condom With The Other Three
Guys I Slept With This Month!" - Just Go Get Your Meds, Clear It Up,
And Don't Bring It UP•
#3• FIGHTS THAT HAPPEN CONTINUOUSLY:
If There Is An Issue That You And Your Man Constantly Fight About,
Your Mum Doesn't Need To Hear About It For Two Reasons:
A• It's Annoying In General To Listen To Anyone Complain About The
Same Thing Over And Over Again. AND
B• If You And Your Guy Are Fighting Continuously About The Same Thing,
And Your Mum Knows That, She Is Going To Think You Should End Things!
So It's An Issue You've Decided To Live With, Don't Bring It Up And
Just Live With It•
#4• HIS ACCEPTABLE FLAWS:
HE Is Always Late. He Is Socially Awkward. He Isn't Making Enough
Money. What It May Be, These Flaws Mean Different Things To Different
People. They May Not Make The Slightest Difference In The Way YOU Feel
About Him, And That's All That Matters-The Way Yot Feel About Him. But
To An Outsider, These Flaws May Seem Like Deal Breakers. If They Don't
Really Bother You, Don't Bring Them Up-Especially Not To Mum•
#5• HIS SINGLE LIFE:
Everyone Is A Little Wilder When Single. Almost Everyone. You Don't
Need To Tell Your Mum Crazy Stories Of Your Boyfriend's Life From When
He Was Single. She Doesn't Need To Know What Huge Player He Was. Or Go
To. He Doesn't Do Those Things Now. You Know He Has Changed. But Your
Mum Might Think He Hasn't And Judge Him Unfairly•
#6• WHO PAYS:
Your Mum Might Have Come From A Time When The Man AlwayS
Paid-Non-Negotiable. But Your Guy Might Be Going Through Some Tough
Financial Times. You Know He Will Pull Through, You Know He Is Not
Using You, And You Are Just Happy To Spend Time With Him No Matter Who
Is Footing The Bill. And You Know What? You Might Hold The Opinion
That The Two Of You Should Split Expenses. And That's Fine. It Just
Might Not Be With Your MUM•
#7• ANYTHING AT ALL ABOUT A NEW GUY:
Women Did Not Date As Much 2 To 4 Decades Ago As They Do Today. They
Just Didn't. So, For Many Mums, When They Hear Their Daughter So Much
As Mention The Existence Of A Guy In Her Life, They Think Its
Serious. Even If You Just Had An Amazing Third Date With A Guy, Don't
Rush To Call Your Mum And Gloat About It. The Fact That You Made That
Call To Her Will Lead Her To Call You Every Week To See How It's
Going With That One Guy, When, Little Does She Know, You're Dating
Three Guys. It Might Take You More Time To Find Mr. Right Than It Took
Her To Find Your Dad. She Won't Get That, And Will Try To Make Every
Potential Husband "The One." Spare Yourself And Your Mum The Stress By
Keeping Secrets Like These To Yourself•
